To think this wasn't funny.

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My dd has just turned 12 months and is learning to walk (slowly, she's never crawled either so I am really keen to get her moving). She's still very very cautious but last night was getting more confident and taking a few steps by herself. My dp was sitting with his feet up in the recliner and as dd walked towards him he quickly moved his legs down so she fell over. She would have banged her head if I hadn't been quick to grab her! My poor dd got really upset but dp was just laughing and thought it was hilarious. I'm really annoyed but he doesn't get it. My mum said that if she ever sees him doing anything like that she's ringing social services.

Mum's generally have good instincts when it comes to matters like this. I think your mum sounds like she's sussed him out.

Mumsnetter's are also generally pretty sharp, and the responses above have a recurring theme.

Your op and those that followed conjured up the image of a man/boy, lounging on a chair, smirking at a crying child whom he'd just tripped up. He can't be arsed to look after her when you're out so goes to his mums. Oh, and he had an affair and thinks your daughter will be happy to sit in a car all day while you make deliveries.

He sounds like an adolescent, and that's probably unfair to most adolescents. I bet he wouldn't laugh if you tripped him up on purpose ?

I'm angry just reading that, what an awful thing to do to any child - let alone your own! Actually all I really want to do is list the many expletives about him that come to mind!

No I don't want the delivery job and I've told him it's not suitable. Not sure if he expects me to do it as well as the two I'm already doing! I want to spend my days with dd. Can't see him taking her out to groups and to see her little friends!
Sometimes I don't know why I'm with him.

Just why are you with this man?

Does he not work ? Your last post suggests if you were out during the day he would be the one with her.

Is your post about more than just the tripping up episode, have you had enough generally ?

Yes he does work, don't really want to say what but he is around some of the day. We are short on cash because he helps his mum out with her mortgage.
He does have good points believe it or not! I just think he needs to grow up. He's 30 for goodness sake!

so why did he apply on your behalf for a job you didn't want?

Tbh I think this is pretty clear cut.

He thinks tripping up your daughter is funny.
Doesn't like her playing.
Cheated on you.
Applies to a completely unsuitable job for you even though you don't want it (does he resent you being at home?).

Can you imagine being with him in 10, 20, 30 years time? Until you die in your 90s? If it helps, assume he won't change. Twats that laugh at babies remain twats. He's 30 and hasn't grown up? I work with men who are 21, 22 and wouldn't act like this.

What are his good points? Does he pull his weight equally to you around the house?

Sorry if this seems harsh, but don't accept shit like this in your relationship. you deserve better.

its like LTB Bingo.

to be clear I don't think you should ACTUALLY LTB at this point but what is also clear from what you have posted is that he is taking the piss and has what seems from an outsider to be zero respect for you or your daughter.

If he was in fact the future partner of your DD do you think you would feel she was being treated in the way she deserved or would you agree with your DM's opinion that he is treating your/her precious daughter like crap.

Do a poll of your friends if he hasn't alienated you from them already, do any of them think it is normal the way he treats you or find it acceptable he applied for a job on your behalf?

I may get shouted at for my priorities in this this BUT tripping your DD and thinking it funny is simply the mark of an immature twat. Applying on your behalf for a job you don't want and which is clearly unsuitable for you and your DD is abusive. If they offer the job to you, would he allow you to turn it down?

I'm with the pp who said LTB and said she was serious.

You are absolutely right it wasn't funny it was awful.

I just see your life ahead with this joker from what you've said so far and I forsee a lot of heartache.

Your mum is worried about her baby getting hurt just like you are. Pack up your stuff and go to your mums. Sounds like she'll take care of you both until you're on your feet.

That behaviour is quite a bit worse than 'not thinking' or not funny.
He sounds thoroughly nasty.
I'm with your mum on this.

Can't say I can understand why you're still with him either, tbh. :(

He had an affair, he doesn't want to spend any time with his DD, he tried to trip he over (and she's only a baby ffs!) and he's applying for jobs for you - controlling much? He doesn't like his DD and he doesn't much like you either by the sound of it.

I'm with your mum, sorry. Does he have any redeeming features?

Put it this way - imagine your DD grown up and she dates a man like him.

Would you be happy for her?
Would you think how she was treated was good enough?

There's your answer then.

You have to protect your daughter. Otherwise she will grow up believing that she deserves this kind of treatment and it's how she should expect people to treat her.

So he tripped her up why?

So that she would fall & he could laugh at her?
So that she would fall & hurt herself?

Aren't both things abusive?

And he wants her to sit in a car all day so that he can pay his mum's mortgage??!!

Seriously?

Really and truly?

Why would you do this to your DD?

Listen to your mum, she is trying to protect your daughter, she shouldn't have to, you should be doing so.

Why do you still want to be with this man? After watching him do that to his/your baby daughter, are you still attracted to him? I don't see how you could possibly be.

That is baby is your your CHILD. Your job is to protect her, both physically and emotionally. He laughed when she was upset. He tried to hurt her.

If my DH ever did anything like that to any of our DC, I would ask him to leave our home immediately and he wouldn't come back. There is no dilemma there, it is a much easier decision than deciding whether to stay with a cheating partner.

If he does cruel things like that, what might he do when you are not there? How will he react if she is crying constantly (as babies and toddlers do sometimes) and he finds it stressful? He doesn't care for her in the way a parent should. He doesn't want to protect her.

Your mother is right. It is lucky that she is looking out for your DD.

Totally and utterly agree with ^. Why are you with such an utter twat?

Previous posters have pretty much said it all.

Why on earth are you with someone who want to hurt your baby?

Your mum is right. Pack your stuff up and go and stay with her.

He sounds awful.

I think you should listen to your Mum.

And FFS, why is he spending your family money on his mum's mortgage to the extent that you are short of money???