To be feeling a bit, well, suspicious I guess?

[ShinyToyBuns]

I think I probably am.

Long story short, DH has recently started a new job, major improvement on previous job, new position is way better financially, long term prospects etc.

Lastnight he announced his sections plans for their work Christmas party.

The plan is a night out in our local city centre. No problem at all.

Then he adds on that they're all booking hotel rooms. I asked why, when we live 20 mins away by taxi. He replied they are all doing it.

I have a feeling I'm being really untrusting and paranoid but I cannot for the life of me see why anyone would need to pay out for a hotel room after their xmas party when they live so close and well quite frankly, unless they are planning on bringing someone back there.

I haven't yet said anything to him about it, as I'm not sure if IABU, or if I need to chill the fuck out.

So please, a virtual slap round the face or a grip would be good!

formerbabe

that is a pretty big leap that you have made there.

20 minutes away by taxi would probably cost as much as the room especially after midnight.

I know the posters suggesting you stay in the hotel with him have your feelings at heart OP but I'd say that's a real over-reaction and will instantly mark your DH out as different among his new work colleagues
His wife's feelings should matter more to him than being the odd one out in the playground.

I definitely don't want him to feel uneasy or singled out - and tbh staying away with him doesn't appeal to me, I wouldn't want to be the weird wife waiting up for him and practicality wise it would be out of the question - SN dd wakes frequently during the night and will only settle for me or DH.

Iv come to the conclusion iambu and I need to snap out of it. He has never given me cause for concern, everything in our relationship is good, the only problem I see, looking at the big picture is my insecurities.

On thinking it over the hotel probably would be cheaper than the taxi ride after midnight. (major city)

I understand why you're worried, but don't be. Everywhere I have worked this has been the norm; so that people can get ready together, have a few pre drinks in the room, then a few at the hotel bar at the end of the night.