To be a bit cynical about SuBo's new boyfriend.

[raltheraffe]

She strikes me as a lovely woman. However she is very rich and has MH issues and that is a good combination for any opportunist looking for cash.

I am speaking as someone who was conned out of my entire life savings, my house, my car, the lot when very ill with MH issues. It happens and I really hope this is not what has attracted this guy to her.

Perhaps I am just being a cynic because I have had a bad experience and perhaps I should be happy that she has finally found love.

Your thoughts please.

Bloody hell , I didn't read your post and think you were being nasy , Christ there are some marry bitches on here

I read it that you felt she was vulnerable and hoped she was being careful ,

She comes across as a lovely innocent lady , I hope she will be happy

I personally don't think op was being nasty intentionally. There are a lot of chancers out there, because of Susan's condition can make her more vulnerable. Let's hope this guy is not, and is decent and good.

Lots of people (I guess) are together for financial reasons/security/companionship
As long as they are both happy it really makes no difference if he would still be with her if she were poor
Do you really think the likes of Bruce Forsyth or the pillock with the bird Orville (name escapes me) would have young women falling over them if they were on the state pension
Its not the reason I would be with someone but it seems a factor in some relationships

There's a lid for every pot OP.I'd reserve judgement unless you're a personal friend.

Aeroflot it was a pretty low blow from my parents as they took thousands and even persuaded me to sell my house and put the proceeds into their bank account. My mum said she would take care of all my bills and paperwork and I could stay at their house at a time I had bad clinical depression. They said they would budget the money out for me and give me a weekly allowance. I was ill with depression at the time and when someone offered to sort out all the bill paperwork I jumped at the chance as I was lacking in motivation and despite having a lot of money was seeing red reminders building up as I did not have the energy to sort it out. One day they got in my car, loaded up all my property into a trailer and sodded off out the country leaving me on the streets. It then turned out they had not sorted the bills and I was thousands in debt.

Oh god ralthe that is fecking awful. The people who are meant to love and cherish you. Poor you

How are you now?

I am doing very well now. In fact since I went nc with parents I made an unexpected recovery (even pdoc could not believe it) and they discharged me from OPC. I still see the GP for the bipolar but it is under good control now.

Mum died last year but I only found out after the funeral, which I was not invited to and dad still lives abroad. He wants to visit me over Christmas but I really do not want to see him as he is too much hassle.

Shit ral that must have been hard

So pleased you are on the up now

Bloody hell don't let him anywhere near you, after what he did. Toxic as hell.

How awful, I cannot imagine doing anything like tgat to my children.

It was mainly my mum who orchestrated the whole thing. My dad claims he was unaware of what was going on, but he was. He is the less toxic of the two but I still cannot be bothered seeing him.

When I saw my pdoc about 5 years ago I said I wanted to know my future prognosis. It was grim, he said I would continue to get ill, but as I had insight and complied with the meds he said we could manage future episodes and nip them in the bud. He said I would be under psych care for life and may need more hospital admissions.
Last year he said he was discharging me from clinic, so I reminded him of what he said 5 years back, lifelong psych care. He said my recovery had astounded him. Interestingly the recovery started when I went nc. Going nc was actually on medical advice.

Good for you Ral. I don't find it hard to see why Susan's news was a trigger for you when your own parents behaved so unforgivably.

That's fantastic Raltheraffe , keep going nc with your dad, even though your mum was mainly behind it, he supported it.

What has happened has led to me having zero trust in anyone where money is concerned. I am ultra careful nowadays with the money I earn. I did not mean to offend anyone regarding Susan Boyle, but I clearly did. Anyhow I hope I am wrong, virtually everyone on here thinks I am wrong and I see that as a good thing. Would hate for a lovely lady like SuBo to be ripped off and at least she will have a team of financial advisers and lawyers looking out for her.

I think posters were very harsh on you. It's right though, dd 7 has ASD, and i do hope she meets a great guy who will be honest and decent, unfortunately there are chancers out there, who see an opportunity and go for it. Will have to arm dd when she's older with a lot if common sense and awareness. raltheraffe you don't expect your parents to screw you over

Any woman can be tge prey of chancers, you have to be totally on the ball and aware.

I think the point is that there's no use comparing her to Mick Hucknall or Brucie or any of the other sorts of rich blokes who sleep with much younger gold diggers without knowing anything suspect about this new bloke.

She's looking pretty good these days for a fifty-something from the sticks, and considering he's a non-showbiz type of the same age as her it's not beyond possibility he actually fancies the pants off of her. I don't get a wide-on at the thought of my FIL in his white Y-fronts, but it's quite clear that he still does it for my MIL. Middle aged people do have sex.

And yes, she is eccentric and possibly vulnerable.... but he might be a character himself. She isn't anywhere near as stupid as the press makes out.

I think she is quite intelligent, sassy and very savvy. Good on her