To not like it when my daughter is referred to as a flirt?

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She is 14 months and very friendly, that's all.

YANBU. It makes my toes curl. The same when people post photos on FB of "my sexy little man/princess". There's nothing sexy about a child.

Ew! YANBU, that's completely gross

Yeah, I know, I don't like it either.

I am aware that when people say this they mean that babies and toddlers are predisposed to use their physicality, big eyes and smiles, to draw you in -so you don't get fed up of them and leave them for the next passing predator. But 'flirt' has such sexual connotations I hate the way it is used in reference to reference this behaviour.

That's weird. Who said it?

That is really wrong. YANBU. Tell them to wash their mouth out.

Whaaat? Ugh. YANBU!!!

A woman said this to me in a coffee shop recently because 11mo dd was smiling at her husband. Very very weird.

Top cringe! ....Along with 'I bet you can wrap your Mum around your little finger with those eyes!'. Blerg!

Challenge it. Some old people use it - they must be very old by now because they were old when I was young.

You could maybe have a little line prepared like: she's too young to flirt, but cute enough to hurt

or somesuch, which gets the message across in a firm, but non-confrontational way. I'm pretty sure that if an older lady says this about a baby, she doesn't actually mean it with the dodgy connotation at all. What she's trying to say is what a lovely child. But, she's obviously chosen a phrase which is long past its sell by date. There's no point in causing a massive intergenerational row over it. The message can be delivered nicely and no harm done.

That really is inappropriate and gross. I'm bolshy as hell when it comes to sexism and sexualisation of children so I would definitely have challenged them and made comments about inappropriate use of language for children.

YANBU. My DH once said to a woman "No...she's not a flirt, she's a baby. THey're unaware of that concept."

She was but it must have made her think.

A comment on a YouTube video described an 8 month old baby as "so cute and sexy". It was said by a young woman btw. I don't understand how some people's minds work.

I've never heard a young child described as sexy or a flirt, this is so inappropriate.

YANBU. Very creepy.

I was on a train once with a woman who referred to my baby DD as a flirt and then, when she started to smile and laugh at some women, as a lesbian. I am afraid I didn't keep my cool.

YANBU. That's really inappropriate.

When I was a little girl, an old man told me I looked good enough to be raped

My mum says that of dd when she was a baby and smiling at a man

People say it about my ds 9 months all the time.

It has struck me as nonsensical but I've never felt offended. Mayne I've been slower to see the inappropriate side because he is a boy.

But what they mean is that he is charming and an attention seeker wwhich is true.

I assume then, that in ye olden tymes, flirting wasn't a sexual thing, or at least, not necessarily so.

How things change!

People say it to my LB because he smiles at all the ladies. It doesn't particularly bother me. "Flirt" doesn't solely mean something sexual.

I dont think its particularly inappropriate either. My dd was a terrible flirt to strange men usually on the train, fluttering her eyelashes at them etc She always got their attention , in a nice way. I even had a student type say to me, i normally dont like babies, but shes got character! Shes 17 now and just a bubbly social type with loads of friends, but not really interested in boys atm

Omg Greyhound

I don't think of flirting as always a sexual thing either.