For this to be a deal breaker?

[HonestLie]

Met a man who I get on with really well, he's a good friend of a good friend he treats me well but one thing annoys the hell out of me...

He's one of those annoying ranty people on FB. Every disagreement, annoyance in his life is publicised. I find it childish, cringy and quite honestly it irrationally bugs the shit out of me. He's actually not ranty in RL at all so I just don't get it.

Would this be a deal breaker for anyone else or is it just me?

Hmm. While amusing now, it might be more healthy to just leave it.

I have ignored the messages and the facebook request. It's the first time he's ever messaged me on whatsapp though. It's clear he wants to know when I read the messages which in itself is bizarre

Does he see when you delete them? If so, just delete them.

I think it shows when you were last online not actually when you read them. I have a lot of friends abroad so use it quite a lot so bumping whatsapp entirely although doable isn't exactly something I want to do IYSWIM. Might message my friend and ask them to PM me on FB for a while instead though

It sounds as though he's trying to play some silly game. It isn't very attractive.

Sorry to sound so po faced.

Sounds like you are well out of it OP. If only all the nutters let us see what they are like in this way!

He would be one of those who will row on facebook. I have a few friends who do and while it can be entertaining, I often think I am glad I am not part if that! I wonder about those who give their OH a right slagging off and then get no reply from him. Does he rise above it or just not go on facebook very much/at all. The best ones are when family wade in (and get told where to go)!

Bullet well dodged!!

Oh OP, he is seeming a bit more true to his FB persona than the social one that you saw. Were the first two whatssap messages just casual?

What a lovely, heart warming thread from the strong-willed, intelligent and independent OP who clearly had feelings for her partner but had a minor problem with his OCD behaviour.

How life affirming it was to see her crumble amid the sneering jibes of the mumsnet sisterhood, determined to have their own vicarious pleasure from the situation behind the safety of their keyboards.

It warmed the cockles of my heart to read about her dumping the partner as a direct result from the laughing MN intelligentsia and then taking enormous pleasure in ripping the piss from him in every possible way in light of his obvious distress for the benefit of her new internet besties.

It was just lovely to see a relationship wither and die, especially as the ex-DP was not allowed to participate at all - that would just confuse things.

This is what MN AIBU is all about. Well done!

Are you her ex? She deleted your last message you know.

Good grief Thaiglish. I really hope you're not her ex as stalking someone across the Internet is extremely creepy and really not very nice.

Isn't DP a big strong, Thaiglish, for someone she went out with a few times?

There's nothing wrong with asking for advice about something that makes you feel uncomfortable.

There's nothing wrong with ending things for any reason, no matter what it is.

Diagnosing him with OCD over this, however, is inappropriate. That would require a doctor.

Isn't it terrible how women can make up their own minds and not compromise their own values?

Putting your private life on Facebook is something some do and some don't. To me it is crass, unnecessary, and were it to ever include things aimed at or about me, extremely intrusive. For that reason I wouldn't date someone who thought it was ok.

Op, you have been utterly fair with him. Don't reply. Hopefully he'll stop trying to contact you soon.

It's all well and good joking about it all, but your sanity is most important :)

Hahaha oh blimey thaiglish projecting much?
OP has dodged a bullet and rid herself of a whiny, self absorbed creep with no self awareness. Hooray for her!

Thaiglish, have you been a little guilty of over-sharing on FB now and again?

And since when did having zero social network boundaries equal to OCD? Am I missing something here?

Quite frankly referring to someone I was seeing for a very short amount of time as "partner" and "DP" is jumping the gun a bit but hey don't let real life get in the way of your feet stomping, soapbox tantrum.

I would apologise for "ripping the piss from him in every possible way* but I won't for three reasons.

1. I haven't "ripped the piss in every possible way" at all. Actually other than asking for advice and having a bit of innocent fun with what could have been a difficult situation I haven't said much about the man. (Although I did call him a creep for his picture liking antics - shoot me!)

1. The latter of the two brings me on to my second point. In light of his obvious distress, obvious distress? Deary me, I must have completely missed that class in the University of Life Lessons, who knew that whilst in obvious distress a symptom is obsessive liking of any females FB pictures (OCD?), who knew that to combat such distress you automatically target the girl who you've just broken up with's friends with comments such as "tidy" and "hot". I'm sure that was very cockle warming for them to receive.

1. You seem to have an issue with me discussing this with people on an anonymous forum but no issue with him broadcasting what was also my private life by what he was posting on his and my friends facebook walls.

So for those reasons above your offence over this thread is pretty much lost on me so if you don't mind I would like to gather my witches back over the cauldron to have a good cackle at what a ridiculous thread to take such huge offence to. Maybe you should try not to venture into AIBU again since clearly you do not feel comfortable amongst those with swinging brick in place of hearts.

HTH.

Take a bow Honest .

here you go op, one for your wall. :-)

Social media really is a great shortcut to finding out who the clingy possessive one are.

It would certainly appear that way. At least one thing to be thankful to FB for

Thaiglish you sound like a teenager who's swallowed a pop psychology coffee table book.

Lol @ Thaiglish.