about my son's christmas list?

[naughtylist]

He is 6, very immature for his age, having trouble with his learning and is being left behind a little at school as the other boys are playing football, playing computer games, lego and so on.

Looked at his list and there's lots of cuddly toys on there. There's other stuff too like a robot dinosaur and play doh etc. DH says not to get the cuddly toys for his own sake. I have agreed but now feeling awful. He really wants them and I keep thinking of the penguin John Lewis advert. Should I get them for him?

Dd1 still takes Spot the dog to bed. Aka "Bob" from when she couldn't say "spot"
Dd1 is 24.
Dd2 still has blankie. It is a tattered, disgusting rag and goes where she goes. She is 21.
Dc3 has beany tiger who sleeps in his bed. He is getting a cuddly Minecraft creeper for Christmas. He is 12.
I want a cuddly Minion for Christmas. I am 50.
Buy your baby some cuddlies.

Oh yes yes build a bear! A boy in DS1 class had a build a bear party for a 7th birthday party boys and girls went.

I understand why you are second guessing it. It's about not wanting to create a vulnerability in your child amongst their peers. But honestly, your son knows what he wants, and you don't have a problem with it, you are worried his peers will have a problem with it. Let him enjoy Animal and Kermit. You can always get him something encouraging 'older interests' as well or later. I think you'll regret it if you push him to reject 'childish' things. He will in time of his own accord and it will still feel too soon.

Woulfnt hurt to get him one

I'm sorry but I really don't understand why you wouldn't get them for him. Will you get him a football and some computer games in the hope that he likes them an becomes more like the other boys? He sounds lovely as he is.

Naughty., you really need to think about that. Please let him be who he wants to be and like what he likes. Society is lining up to assign roles to our children based on their genitalia, they don't need it at home too.

Animal is awesome though. What's not to like. But then I do have quiet a few animal things - mug, furry backpack, boyshorts, and of course a stuffed version. Also enjoy playing with play doh as well.
You are never too old for things. You are never the wrong gender for things. Instead you are an individual who has their own likes and dislikes.

I have two sons age 14 and 11

They both have teddies in their beds, the 11 year old has about six on his bed!!!

Surely Christmas presents are about making the recipient happy, not making them 'better'? Your dh thinks somehow not giving your ds the cuddly toys will make him catch up who where he 'ought' to be, will 'improve' him in some way - and I am sure he wants the best for his son - that's not a bad thing - but I don't think just giving him the educational toys is going the right way about it.

Can't your ds get a mix of things from his list - some educational toys and some cuddlies?

He's only 6! Why did your DH say not to get him one for his 'sake'? It seems you are trying to get him to grow up and change into someone else.

Get him what he wants. My DS who has SN got a cuddly plane you at the Christmas fair when he was 5. 5 years later he will not leave the house without it in case the house burns down when we are out. He leaves it in the car, but carries it everywhere in the house.
None of his friends comment.

Be grateful he isn't asking for £100 expensive lego sets this year!

The best gift I ever got from DH was a cuddly Waldorf and Stadler because I love the Muppets. DS has a teddy (Fred the Ted) that was bought for him when he was 8, and it's the only thing that DD isn't allowed to touch. I don't think that there is anything wrong with letting your child chose something that is age appropriate and it's sad when parents (inadvertently) push the child into older interests before they are ready or willing.

demented my DS is getting the soft creeper too!

I don't get why it matters if it's Kermit or Animal??? Why does it matter? He's 6!!

My 6 year old is fast asleep upstairs in batman pyjamas right now and, gasp, she's a girl.

My DS is 10, and has a bedful of beloved cuddlies, as well as an ancient muslin cloth from his baby days. None of his friends have ever teased him about it - turns out they all have their own cuddlies, not that they'd ever admit it in the playground as big year 6s!

There'll be time enough for growing up - I'd get your little lad what he's asked for.

But Muppets aren't your normal 'cuddly' toy (Animal would be livid to be called cuddly). It's not like he's asked for a Twilight Sparkle little pony. Which would be equally fine, by the way- but Muppets are not 'baby' cuddlies, iyswim?
Muppets are cool.
Probably not explaining myself very well

I saw them in the Disney shop- dh dragged me away.

It really saddens me that people would think 6 is too old for a cuddly toy.
Like others have said, would this be a problem if a girl was asking for one.

Yes HennaFlare, you have just articulated what I was struggling to convey.

Thanks to everyone. I think he will be getting Kermit and Animal after all.

Yes it's ok to buy him Kermit and Animal....it would be ok to buy him a pink fluffy teddy bear if that was what he wanted.please don't encourage him onto older pursuits and gender stereotype him... Just make a small child happy!

What?!?!

Umm, I am really confused.... He is a small child. Cuddly toys are for small children (and for big children and adults too !!)

Dont of your Waldorf and Stadler

How do know/or why do you think.....
That the other boys in his class would not be getting cuddly toys too? Think you will find that will be a cuddly toy in there stocking too.

My 6 year old loves lego and minecraft and football cards BUT he also loves his cuddly toys. Why wouldn't he? He's 6! His 9 year old brother still has an entire menagerie on his bed too. I'm pretty sure there's never been any negative comments from any mates who've been round.

Op your ds is only 6, a small child still, not 16! Nothing wrong with his list, get him them, in a few years he will be into more grown up things. By the way my neighbours 11 year old ds loves cuddley toys and he has many at home, no sn.

Yay! Happy Christmas naughtylist's ds!