to feel this parent now teacher at ds's school

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should not be able to see my ds's exam results before me?

Or because she's now a teacher there, I should accept that she should have access?

Her ds is in the same classes as my ds.

She now has a job as a part time language teacher at the school.

All the children in Year 5 have just had exams. She has told another mother all the kids in that set have done badly in maths.

The reason they have had this conversation is because there are concerns about the maths teacher amongst the parents.

I'm just irritated that this parent knows my ds's exam results before I do, not least because it's not good news.

Aibu?

"Nothing to do with the fact that she is a teacher at the school bothers me except that because she is also a parent at the school, she now needs to be extra careful about what she discusses with parents with whom she is friends."

Really? So you're not bothered about her knowing your son's exam results before you do- or, indeed, knowing the results of any exams except those in her subject? In that case, your original post could have been clearer.....

I'm not sure why she needs to know my son's maths results when she teaches Spanish as an option for years 6, 7 and 8 and he simply will never be taught by her and therefore she won't have any input to his education.

But I certainly think as a teacher she should not be telling other parents the results.

Because she is a teacher in the school. There will be whole school planning, and staff meetings where that planning is discussed. It would be bonkers if teachers kept on having to go in and out of the room depending on what subject was being talked about.

I do think she should be very careful what she says to who, though.

She knows the whole school results because she's involved in whole school overview and planning. That's been explained.
Her sharing of information is a separate issue.

But does she know your son's maths results, or just that that particular set have underperformed?

What exams do they do in year 5?! Or do you just mean a test?

Wow- that is very unprofessional of her. Of course she will have access to all sorts of info, but to discuss in in a non professional capacity is

Performance in core subjects may dictate who is offered which options next year. I doubt she knows any more than her child's score and the average for the set tbh, which is what will appear in your report.

This is obviously a private school.

Teachers can all access test and other results usually, doesn't matter which subject. Its the way the computerised information systems work. If you are a language teacher you usually wouldn't be interested in Maths results, unless there was something odd in the results one child go in some subjects.

However if you are a parent you might be tempted to look at your own child's results.

Discussing this information with other parents is unprofessional.

Performance in core subjects may dictate who is offered which options next year.

What options are ten year olds offered?

At a private school Latin possibly Greek , Spanish(as per this parent/teacher issue) and other MFL, art, DT, textiles, music, drama etc. But for those struggling with core subjects it may be that extra time is planned for those limiting other choices.

But she may just have made a very general comment to a parent who has been in to school to see her about her child's progress in maths.
she then made a very general comment along the lines 'this years top/bottom/whatever set haven't scored as well as last years.

YANBU.

I was recently taken aback by a Mother who's child is in the same year 2 class as mine commenting to me about my DD's reading.

This woman VOLUNTEERS as a helper with reading and she felt it appropriate to talk to me in the playground about my DDs progress!

I brushed her off. It's not her place and I never asked.

Roll I assume OP's child is at private school or a school in another country.

Or in a middle school? Somewhere with 11+ still going?

Claw, how dreadful that a woman who gives up her time to help your child learn to read should take an interest in it.

YANBU

State or private, the rules about confidentiality would be the same and they cover everyone - from a parent helping with readers, to a TA and so on.

Schools I'm involved with would give the teacher v short shrift for discussing exam results in that way, even if in a throwaway comment.

I think you are going to have to accept the fact that teachers are, rightly so, privy to a great deal of data about the pupils within the school they teach in.

I think you also need to clarify exactly what was said to your friend. Will you be following it up and, if so, how?

marnia68 Sun 30-Nov-14 10:59:31
But she may just have made a very general comment to a parent who has been in to school to see her about her child's progress in maths.
she then made a very general comment along the lines 'this years top/bottom/whatever set haven't scored as well as last years.

It's still not acceptable, as the parents of this class have not yet been any information or scores for the maths.

Also, as a pp said, she apparently passed the information as some parents have concerns about the maths teacher. Again, very unprofessional, that maths teacher would be entitled to raise a grievance.

This parent/teacher needs to be given more guidance on maintaining professional boundaries.

Do you definitely know she didn't say no one had done very well to allay your friends fears that their child hadn't done well.

This sounds very much like a case of Chinese whispers and people taking things it of context.

Icimoi yes...all very noble of her and everything but she should learn the art of discretion. My DD's developmental progress is NOT fodder for playground gossip.

We were in a social situation...NOT a parent's and teacher's discussion ffs.

It's just not professional - especially if she is divulging the rfeults of a subject that she has no involvement in.

Madamecastafiore
Do you definitely know she didn't say no one had done very well to allay your friends fears that their child hadn't done well.

This sounds very much like a case of Chinese whispers and people taking things it of context.

Whatever the reason for saying something, it was unprofessional in the first place to say anything at all. Far better all round to say nothing, and if that parent did have some worries, to advise the parent to go in and talk about it properly with the actual subject teachers, etc.