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To think this wasn't funny.

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 17:33

My dd has just turned 12 months and is learning to walk (slowly, she's never crawled either so I am really keen to get her moving). She's still very very cautious but last night was getting more confident and taking a few steps by herself. My dp was sitting with his feet up in the recliner and as dd walked towards him he quickly moved his legs down so she fell over. She would have banged her head if I hadn't been quick to grab her! My poor dd got really upset but dp was just laughing and thought it was hilarious. I'm really annoyed but he doesn't get it. My mum said that if she ever sees him doing anything like that she's ringing social services.

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formerbabe · 13/11/2014 17:36

Did he do it on purpose then? What is he like otherwise?

nappiesandnaptimes · 13/11/2014 17:36

That sounds horrible - your poor dd.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 13/11/2014 17:37

He was a shite and I'd find that very hard to forget! Angry

What an arse

MyIronLung · 13/11/2014 17:37

I'd be bloody fuming too!
What a prat!

I wonder how he would have felt if she had hurt herself? That's not so funny (to most people).

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 17:38

Yes he did it on purpose. He's a bit useless sometimes but I've never seen him do anything like that before.

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Vitalstatistix · 13/11/2014 17:38

I think social services is over the top but certainly your partner is a prat.

Does he understand that he could have hurt his child? Would he have found it funny if she had banged her head and been hurt? Would that have been a funny 'youve been framed' moment for him? oh ha ha remember when I legged up the baby?... Hmm

Tripping up a 12 month old and laughing about it? And carrying on laughing at her upset?

What he did was twatish.

weebarra · 13/11/2014 17:39

Asshole. That was needlessly cruel to a wee tot.

minimommymary · 13/11/2014 17:40

you're not unreasonable. sometimes it feels like my partner is mocking my daughter and im the 'nag' who puts him straight. he responds telling me that there can be no wrong way to parent. i find the calmer i am and usually accompanied by some tears and most affective when trying to get my point across. get some info from online about babies emotional development and some stats about being on the move- a bit of evidence in my corner always helps! or subtly encourage baby away. a few knocks never hurt anyone but i feel a baby should feel protected by their parents!

NorwaySpruce · 13/11/2014 17:41

Is the man her father?

I wouldn't say it's an SS issue Confused but it seems an unusual thing for a father to do.

Most parents are flinging themselves around trying to shove cushions into the path of falling waddlers. Grin

If he's not usually a prat, perhaps he thought the child had instinctive self-righting properties or something.

LeopardInABobbleHat · 13/11/2014 17:41

Is he always a cruel and childish knobhead?

batgirl1984 · 13/11/2014 17:45

Minimommy of course there are wrong ways to parent. Otherwise the dole queue would be full of wannabe social workers.

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 17:45

He can be childish, I just think he doesn't think sometimes. My mum was over the top but she isn't really his biggest fan so that's probably why!

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 17:46

Yes, he is her dad.

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CaptainAnkles · 13/11/2014 17:48

Not funny, and I'd be wondering why on earth he would think it was. Is his sense of humour usually that shit? Cries of SS are over the top though.

LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 17:48

It wasn't nice what he did.
I would be upset.
Discuss this with him rather than your mother. Your mother needs to also calm down.

BuzzardBird · 13/11/2014 17:49

Think your Mother might be right about him...

Vivacia · 13/11/2014 18:00

I don't know how you kept your hands off him.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 13/11/2014 18:06

What a dickhead. I'd be seriously concerned about him being unsupervised with her is he has such a weird attitude to her safety and comfort.

Sunna · 13/11/2014 18:06

I'm with your mother.

carlsonrichards · 13/11/2014 18:07

And you have sex with this twat? 'A bit useless' and does things like this and finds it funny. What's to like?

mini, you sound like you're in an abusive relationship. Any person who mocked my child would find himself on the kerb with my foot up his arse in a second. Your poor dd.

Viviennemary · 13/11/2014 18:10

That sounds a horrible thing to do to a one year old child and think it's funny. It isn't. I'd be reviewing my relationship.

VanitasVanitatum · 13/11/2014 18:17

batgirl I think that was mini's partner's opinion, not her own.

OP that does sound really weird, why does your mum not like him - does he have form?

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 18:24

She doesn't like him because he cheated on me. I know you will all be rolling your eyes but it's well and truly in the past. And she was already annoyed with dp yesterday because he doesn't like having toys all over the lounge so had put them all in a box in the cupboard under the stairs and when mum came round she wanted to know where they were. He doesn't want the dogs ruining them.

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Ispythebearsagain · 13/11/2014 18:25

He never really spends time alone with dd anyway as when I work (a couple of evenings a week) he takes her to his mums.

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VanitasVanitatum · 13/11/2014 18:32

Sounds like he hasn't really 'connected' with parenting if you know what I mean, laughing at someone falling over is probably what he would do with his mates, almost like he's missing that protective feeling he should have.