To ask why my other thread got closed?

[Mammanat222]

Bit annoyed that the last few pages were spent completely slating me and I now don't have a chance to defend myself?

Feel as though it all turned into a bit of a witch hunt in the end and it would have been nice (not to mention fair) if I was given the opportunity to at least counter being called a snake and a terrible friend and accused of instigating a bitch fest.

Sorry if starting this thread goes against any rules??

That thread was fucking nuts.

Of course YANBU. Anyone who lives in the real world, without knowing any backstory, would agree. Especially the sass-back she gave you...I would have lost my shit. Who says that?

Didn't read the last million replies, but suffice to say you did all you could to rectify the situation. The ball's in her court to change things.

I thought your friend was blimmin unreasonable - no matter what your floor surface. But I think you now need to let it go....

Bottom line. The posters who were particularly horrible to you aren't going to change their minds. And you will just expend more energy and ire on this. A lot of people thought you were reasonable. Focus on that.

Another one who thought your friend was totally OTT and just couldn't be arsed to even try getting the wellies on and off, expected you to capitulate to the whims of a toddler and then stropped off in a huff. Later compounded things with nasty texts.

TBH, I'd be letting sleeping dogs lie and waiting for her to get back in contact. I've got this nasty feeling that she will continue not to make her DS do anything he doesn't want to and that any subsequent meetings will be similarly fraught.

I didn't comment but I read your post and I thought you were not being unreasonable. You're 'friend' on the other hand was extremely rude!
Don't worry about the other posters.

Oops - 'your' of course

Ohmefuckinggod

Am - almost;) - speechless....

CANNOT believe some of the utter shite that got lobbed at you OP - nor of the determined obtuseness (is that even a word??!) of some of the posts... IE:

....the 'wipe the flat soles of wellies' (ignoring basic fact that they are NEVER flat full stop, plus you'd pointed that out repeatedly for the hard of thinking skills hearing amongst some posters)

The UTTER bollocks about how nasty and mean you were for posting 'identifiable' bits...

EVERY fucking AIBU I've EVER read usually has the subject beyond identifiable IF (please note the 'IF'...) they happened to see it.... Bridezillas, MiLs, Teachers, OHs/DPs/DHs - list frickin endless and by definition the OPs of those threads (presuming not doing the dreaded 'drip-feeding' which will itself earn you a right good kicking from the same luvverly MN'ers who seem to be just waiting to pounce to prove black really IS white) will ALWAYS write the, y'know, DETAILS of whatever it is they're writing about.

Cos if they didn't, then there wouldn't be an OP to start mad mad bunfight discussion about would there?

Have read some lots of the posts like this:

Truly, am just STAGGERED at the frickin stupidity of some people (ditto their DETERMINDNESS to be RIGHT.. even when that entails ignoring v basic facts!)

Here you go OP

Some and a glass of as YWvvvvDEF N BU.

Simples and sorted eh?

The bit where someone suggested putting plastic bags over the wellies was my moment. I was amazed when it went to 1000 posts, the whole thing was dull as.

Oh - it was the boot thread? I did see it.

YANBU. Pretty sure I said so there too.

YABU you should have let them in with muddy shoes but as I gave my explanations the issue then became

I am sorry but you have presented posters with a scenario and I guess instead of wanting to see things from your friends side you just wanted us all to lay into her and say " yeah, tell her to Fuck off" .

Well I am sorry but no, I think holding at the door was horrible and once you were inside with her carrying her son, as she offered to do then the boots could have been dealt with under a tap.

I feel really sorry for your friend, I really really do. You dont want to hear anyone elses point of view you have come on here to slate her, even from her DP and put on here private texts and your unhappy because some posters think that's mean! And the later on posters were not defending you.

why did you bother posting? very odd. to have a big pat on the back?

Muddy wellies + carpet (any carpet, not only new, cream carpet) = no way.

I don't believe any of the people who said they would let a toddler trail mud onto a new carpet. They were talking bollocks.

I still can't believe that a thread about wellies and carpet has reached 1,060 posts. Feel a bit sorry for all those who are in desperate need of advice whose posts largely go ignored.

Of course yanbu, Who in their right mind wouldn't take off muddy wellies going into someone's house!! Never mind the colour of your carpet, your friend sounds very precious.

the 'wipe the flat soles of wellies'

wipe on a mat or with a baby wipe or floor wipe?

I am not sure there was any ever suggestion of that the boy should walk over the hallowed cream carpets with muddy boots, but that there were lots of ways to tackle the problem between seemingly good friends of 20 years. I suspect far deeper issues going on here, and has already slated her friends son and how she handles him.

AlPacino you read the previous thread. Without rehashing the whole bloody thing, you must know that running wellies under a tap, whilst they are still on the feet of the stropping toddler would be well-nigh impossible? And to take them off was kind of what the nutty friend was refusing to do?

But enough! The OP WNBU, she has said her piece to defend herself against the typical AIBU witch-hunt now and anyway, the whole thing was done to death on the other thread.

"I am not sure there was any ever suggestion of that the boy should walk over the hallowed cream carpets with muddy boots"

Well, the friend was volunteering to carry him upstairs to the kitchen, but in reality there would have been no way of keeping him in there, as there was no stair gate. So, he would have been at large upstairs wiping his grubby boots everywhere. And the friend would have had no way of stopping him, as it appears she struggles to control him.

BUT WE'VE BEEN THROUGH THIS A MILLION TIMES!!

Why should the possibility of a small child potentially creating a fuss over wellies mean that an adult has to then allow that child to keep on his mucky wellies indoors?

Friend doesn't cope well with this child. does that mean OP and the rest of the world have to put up with whatever his latest whim is?

Even the friends own DH has said she doesn't deal with the child constructively.

No sane person gives into the demands of a toddler. Otherwise they would never have baths, run into streets and eat nothing but Haribo.

friend just couldn't be arsed even making an attempt with the wellies and actually couldn't give two hoots about OP, who'd ust moved house, is heavily pregnant, in constant pain with SPD and also has a similarly aged child. Why was friend so determined to make life hard for OP rather than just whipping off the damn wellies?

So have you spoken up your friend again?

Op, I too read the last thread and couldn't believe my eyes at some of the absolute bollocks some people had written and are apparently still writing

YANBU!! Who the hell thinks it's a good idea to walk around any bloody carpet in wellies? Some posters were there just to cause trouble and be insulting, it just was unbelievable. Stick to your guns, enjoy your home and don't listen to some of the shite being chucked at you on the other thread....it's not even a full moon!!!

I was on your side op anyone who thinks walking on carpets OF ANY COLOUR with muddy boots on ok is more than a bit dim.

As for the suggestions of putting bags of the boots or carrying him to the sink to have them wiped when the FRIEND COULD JUST HAVE TAKEN THEM OFF well those suggestions were just beyond fucking ridiculous.

But Munningcockery put so much better than me really.

Ywnbu op.
We're a shoes of house and I tell
People before they come.
That way they can prepare however they wish.
I also automatically Take my shoes of in other people's houses.

Hi OP - it is funny isn't it the threads that go mad on MN and its fascination with carpets - quite recently there was the Carpet Thread thread which went equally ballistic.

I hope you and your friend are still good with each other, kids are something that even the best of friends can fall out over. My friend and I vowed we wouldn't let it happen to us having witnessed the 'phenomena' - we still managed to though, but just the once.

And peace to you to.

How's it going with friend OP?

has she not yet come back with "sorry i was a bit daft the other day"?

It would be sad to lose a friendship, but i would find it hard to be bothered about someone who could speak to me the way that she spoke to you.

Muddy shoes come off inside the house. Anyone's house. Friend should have thought about it when putting her child's boots on and suggested a walk to the park or a cafe or somewhere else (back to her place) instead. She might have other stuff going on but that is no reason to lay down the rules in your home and then have a strop when she doesn't get her own way.

Can't believe you started another thread about this. Find another friend to be annoyed with, this particular scenario has been forensically analysed from every possible angle.