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Frozen party complaint -AIBU?

86 replies

KatsMother28 · 01/12/2014 13:09

Apologies in advance - this is gonna be a long one but not wanting to drip feed I'm going to put it all out there and let you decide.

After taking dd (almost 3) to a recent party thrown by our local SureStart she now refuses to watch Frozen - which she previously loved, due to the fact that she now "doesn't like Anna or Elsa".

In brief the reasons for this are -

When we first arrived Anna was inviting children to dance but despite being one of the first there and my daughter following her around the entire room she was ignored until every other child (in Elsa costumes) had said no before the performer even acknowledged her.

Dd insisted on going dressed as Sven (the reindeer) but was referred to by Elsa as Rudolf more than once - (you're frozen entertainers ffs! Know your subject!!)

Halfway through the party dd came off the dance floor to sit on some steps with her head in her hands - investigating why it appeared that "The big girl (Anna) won't hold my hand". She had again been following the performer to interact with her but was once again ignored.

Whilst I appreciate it was a very busy party there was surely a better ways of dealing with an over enthusiastic 'fan' than just to ignore them, especially when the child is a toddler who doesn't understand that this isn't 'the' Anna and Elsa?

I am now left with a toddler who screams the house down at the merest suggestion anything to do with Frozen including her friends' birthday parties which are obviously popular at the moment.

As an aside to all this the choice of music (beside the little Disney they played) was not appropriate for a toddlers party - being top 40 hits better suited to a teen disco. This was interspersed with random banal comments from the Elsa performer who constantly interrupted the few tracks that were suitable, randomly changing music halfway between tracks. It was also played at such a volume that it could be heard from the bottom of the car park.

The only reason I didn't address this with them in person on the day was because my daughter couldn't be induced to go anywhere near the performers by the end of the party.

I have found them on FB and sent them a message saying all this but the only response I got was to apologise for the experience but then dispute everything I said.

AIBU to post a complaint as a review on their FB page and am I being over sensitive parent with pfb syndrome or should I do it to try and give as honest a review as I can from my experience?

OP posts:
Nelehwelly · 01/12/2014 19:41

Is she really screaming at the mere mention of Frozen? I mean, the entertainers were possibly rude/inept, but they weren't the Child Catcher from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

Screaming at the mere mention of anything related to the film sounds kind of concerning.
In what sort of terms have you discussed the disappointment of the party and the performers with her? Does she know they weren't really Anna and Elsa?

indigo18 · 01/12/2014 19:44

I think i would be thrilled to see the back of Frozen; can't stand the Disney crap myself. See if you can find a copy of The Angel and The Soldier Boy, much nicer!

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 01/12/2014 20:20

At the age of 6 my mum took me to a free party at the opening of a new McDonald's. Ronald (I've since discovered NOT the real one - gutted) pulled me up on the platform to do a trick. For my efforts he gave me a colouring book. Happy enough I settled back down to boo at McBurgler. McBurglers "victim" got a colouring book AND a big fuck off massive pack of colouring pens. Well that was it. No one hamstrings me. I marched over to Ronald but he completely blanked me. All subsequent trick helpers and victims got both goodies. This wasn't happening. I followed Ronald around and kept tapping him on his arm and back. I thought I mustn't be loud or tapping him hard enough so increased my campaign of annoyance. Eventually he looked at me, looked around and screamed PISS. OFF! in my face. I was devastated but managed to squeak "but I didn't get any felt tips..." and promptly burst into loud noisy tears. :o

My mum would have been pleased had I developed a fear of maccy d's.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 01/12/2014 20:22

Oh and I didn't get the colouring pens.

FreeSpirit89 · 01/12/2014 20:22

YABU and a little bit precious IMO.

You'd complained, they have apologised.

What were you hoping for op?

StickyProblem · 01/12/2014 20:29

That's shocking YourMa you should sue MaccyD's now!

SolomanDaisy · 01/12/2014 20:36

My DS won't watch anything described as a film after freaking out at the large number of dancing penguins at the start of Happy Feet. I'm not really sure who to complain to. Or why.

woodychip · 01/12/2014 20:40

Why on earth do you want her to like it?!! What an odd attitude. It's not as if they have out off food...you know...something important!
This is one of the most ridiculous complaints I have ever heard in my life!
You sound ridiculous!

woodychip · 01/12/2014 20:41

Put her off, even!

Lindy2 · 01/12/2014 20:43

I'm a volunteer helper at out Surestart. Based there were NO funds in the very squeezed budget for a Christmas party this year. It is though a really popular and well attended "free" event for local children.
Since Easter me and a few other mums have, given many hours of our time for meetings to sort action plans, baked vast amounts of cakes (at our own expense) to sell at other events, sat in chilly church halls selling donated second hand baby clothes, scrounged donations from any source possible. These efforts plus that of the staff mean that next week 50 children will have a party to go to.
A mum who runs a party entertainment group is providing some entertainment at a very reduced cost. She is giving her time for free we just have to pay her helpers. Some of the entertainment will be Frozen as frankly most of the kids will love it.
I help because my children love the things Surestart do and I think it is an important resource for families.
If after all that effort some people were then to complain about the fact it is Frozen\their child didn't get enough attention\they wanted this and that blah blah blah, I would be really disappointed.
Rather than complaining why not next year give your time to help out. If you have good ideas and think you can do it better then do so.

BlueberryWafer · 01/12/2014 20:46

Slightly extreme that she now screams at anything frozen related because the woman dressed as Anna/Elsa wouldn't hold her hand... Tell her it was a woman dressed up and not the real deal. Tbh you sound very ungrateful for what sounded like a great party with a lot of effort put into it!

Starlightbright1 · 01/12/2014 20:49

Well said lindy

What are you hoping for. They have appologised...AS you didn't pay what is it you want?

VitoCorleone · 01/12/2014 20:51

Screaming at the mention of Frozen? I hope she gets told off for that

Trumpity · 01/12/2014 20:52

YourMa ... That made me really sad for you!

SolomanDaisy · 01/12/2014 20:54

Yeah, telling her off is bound to stop a three year-old's irrational tantrums.

VitoCorleone · 01/12/2014 20:54

Shock at being told to "piss off" by Ronald McDonald but at the same time cant stop laughing, sorry YourMa its just the way you described it

crumblebumblebee · 01/12/2014 20:55

"Slightly extreme that she now screams at anything frozen related because the woman dressed as Anna/Elsa wouldn't hold her hand."

Mmm I agree and if I were you, I'd be more focused on nipping that behaviour in the bud than worrying about complaining (again!).

VitoCorleone · 01/12/2014 20:56

Oh well let her carry on screaming every time frozen is mentioned then Hmm

FiftyShadesofScreeeeeeeam · 01/12/2014 20:57

You can sort this out, OP. It's just a bit of a fixer upper.

AmysTiara · 01/12/2014 21:00

Yourma I actually feel really sad for you now Blush

Neverbuyheliumbalonz · 01/12/2014 21:02

Round of applause for Lindy2

OP - YABU

Neverbuyheliumbalonz · 01/12/2014 21:08

I dont think i ever met Ronald McDonald in the flesh, but him telling YourMa to piss off has confirmed everything I ever thought about him - he always did look like he would be a bit of a cunt.

seagull70 · 01/12/2014 21:10

Are Frozen parties still a thing then?

I took my niece to one a few months back and 'Elsa' had tattoos, HD eyebrows, French tips and reeked of fags.

I think that this lady has done you a huge favour OP and you need to tell your DD to buck her ideas up

burgatroyd · 01/12/2014 21:11

It seems like you're upset she's gone off frozen!

I think they've done you a favour.

Only1scoop · 01/12/2014 21:14

'Screaming at the mention of Frozen'

All sounds a bit far fetched....

Yabu and sound really intense about the whole silly situation