about my son's christmas list?

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He is 6, very immature for his age, having trouble with his learning and is being left behind a little at school as the other boys are playing football, playing computer games, lego and so on.

Looked at his list and there's lots of cuddly toys on there. There's other stuff too like a robot dinosaur and play doh etc. DH says not to get the cuddly toys for his own sake. I have agreed but now feeling awful. He really wants them and I keep thinking of the penguin John Lewis advert. Should I get them for him?

Why not? They will be kept at home so not something he can be picked on for. he's still wants other toys such as robot dinosaur. I wouldn't worry. My ds is 9 and still loves his cuddley toys and teddys. We buy the teddy making kits now too. He also plays football, plays with cars and Lego and Xbox games. But he can't walk pass a shop with a soft toy in without wanting to buy it. I don't see it as a problem at all. Everybody likes different things.

If he were a girl would you be thinking twice about this?

He's six not sixteen and even if he were, so what? Cuddly toys are suitable for ALL ages depending on personal taste, they don't come attached with a suitable age range IMO. Get him what he wants and what will make him happy.

Surely Christmas is for making your kids feel loved and special (within your means), not for teaching them lessons about growing up. I would get them for him - even if you don't get all, I would get the most important ones for him.

My DS is nearly 6, well ahead with his schoolwork and likes Lego and whatnot, but still loves his cuddly toys. We went to a Christmas fair recently and when told he could choose one thing to get, he asked for a cuddly toy. They are only young for a short time. It'd be far more of a problem if he wanted stuff far ahead of his age, in my view.

Get a mixture of cuddly toys and other toys. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, a mixture is good

Would you be asking this if he was a girl? What are you both worried about?

My 10 yr old still has a cuddly in bed every night and every friend who has been here on a sleep over brings theirs too .

Six seems a perfect age to me to still be getting new cuddlies .

DS is 7 and 8 months. He has asked for a gosling and goose soft toys for Xmas. His fav cuddly toy is a cygnet - he adores it and takes it everywhere (but hides it from hugs friends). He is an energetic, boyish boy who is a very good footballer and has lots of other interests - but he's also my baby. He loves his cuddly toys, so I'm happy to buy them for him.

I think you should do the same for your DS if he still wants them! He's still only little.

I just bought my seven year old boy yet another cuddly monkey because he asks for one every Christmas and birthday. And he loves them

My 21 & 19 year old DD's always have a cuddly toy on they're lists. I'm not joking. Last year my 53 year old sister was over the moon with a retro bendy Rupert the Bear. I still have a cuddly Basil Brush toy that 'sleeps' on my pillow at my head. Get him a cuddly toy, I still have all mine from when I was small as do my children.

Six! He's tiny still. Get him the presents he wants.

Yes, I still sleep with a teddy I was bought when I was 11 (when alone). I'm a 27 year old corporate lawyer now

Ds was like this a couple of years ago - now he's all about football and minecraft.

Get him what he wants they're only little for such a short time.

He is 6,please get him a cuddly toy.

It makes me so sad that anyone thinks 6 is too old for cuddly toys. Yes, you should buy them if that's what he's asking for. My ds is slightly younger at 5, but he's getting play doh and a robot dinosaur. He's also getting some Lego junior.

When my older son was 3 he wanted jewellery and a jewellery box for Christmas. We got him that. Plus a Cinderella outfit. He's outgrown it now (12)! Last year my younger son (4.5) asked Father Christmas for keys - I got them free from a locksmith - he was thrilled and I was too, as I didn't have to spend anything. Get the cuddly toys for you son. I feel sad for him if you don't. Perhaps he will grow up to be a vet.... It's nice to want to play and take care of things. I would feel proud if I were you - he is obviously very loving....

This has made me feel . Please get him some cuddly toys.

My biggest wish when I was 9 was for a big and cuddly grizzly bear teddy that I'd seen in our local department store. I got one and I was so happy; I christened him Grizbo (my grizzly bear I got for Chrimbo - yes, not at all imaginative I know) and, now I'm the grand old age of 36, he's still around. He's at my parents house, on my old bed, and my children, 7 & 3, now play with him.

So what if he's not interested in football or lego, and why is it relevant that you feel he's being left behind at school? He is only 6. Not buying him what he wants won't suddenly make him want to do the things you and DH think he should be doing.

This thread has made me a bit sad. Children are so often pushed to be older than they really are...6 years old is still very young IMO and totally acceptable as an age to play with cuddly toys and play-doh. Heck i'm 30 and I still have cuddly toys!

YABU because it's christmas and if it's what he wants/asked for, feel glad you don't have to fork out for expensive games and electronics this year. No doubt soon he'll want those things, so I'd say embrace your little boy while he is still at this lovely young age. I certainly wouldnt encourage my DS to stop playing with a toy just because his friends might take the piss. So what, if hes happy, they are the ones with the problem

(Proudly played with toy horses/had a mini stables set up until I was 14) :]

"DH says not to get the cuddly toys for his own sake"

I don't even understand what this sentence means. It doesn't compute for me.

I am baffled by the issue with cuddly toys to be honest

he's 6 - he's little - let him have some cuddlies

I've got my 3 DC a cuddly toy for their stockings, the youngest is 16

Oh and my 11 DS took his teddy on school trip to France with him. Had him stuck out the top if his rucksack. No-one batted an eyelid. I think there were a few teddys on that trip.

You would hate this house then.
I have a 21, 18, 17, and 8 year old, then of course me.
The following has been requested - minecraft cuddly toy, microwable warmer preferably a sheep, a minion, meerkat, Xeno, hedgehog, a collie, and some from Ty. Not saying who has asked for what, but everyone will have one in their stocking. Why not?

They make him happy. It is something that interests him, not you or anyone else.. It's about the recipient, if more people listened and took note of what people wanted, then there wouldn't be the influx of posts on here (just one site in millions that does this) looking to swap unwanted gifts.

Thank you for replies. Am watching with interest. He does love the ones he has now, very often we can't sit down because they are sitting on the sofa 'watching TV'. I actually love watching him but just not sure if we should be encouraging older interests. Just want to the right thing for him and am questioning myself. Number 1 thing on his list is a cuddly Kermit the frog and Animal. This would be ok right?

If he was a girl, I probably wouldn't think twice. You are right.

Build a bear has 'boy'teddies like turtles, Spider-Man and others.

My view is that a toy is a toy and there is no such thing as a toy for girl/boy.

I've asked DH for a cuddly Snoopy for Christmas. I'm 34.

DS is 5 and adores his cuddlies, i'll buy them for as long as he wants them and probably longer