To be a bit cynical about SuBo's new boyfriend.

[raltheraffe]

She strikes me as a lovely woman. However she is very rich and has MH issues and that is a good combination for any opportunist looking for cash.

I am speaking as someone who was conned out of my entire life savings, my house, my car, the lot when very ill with MH issues. It happens and I really hope this is not what has attracted this guy to her.

Perhaps I am just being a cynic because I have had a bad experience and perhaps I should be happy that she has finally found love.

Your thoughts please.

I expected to see some 20 year old Turkish bar boy (nooo I'm not being racist, judgemental etc but that IS an instance where you would raise an eyebrow purely because of the thousands of woman of a similar age etc who have been ripped off) but I wouldn't feel cynical on that information at all, her life has opened up and she's meeting lots of people she never would have before etc.

For goodness sake, it's the Daily Mail! Do people believe the shite they write? Leave the woman alone FFS. She has a very strong team behind her and her PA is extremely astute. Simply because one person had a bad experience doesn't mean others will. Let her enjoy her life.

Foul article in the Fail and a foul thread

Hes a doctor, doctors in the US tend to be pretty well paid by all acounts, whats with the assumptions he's after her money?

I followed the DM link and saw pictures of a very attractive woman. though not so keen on the checked outfit She has amazing skin and a lovely face. I like her smile too. Yes she is also very good at what she does. Which has incidentally led to success and riches. Well done to her. And as well she seems articulate and down to earth. So all in all a pretty good package hmmm? Surely an attractive proposition for a lot of men?

So a well-rounded package. And you think her suitor is just interested because of the money and the fact she has "SN".

You are being really rather horrible. Not cynical. Horrible. Unpleasant and bitchy.

Right, so because a middle aged woman can't possibly be found to be attractive enough for a man to ever possibly be interested in her, is that what it is OP? Naturally, he must be after her money of course, he couldn't possibly actually like her.

At the end of the day op, all women have to be on guard when meeting a partner, it happened to you dident it! Good on Susan, I hope she is happy, why not!

My dd 7 is Autistic with dev delays, she is beautiful and intelligent and funny, why should she not have a partner when she is an adult.

I agree this thread is patronising. You don't see threads that say adele or Leona Lewis has a new bloke, hope he isn't going to take advantage...

I think it's lovely. I hope the start of a life long partnership for her (or just a bit of fun and great sex) but then I am not a naturally cynical person.

Why are you cynical? Is there a reason you don't think she deserves or is capable of a relationship?

I think YABU.

Yes, she has SN but she's a talented and funny woman, and she scrubs up fine. I don't think it's too hard to imagine someone might like her for her, and not just her money.

Especially now she's had those dreadful eyebrows waxed off

By the way, Susan Boyle was on Britain's Got Talent in 2009, so it's hardly as if she has just become rich and famous.

This thread stinks.

Good on Susan, hope he's a genuine and nice guy.

OP, you are coming over as so patronising and disablist it is unreal. What is it on here at the moment that people think it's acceptable to start threads about whether or not it is appropriate for people with additional needs to be in relationships!? I've seen 3 in as many weeks. I think HQ needs to add to the guidelines and at the very least comment on such threads!

Wow, that's not being cynical, it is being really bitchy and downright unpleasant. Just because you had a bad experience, doesn't mean good things don't happen to others.
I'm sorry you have a bad time, but your negative attitude is one that is sadly played out day after day up and down the country. Someone who has Aspergers deserves the same respect as anyone else. Why shouldn't someone want a relationship with her? She is an attractive lady, and has a wicked glint in her eye! I bet she is lovely company and fun to be around (don't believe all the shite you read in the papers). What more do you want from a relationship?
Sadly, I think the relationship will be dissected and torn to pieces by the British press who will find any angle to try and bring them down.
Go for it Susan - I hope he makes you happy!

I hope he's on the level and they will both be really happy.
But - she does seem really gullible

Aeroflot I was not ripped off by a partner it was my parents.

Been thinking about this. It is not contentious to state money and fame make people more attractive. Would Mick Hucknall really have had sex with over 1000 women if he had been on benefits/minimum wage? No chance.

Someone with MH difficulties is far more vulnerable to be financially ripped off than an average person, hence there are laws in the UK to protect such individuals.

I have not said anything defamatory about Susan, nor have I said anything defamatory about people with Asperger's.

If you do not like the thread you could report it and see if it gets taken down, or just hide it from the thread list.

You are suggesting that the only reason a man might be attracted to her is the money she has. Throwing in her 'MH Issues' as an explanation of why she might be vulnerable to being ripped off.

You asked for our thoughts. Lots of posters think you are being disablist and patronising. You should hide the thread if you don't like that, perhaps?

The undertone of your posts is that you think Susan Boyle is unnattractive so therefore the only reason anyone would want to be with her is because she has money and her aspergers (NOT A MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS) is stopping her from seeing that.

This is what you are saying in a nutshell op, and you are just dressing it up as fake 'concern'. Nasty.

Leopold I mentioned MH issues in the original post so am not merely throwing them in now.

"Are you feeling quite well, ral?

You seem determined to attract a multitude of Buns this evening."

And you criticise me for being disablist and patronising? Pot. Kettle. Black.

I've reported this thread OP. If I were you I would really consider your attitude and address any issues that have led to it. This thread is downright nasty.

I thought you might have imbibed of the grape a little too much last night, ral, as both your threads seemed a little fighty. You haven't crossed my radar previously as being prone to being a bit of a disablist arse, that's why I assumed you might not be feeling your usual self. Nothing to do with MH

You 'threw in' MH in your OP, yes. I didn't specify that you had added it later, so HTH.

I do not drink alcohol Leopard. 4 years in recovery.

I did not mean to be in any way insulting to anyone with MH issues. Particularly Asperger's, as I spent a considerable amount of time and effort helping campaign to block Gary McKinnon's extradition. In fact I once got Dx with ASD, but that got overturned by subsequent doctors.

I do not mean to be fighty with anyone. I was just genuinely cynical of someone who has never been in a relationship suddenly becoming a multi-millionairess and then some bloke turning up on the scene. I hope I am wrong. Guess time will tell.

Your parents oh no how awful .

Mabey he sees the inner beauty. She is attractive, savvy, strong and quite intelligent actually. I bet he sees that!