To murder my husband because he is fucking snoring

[Hurricaneinateacup]

I'm not am I?
I can't sleep and to rub it in he's next to me snoring the loudest smuggest snores anyone's every snored.

I'm going to have to kill him.

We have separate rooms. I was nearly hysterical through lack of sleep. Now I get a ful night and so does he because I'm not punching him.

if he's stopping breathing he needs to go to a GP, its sleep apnoea.

my DH has a cpap as he stops breathing in his sleep, really loud horrendous snoring, restlessness and daytime grumpy behaviour are all signs of it.

Separate rooms and the snorer goes in it. That is the only way. Why would you sleep in the same room? It's insane.

OP I feel your pain.... I thought I had the world loudest snorer next to me, he would have won the prize I thought.

I slept nearly every single night on the couch, or squashed in with dd in her single bed just to get some sleep.

Anyway I suggested insisted that he go see the ENT doctor as there is no way a human being could possibly make that much noise and not be murdered by me have something seriously wrong somewhere.

Lo and behold he was diagnosed with severe sleep apnoea and now has a cpap machine at night. Its bloody bliss I tell you, I sleep in my own bed every night now! The machine is a god send.

I made him try everything, nose spray, those plaster things, a funny metal thing that I have no clue how it should work, but it didn't, sinus medication, earplugs for me....

I only realize now after having slept for 3 months now without being woken up all the time, that I was actually sleep deprived.... I am so much less grumpy, I can concentrate better, I eat better (this is a good thing as I lose my appetite if I'm not 100%).

I think you should insist suggest he go see the ENT too

YANBU.

I actually think snorers should be legally obliged to declare themselves on a first date, so you can make an informed decision.

There's nothing worse than meeting the man of your dreams and then realising he makes a noise akin to the sound of dying cattle in his sleep.

My DH was a severe snorer all his life - it was a big joke that people three rooms away could hear him, people on campsites coming over and kicking the tent in the night because of it and so on.
When he finally went to get a sleep study done, turns out he stopped breathing more frequently than once a minute. Very, very severe sleep apnoea. Dr reckons he'd have been dead by 50 as theres such a strong link between OSA and stroke, heart disease (and they are finding links between osa and loads more things).
He's been on CPAP for 8 years now, and there is silence in our bedroom

You Are Being TOTALLY Reasonable!

My DH, can't hear,
"Please be quiet love, would you roll onto your side.."
But when I WHISPERED,
"If you don't stop snoring, I'm going to have to smother you with my pillow,"
he then sat bolt upright & said,
"That's not nice, how would you like to be woken up with someone saying that to you!"
Soooooo unreasonable

I'm afraid it's me that snores. Not very ladylike, but it's true. We have separate bedrooms anyway, but sometimes my darling dh gently hints that I was 'snoring extra loudly last night'. Snoring? Moi?

CMOT that is interesting.
What prompted him to have the sleep study done? I snore and have suspected I may have sleep apnoea as I wake up feeling so tired and rubbish every morning and then feel better as the day progresses

I did all the above for husbands snoring - ear plugs, strips etc etc sleep study and also surgery

what finally solved it was a mouth guard/brace - it's fitted by an orthodontist and it stops the tongue slipping to the back of the throat and causing snoring (laymans version) it's quite a big contraption, it does not look attractive sitting in the drawer but it works like a dream!! it slips into teeth and moves the jaw forward (I think) ...we were desperate when he got the referral - the dentist took one look at his mouth and said this will change your life and your marriage - we were like yeah right but willing to try anything - it worked!

the first night he slept peacefully all the way through and not a single sound out of him

It's changed both our lives and we are now back to sleeping in the same room - I don't hear a peep from him ever

if he forgets to put it in now within about 2 mins he's snoring like a herd of elephants in the room like huge old days.

the biggest improvement is his sleep quality not just mine

Marnia - it was when ds was tiny and I was waking in the night with more opportunity to listen to dh snoring. We were fortunate that there was a sleep clinic where we lived, so he was seen quickly - its important that people see a sleep specialist, not an ENT surgeon so all the treatment options are considered

I have found my spiritual home on this thread! The snorts at 4 a.m. are the worst! Separate bedrooms are a godsend...

He survived the night. I didn't murder him but I really really wanted to and the only thing that kept me sane was thinking about how I'd do it.
We haven't got a spare bed so would have had to be the sofa. Dh would have refused to have gone so I would have had to and it's cold downstairs! Dh says he doesn't believe he snores. I may tape him.

The snorts at 4 a.m. are the worst!

Yy to this.......

Once, I shared a hotel room with my dad.
I punched him in the solar plexus at two am.

Mum was curious as to why he suddenly insisted on seeing a snoring doctor after 20 years of marriage.

I'll tell you, mumsy. It's because you should have knocked the wind out of him sooner.

(DP only snores a tiny bit when he's not well. I can forgive that, because he rolls over when I prod him)

Hurricane really you do have my sympathies... its just horrid trying to sleep through that.

My dh also didn't believe me. He also didn't believe me when I said he stopped breathing all the time too. Its only when he saw the actual report from the sleep studies (because he thought that was all a lot of bollocks too) that he got quite a shock when they said he stopped breathing more than 70 times in an hour.

We had the prescription sitting here for months and months for the cpap machine, as he thought that was a load of bollocks too (his words). He was hard work, I admit, but now he cant sleep without it and I don't let him otherwise he snores again

I told this story on another snoring thread...........
My late DH and I were enroute to a family gathering and booked into a Travel Lodge.
In the night DH would NOT stop snoring! I kicked poked, prodded, shouted rolled him over everything i could think of to no avail!!
DH was alarmed in the morning when he woke up and i wasn't in the bed. He was most surprised to find me asleep in the bath with all the spare bedding

I "accidentally" kicked DH in the back last night due to his snoring.

In my defense, I haven't had more than fourteen hours of sleep in the last week.

it's possible he has sleep apnea, so he should get it checked out. There are long term consequences to it (usually not murder!) and there are ways to fix it.

I love DH's CPAP machine more than DH . If you're in the South East, the sleep centre at East Grinstead is brilliant, and had a surprisingly short waiting list. Within three months of DH going to the GP he had his machine.

Thats where DH was diagnosed Leaping. I'll never forget sitting in the waiting room, bloke comes out of the consultants room, sits down, falls asleep! No doubt on OSA for him

How do you get a referral to a clinic?

I use earplugs and now cannot sleep without them even if DP is not there! Have got so used to the feel of them that I do not feel sleepy unless got them in. (I might just be weird).

My DH was diagnosed with sleep apnea, had an operation and he still snores.

He's a tiny bit better, but I can't and won't lie next to a person sounding like a steam engine. I have a room that I take myself to and sleep peacefully there.

He can't help it, I've got legs, I get myself a good nights sleep in a separate room.

Even when we book a hotel we often book two separate rooms if he's going through a snorey stage.

My DH frequently wakes up black and blue...