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Frozen party complaint -AIBU?

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KatsMother28 · 01/12/2014 13:09

Apologies in advance - this is gonna be a long one but not wanting to drip feed I'm going to put it all out there and let you decide.

After taking dd (almost 3) to a recent party thrown by our local SureStart she now refuses to watch Frozen - which she previously loved, due to the fact that she now "doesn't like Anna or Elsa".

In brief the reasons for this are -

When we first arrived Anna was inviting children to dance but despite being one of the first there and my daughter following her around the entire room she was ignored until every other child (in Elsa costumes) had said no before the performer even acknowledged her.

Dd insisted on going dressed as Sven (the reindeer) but was referred to by Elsa as Rudolf more than once - (you're frozen entertainers ffs! Know your subject!!)

Halfway through the party dd came off the dance floor to sit on some steps with her head in her hands - investigating why it appeared that "The big girl (Anna) won't hold my hand". She had again been following the performer to interact with her but was once again ignored.

Whilst I appreciate it was a very busy party there was surely a better ways of dealing with an over enthusiastic 'fan' than just to ignore them, especially when the child is a toddler who doesn't understand that this isn't 'the' Anna and Elsa?

I am now left with a toddler who screams the house down at the merest suggestion anything to do with Frozen including her friends' birthday parties which are obviously popular at the moment.

As an aside to all this the choice of music (beside the little Disney they played) was not appropriate for a toddlers party - being top 40 hits better suited to a teen disco. This was interspersed with random banal comments from the Elsa performer who constantly interrupted the few tracks that were suitable, randomly changing music halfway between tracks. It was also played at such a volume that it could be heard from the bottom of the car park.

The only reason I didn't address this with them in person on the day was because my daughter couldn't be induced to go anywhere near the performers by the end of the party.

I have found them on FB and sent them a message saying all this but the only response I got was to apologise for the experience but then dispute everything I said.

AIBU to post a complaint as a review on their FB page and am I being over sensitive parent with pfb syndrome or should I do it to try and give as honest a review as I can from my experience?

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Tykeisagirl · 01/12/2014 21:29

If you were feeling particularly vindictive you could contact Disney and complain to them re this woman's behaviour. Of course it's got nothing to do with them, but I can't imagine that this company actually paid for the rights to use Frozen names and images, and Disney protects its copyrights like a dragon protects its gold hoard...

Or as others have said, let it go.

LadyCybilCrawley · 01/12/2014 22:13

forgive me, I was bored .....

The music blares loud at the party today
The Frozen hostess looks bored.
A party of isolation,
and my PFB is being ignored.
My anger is howling like this swirling storm inside
Couldn't keep it in;
Heaven knows I've tried

Don't let them know,
don't let them see
Be the perfect mum you always have to be
Conceal, don't feel,
don't let them know

Well now they know

Let it go, let it go
Can't hold it back and fret
Let it go, let it go
Go home and post on Mumsnet
I don't care
what they're going to say
Let the storm rage on.
AIBU never bothered me anyway

apotatoprintinapeartree · 01/12/2014 22:19

OP, this sounds very unprofessional and would never have happened on my watch.
Yes, you should complain, too few people do.
If they are pro performers they should act like it and I agree with the OP.
I would have been mortified to have this thrown at me and I would have expected to learn from my mistake.
Nowt like old school though.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 01/12/2014 23:05

Well I was upset at the time obviously but more about the pens than the swearing. I grew up in a very sweary household. To be fair most adults found it hilarious when told and as my mum isn't particularly maternal I was told to stop whining about it. If she'd have contacted mcdonalds to complain on behalf of her traumatised child (let's be honest ops experience pales in comparison to my character based childhood woe) I'd have thought she had taken leave of her senses. :o

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 01/12/2014 23:07

AIBU never bothered me anyway. :o

Sighs. If only.

IamGrimalkin · 01/12/2014 23:18

That's brilliant lady Grin

Bulbasaur · 02/12/2014 02:35

Your daughter hates Frozen? Consider yourself lucky.

As someone that worked with children, with a bunch trying to get my attention at the same time, it is hard to respond to each and every one. I felt terrible about the girl that waited her turn patiently and quietly while everyone else barged ahead. I didn't even notice until her parents pointed out that everyone was cutting her.

At a party like that, there's just too much going on to take every single thing in. Your child probably blended in with every single other child pining for attention.

my2centsis · 02/12/2014 02:58

Your dd screams at the mere thought of frozen because 'elsa' wouldn't her hand?? Fgs talk about precious. It was a party with a lot of children who probably tbh they wouldn't have even rememberd if they had already danced with your ds or not. Let it go

DoubleValiumLattePlease · 02/12/2014 08:46

YourMa - I feel as though I probably shouldn't be coughing up bits of my innards laughing at 'PISS OFF' from Ronald McDonald but I'm afraid that's exactly what I'm doing! Brilliant post!

TattyDevine · 02/12/2014 08:57

Crying with laughter at "headless Max" from Tweenies.

PMSL Grin

KatsMother28 · 02/12/2014 22:06

Yeah alright I'll stop being a twSmilet about it. Cheers

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