are the places your not allowed to breast feed.

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am i being unreasonable to think i can breast feed anywhere. When i had my last child i breast fed every where in mcdonalds, at the bus stop on the bus. only ever had one problem in mcdonalds. i was asked to stop breast feeding and i erm.... no. and that was end of it. But im wondering by law can i be asked to stop breast feeding in public? family restaurants, buses where ever really? and if i refuse what could happen?

There's no law against being as thick as pig shit.
Just as well Chunderella, the courts would never cope.

Aduaz - you haven't answered my questions.

You are free to feed anywhere.

The ignorant are free to look elsewhere.

So Aduaz , I presume you wouldn't feel so sick watching Gisele Bündchen breastfeeding as Jo Brand then? Do you have any idea how ridiculous that is?
I'm so glad that the law of this country puts a baby's need to feed over your dicky tummy...

If seeing a baby being breastfed puts a person off their food, perhaps that person could go eat their food in the toilet.

I fed my baby in a pub yesterday and i bet no one even noticed. Plus i got to enjoy my meal with my family. It were lush. And when i switch to formula i will do the same. Fank you very much.

That sounds like a really good solution to Aduaz's problem, Owl .

FWIW and in the interests of fairness,iI dislike seeing bf and it does creep me out a bit. So I do sympathise. But I avert my gaze, like I do when an adult is eating shellfish (HOW CAN YOU?).

Credentials: 5y5m bf over three DC, frequently bfip.

it does creep me out a bit

Baffling.

I know someone with a banana phobia. Perfectly reasonable for her to hate watching people eating them, unreasonable of her to ask them to stop. The solution for Aduaz is to stay at home where his fear of something entirely normal and natural won't be engaged.

Why baffling? We can't control our feelings, only our actions. I don't choose to feel that way, and given my lactivist credentials my friends would be surprised to hear my saying it.

I get weirded out by bf (including horrible D-MER during pregnancy) but crucially that doesn't mean I think it should be hidden from my view. There's a long list of other things far, far higher up the list, such as shellfish, game birds with the feet on, leopard print clothing, fake fur collars, etc.

I can choose not to look; the baby can't choose not to be hungry.

TestingTestingWonTooFree I wouldn't call it a phobia because it's not a fear, I'm not scared of seeing bf, I'd just prefer not to when eating. Honestly I think the best solution would be cooperation and making allowances on both sides, so if it was me for example I'd try being discreet about it and finding a table in the corner if possible or something like that.

I fed my baby in a pub yesterday and i bet no one even noticed

Sounds as though you were discrete, though. Some aren't

"Honestly I think the best solution would be cooperation and making allowances on both sides, "

But you get that most people don't feel squeamish like you, right?

There are 700,000 born a year, I
Think..,

TBH if my baby was hungry and screaming for food, my last thought would be whether the public at large had strong stomachs or not. If you feel that a child feeding in a natural way is not something you want to see in a restaurant then I suggest you look at ways to deal with your own problem. Your own hang ups are not mine or my hungry babys fault. If you don't like it, no one is forcing you to look.

And most women who BF are pretty discreet, for their own comfort rather than yours, though...

Is it the boob? The baby sucking?

Perhaps the solution would be a table facing the wall for you, aduaz. You wouldn't find your eyes wandering to womens breasts that way :)

Tbh, when I fed in public, my main concern was a table with a space to park the buggy nearby. A buggy in the gangway inconveniencing the whole cafe rather than a theoretical customer who was a bit squeamish.

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I can't believe that out of all of the things you could see in a mcdonalds, it would be a baby being bf that would put you off your food
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:o

Btw I wasn't discrete why should I be. I didn't go out of my way to flash body parts but I got on with what I was doing and assumed everyone else would do the same. I was feeding my baby not lap dancing,

Wear a blindfold whenever you eat in public in future, Aduaz.

Honestly, there's something fascinating about watching the creaking thought processes of someone so unreconstructed...

It is reasonable of all of us to refrain from behaviour in public that is generally considered to be repulsive. This is to some extent culturally subjective, but in the UK for example, we refrain from such behaviour as spitting, picking our noses, belching and farting, as well as more obvious ones such as defecating, urinating and picking spots.

A friend of mine has a strange 'thing' about wrists. She feels really uncomfortable if she sees someone bending their wrists at an odd angle or playing with bracelets etc. When I am with her I try to refrain from doing anything that would make her uncomfortable. It would also be my choice, if I felt I had a pressing reason to play with my wrists to choose not to spend time with her so I could fiddle with my wrists to my heart's content.

However, neither I nor she would expect every MNer reading this thread to check their behaviour in public to make sure that they never play with their wrists in public. My friend knows that if she sees someone doing so it is up to her to avert her gaze so she is not made uncomfortable.

By all logic, sense and reason, breast feeding comes into the category of 'playing with wrists' rather than the other examples I listed in the first paragraph. It is a perfectly natural behaviour. Therefore, it is up to people who are made uncomfortable by it to change their own behaviour and work on their own attitudes.

I really don't get those who find it off putting or gross or whatever.

Can someone explain why? They're just boobies. Wtf is the problem?

MrsHathaway "Why baffling? We can't control our feelings, only our actions."

You refer to being creeped out and weirded out by breastfeeding. I'm surely allowed to be baffled by that, just as I'm baffled by button phobia. It's because I can't imagine feeling that way at all, or why anyone else would. It's not the same as judging anyone negatively, it just means that I don't understand. That may well be a failing in me and/or my powers of imagination or empathy.

For me it's the sucking and the way the breast distends into the mouth so bottle-feeding isn't much better.

And with that, highly triggered, I'm off to bf DC3 to sleep