To think this wasn't funny.

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My dd has just turned 12 months and is learning to walk (slowly, she's never crawled either so I am really keen to get her moving). She's still very very cautious but last night was getting more confident and taking a few steps by herself. My dp was sitting with his feet up in the recliner and as dd walked towards him he quickly moved his legs down so she fell over. She would have banged her head if I hadn't been quick to grab her! My poor dd got really upset but dp was just laughing and thought it was hilarious. I'm really annoyed but he doesn't get it. My mum said that if she ever sees him doing anything like that she's ringing social services.

Are you sure he's spending it on her mortgage or is that just what he's told you?

Thumbwitch yes - he "pays towards his Mum's mortgage". Or so he says.

If my DH had done something like that to my DD he would have been packed off to his mums before he'd even finished laughing and he would not be seeing DD by himself.

It's not just not funny, its cruel, ok she was fine and all children fall over hundreds of times learning to walk but there is something seriously wrong with a man that would deliberately try to make a young child trip.

there is something seriously wrong with a man that would deliberately try to make a young child trip.

^This exactly. In fact the word for him is arsehole.

When I read the OP I got in my head the image of a sweet little girl holding onto the furniture. She was a little uncertain but building up the courage to let go and have a toddle. Then she does. Her first little steps are unsteady but she's doing well and her confidence is growing. And then her father slams down his foot rest and makes her fall down.

I get angry every time I think of it. It is just so wrong and disgusting to do that to a child. We're supposed to be helping build them up, not knocking them down! And actually if he continues like this - sabotaging her efforts and then laughing when she fails - it will be so detrimental to her confidence and self esteem, it really will. I don't want to get on at you OP, because I reckon you actually get it. I just can't understand why anyone would do something like this!

Boy, he sounds like a keeper.

Takes his own daughter to be looked after at his mum's? Trips her up and laughs about it? Applies for stupid jobs for you? (I'm sure you're very capable of looking for a job by yourself).

I'd let your mum ring SS if I were you. Might shock a bit of sense into him.

In your dreams Only a twat like that would just shrug it off.

My first LTB

LTB. no more words to say that haven't been said already.

Worth a try, I think, Toby? But I don't disagree with the LTB sentiment; I just think slightly less drastic steps could be taken first.

Wouldn't phoning SS just backfire on the OP though? Because if they do decide it's a safeguarding issue, the OP will have to keep her DD away from that twat her father, or at least have supervised contact only, or she will get into trouble herself.

Best thing is if the OP sorts it out herself, surely.

The dogs sound a bit concerning, too, given his general twatness. Does he let them near the baby?

Only I think a ref to SS would only be delaying the inevitable. If the guy was capable of being reasoned with, I'd agree with you but I don't think that's the case.

It's only sometimes that you wonder why you are with him? What do you do with your brain the rest of the time? Honestly, open your eyes. He's a nasty bastard. Get out now before you end up with 3 kids and no where to go with them :( In fact, send him to his mothers as he's apparently paying the mortgage there

What is/was his Dad like OP?

Lack of empathy is a big red flag IMO. As is your mum not liking him. My Mum really likes my OH (not bragging-just saying this is how it should be).

He does have good points believe it or not!

But not enough to outweigh his bad ones.

Your mum seems to have the measure of him. I feel very sad for your DD.

The dogs sound a bit concerning, too, given his general twatness. Does he let them near the baby?

Must do, if her toys have to be cleared away so the dogs don't get them.

Gets worse, doesn't it?

He is 30yo?! I had imagined him as an immature late teen, struggling to adjust to being a father not a fully grown man! This makes it even worse!

Posts on here can only be a snapshot, but it really doesn't sound good.

OK Only but I think it would simply be buying time until the inevitable.

Sorry Only just noticed I'd already replied to you! Forgot.

What a truly awful man. I'm not one for violence but I would be delighted to trip up this little shit in the path of an oncoming lorry. Or beat him round the head with a rusty cheese grater.

You can do better. And your child deserves better.