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For this to be a deal breaker?

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 13:52

Met a man who I get on with really well, he's a good friend of a good friend he treats me well but one thing annoys the hell out of me...

He's one of those annoying ranty people on FB. Every disagreement, annoyance in his life is publicised. I find it childish, cringy and quite honestly it irrationally bugs the shit out of me. He's actually not ranty in RL at all so I just don't get it.

Would this be a deal breaker for anyone else or is it just me?

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weeblueberry · 13/11/2014 13:53

I'd wonder what the hell he was going to say about me when I pissed him off tbh...

LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 13:54

I would not want to be with someone who could have two very different personalities.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 13:54

It has crossed my mind if I'm being honest.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 13:57

I'm not sure I would go quite as far as two personalities. It just seems that FB is his venting vice but to be it reeks of attention seeking/wanting sympathy. In my world we as adults suck it up, get on with it and then have a moan to a friend/partner family member behind closed doors not on facebook for the everyone to see and comment Confused

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DialMforMildred · 13/11/2014 14:00

Personally, I'd find anyone over the age of about 23 who uses Facebook as a life megaphone to be a no, thanks.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:00

Or go get drunk and disect every single detail of what's annoying you or just go dancing. This is reserved for the bigger ones though or through my divorce I may have developed some alcohol issues.

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LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 14:00

Do you think you could put up with someone very attention seeking. For me it would be very difficult to accept how he could be so different in real life but again so different on fb.
Maybe it's only a matter of time before he shows his fb side to you.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:01

Yup he's 31 so way over the age threshold of oversharing on FB? And 23?! I think by 18 you should really know better.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:02

I wouldn't care if he ranted to me about thing bugging him, wouldn't care one jot. It's really the on FB thing that annoys me.

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LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 14:03

Honestly that's a massive put off. Ranting between both of you is absolutely normal. For the world to see, comment and attention seek - not on.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:05

I wonder how a "It's not you, it's you on facebook" conversation would go Grin

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LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 14:07

If you break up with him, be prepared for a rant of it on fb Grin

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:11

Oh dear. I'm going to become that person aren't I? I'll be posting it here if there is one. Now here is the big question, do I actually tell him?

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LadyLuck10 · 13/11/2014 14:16

Just put it down to being incompatible. It's the truth though, you're more private and he's happy to display his life and feeling to all and sundry. What happens if it gets really serious and then starts sharing about you as well. I would do it now before it gets serious.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:26

Yeah I think I'll give him a ring tonight

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canweseethebunnies · 13/11/2014 14:26

At first I thought you meant about the news or politics or something, which wouldn't bother me as long as I didn't strongly disagree with his views!

But you mean about his personal life? Does he name names and slag people off, or write annoying cryptic posts about how the whole world is against him? Either way, it would put me off!

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:28

He doesn't name but he leaves no doubt about who he's talking about a lot of the time. He also does the cryptic post or the crappy quote pictures a lot.

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 14:30

Maybe I should break up with him on his FB wall, pre-empt the FB rant and let them all have at it Grin

^^ joke!

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freshstart4us · 13/11/2014 14:34

Definitely a dealbreaker, get out while you can. Any grown person who feels the need to publicise their personal life on FB has serious self-esteem and/or ego issues, it's only a matter of time before these emerge into your RL relationship.

Frogme · 13/11/2014 14:41

How awful. But if this is his only vice be totally sure because this behaviour is really dodgy then it might be worth talking to him about it. He may not be actually putting any thought into it at all. See what his response is. still can't believe that this will be his only vice

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 17:20

He phoned me, I ended it, he wasn't best pleased

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CurlyWurlyCake · 13/11/2014 17:25

Blatent place marking to read FB status rant later.

You did the right thing op

Viviennemary · 13/11/2014 17:27

I don't think I'd care very much. I don't rate FB very highly. I see you've ended it. Seems a bit harsh to me. Still it's up to you!

Frogme · 13/11/2014 17:32

Did you tell him why?

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HonestLie · 13/11/2014 17:32

I guess the topic of his main rants was what bothered me the most

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