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Original poster

to feel this parent now teacher at ds's school

73 replies

winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:20

should not be able to see my ds's exam results before me?

Or because she's now a teacher there, I should accept that she should have access?

Her ds is in the same classes as my ds.

She now has a job as a part time language teacher at the school.

All the children in Year 5 have just had exams. She has told another mother all the kids in that set have done badly in maths.

The reason they have had this conversation is because there are concerns about the maths teacher amongst the parents.

I'm just irritated that this parent knows my ds's exam results before I do, not least because it's not good news.

Aibu?

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Original poster
winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:21

Her ds and my ds are in the same maths set at school.

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Purpleflamingos · 30/11/2014 08:24

I don't think its professional of teachers to share the results of other students to parents, whether there is a vested interest or not.

Also, I'm confused. Year 5 is primary and there are no seperate teachers for maths, languages, etc here. They have one teacher.

marcopront · 30/11/2014 08:25

As someone who is a teacher at the school where my daughter although in a different section, I would say yes she should be able to see them, but she shouldn't comment on them.

Hakluyt · 30/11/2014 08:25

The problem is not her seeing it, the problem is her broadcasting the information.

campingfilth · 30/11/2014 08:25

I don't think she should have access to exam results and she certainly should not be spreading that news around. I am only a helper for a couple of hours a week and even I have been told that I am not allowed to discuss the children with other parents.

Its supposed to be confidential isn't it? So if those exam results have not been given to parents then she has broken confidentiality. If however, the other parents have said to her that their kids have all done badly in the exam then its just chatter isn't it.

marnia68 · 30/11/2014 08:25

She should be able to see the results, but she certainly shouldn't be discussing it with other parents!!!
Are you actually sure she did though and it's not just someone shit stirring?

campingfilth · 30/11/2014 08:25

AS in exam results that aren't in her subject.

marnia68 · 30/11/2014 08:27

Oh sorry I misread.She made a comment generally that the set had done badly to another parent.I don't think that is a breach of confidentiality really

Littleturkish · 30/11/2014 08:27

I'm not even sure that as a part time teacher of languages she had any particular reason to know, and she DEFINITELY cannot share that information around.

Sorry, but I would pass your concerns on. I would not be happy.

LuckyLopez · 30/11/2014 08:29

Also, I'm confused. Year 5 is primary and there are no seperate teachers for maths, languages, etc here. They have one teacher.

I really find it odd when people assume every school is the same across the country/ies. Some areas don't even have primary schools!

Mostlyjustaluker · 30/11/2014 08:30

I am a teacher. I would say it fine for teachers to dicuss classes and results with other teaches. We do it as a way to bounce ideas of each other and especially if we teach the same class and want to try out a range of strategies with one class to see what works for them.

The issue like hakluyt says it sharing that information outside of school. As a teacher and parent she needs to keep those two roles separate. As a teacher she knows the right and wrong ways to deal with a concern about a class her child is in and she has chosen the wrong way.

Mehitabel6 · 30/11/2014 08:31

She should see them. She shouldn't discuss.
( if she didn't discuss you would not know whether she had seen them or not)

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winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:32

That's right Lucky. They have different teachers for all subjects.

She is a language teacher not a maths teacher.

Why should she know what my ds is doing in maths? He doesn't even have her for any classes. She teaches year 6 and 7.

I guess she didn't specifically talk about ds but the whole set.

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diddl · 30/11/2014 08:35

Might she just be repeating what she has been told?

Still not right, but she doesn't necessarily know all the individual results?

honeysucklejasmine · 30/11/2014 08:37

She will be able to see all results, yes.

Did she say a vague "results were quite poor" or "OPs DC did badly"? I think these a quite different. Not that she should say either really.

honeysucklejasmine · 30/11/2014 08:38

X post. Slightly less awful, but still something that should only be said, if at all, after results are published.

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winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:39

That's right Lucky. They have different teachers for all subjects.

She is a language teacher not a maths teacher.

Why should she know what my ds is doing in maths? He doesn't even have her for any classes. She teaches year 6 and 7.

I guess she didn't specifically talk about ds but the whole set.

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listed · 30/11/2014 08:40

It's extremely unprofessional of her to be sharing that information with parents.

I would complain.

That's the reason my school won't employ parents in any capacity.

Original poster
winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:40

Sorry. Repeat post.

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winkywinkola · 30/11/2014 08:43

But I still don't see why a language teacher of other years should be privy to the results of children in a completely different subject?

Especially if that teacher is also a parent.

Her text was that each child bar two have done badly in the exam.

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Icimoi · 30/11/2014 08:46

I don't really see the problem with teachers knowing the results in subjects they don't teach, to be honest. That has presumably been the situation all the time your child has been in that school, and you are only objecting because this one happens to be a parent - which is illogical. Broadcasting the results prematurely is another matter.

listed · 30/11/2014 08:48

All the teachers will have access to all the exam results. Ours are all on the computer system, I'm just not interested enough to look at any except those directly relevant to me.

The problem is the breach of confidentiality

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 30/11/2014 08:49

It's a little difficult to see where fault lays as you are reporting a conversation about a conversation. So what exactly was said is very unclear.

You sound over sensitive about a parent becoming a teacher and you need to be aware that data is shared between teachers generally.

However, if she is talking about specific results of students to other parents, that would be wrong and very unprofessional.

LIZS · 30/11/2014 08:52

It may be that's he was given her dc result and asked for some context . She may not have seen the individual scores. You have to accept she may be privy to inside knowledge now (ie. if a teacher is going on ml , or who has passed 11+) but she should not be discussing this outside the staffroom.

GokTwo · 30/11/2014 08:53

She is being very unprofessional to share this information. I have a TA whose Dd is in our class (her DS is further up the school). She never shares info about the class with anyone at all. Of course she does see results etc, that's part of her job, but she's never broadcast them.

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