To think it's a bit weird to go clubbing with your daughter?

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A woman I went to school with has put a comment on FB that she is planning to take her daughter clubbing for the first time "to show her the moves". AIBU to think this is a bit weird? I would have refused to go clubbing with my mum.

Yep, I think it's weird, execpt for chessy hen night things. Gigs, meals pubs fine but actual clubbing? No.

I went clubbing with my mum once, and my aunt. It was hilarious

I have been out clubbing with my mum, but to be fair they were work nights out, rather than her and i specifically arranging to go together, age ranges were usually 18-50+

Have also bumped into her in a club, when she has either been with her friends or with my dad. Quick drink together and then off on our separate ways.
Everyone used to think she was my sister and wouldn't believe she was my mum!

Long gone are my clubbing days though (as are my mums!) but I cant imagine tagging along with my dc's on a night out although I don't think they would object!

My mum used to come out with me most Friday nights! She was like my best friend. I wouldn't change those years for anything.

Good on her, her daughter will treasure the memories.

I would have rather eaten my own toenails than go clubbing with my mum (back in the days when she was alive and I went there.) It would have put me off smoking, drinking and snogging random men.

Cinema or pizza, yes. Clubbing. no.

Not knocking those who do-just that despite the fact we had a good relationship, it wouldn't have crossed either o our minds.

Having read through some other responses, I'm with those who say 'your mum's your mum, not your friend.' That was our relationship, anyway.

I think that's probably the norm for most mothers and daughters, but as a one-off thing, going clubbing may not be that weird. I mean, we can't assume they're going to get really drunk and pull guys or anything. It may be a fun night for them.

"Weird" to me is something like a guy taking his son to a brothel to lose his virginity.

I think there are a lot of old fogies here who should be posting on Gransnet. Or perhaps you already do.

Thank goodness my mother was an 'old fogie'-it would have been too embarrassing for words!

My sons, at 15yrs, thought someone was of 30 yrs was old!

It depends... personally at 38 I prefer to go to the kind of places where teenagers don't go!

I don't have a teenage child (or any child) but if I did I definitely wouldn't want to see my teenager getting drunk and getting off with men; and I wouldn't want to hang out with a bunch of teenagers.

Now I have taken my mum out clubbing before - once on my birthday when I was 27 and she was in her 50s. The only place she enjoyed was a Jamaican club playing reggae where she got lots of attention off the men, and I was jealous!

The second time I took my mum out clubbing was 3 yrs ago to a cocktail bar I like that is mostly for ages 25 up to 50s.

She was 62 and was sober so when she saw how coked up everyone was she hated it. To top things off there was a couple having sex 'discreetly' (they thought) on the dancefloor - I have never seen that happen there before or since, typical that it would happen when I took mum there!

I think clubbing with your mum is acceptable depending on the mother & daughter's ages & type of relationship but personally I wouldn't do it again (well, mum is 65 now and basically wouldn't go anyway!).

I think the taking her for the first time to "show her the moves" is er odd different.

As I teen I wouldn't have wanted mum to cramp my style!

But older, why not if you both enjoy it?

Not for pulling though!

I do go out with my mum quite often for coffees & shopping, & meals / cinema at night, so does my sister, so mum isn't left with no social life - but we don't take her to clubs or bars, she just really hates them.

Boys going out for a pint with their Dad is fine I take it but girls going clubbing with their Mum is weird?

I suppose us women are supposed to be more dignified are we?

Whys that then?

I don't think it's weird, not all mothers of teenagers sit with their slippers on watching the telly every night.

Some of them actually go out

I've been out with my teenagers.

I remember going out with an older colleague & her husband (she was 46) and they left their teenage son at home with his mate.

My colleague & husband got quite drunk out in town but I was relatively sober. We then came home to find the son & his mate had got completely wrecked on my colleagues' vodka, the son was unconscious - my colleague & husband started having a row about it but they were too drunk to actually help their son, so I had to change him (he was soaked in urine, yuck) and put him to bed on his side so he didn't choke on his vomit.

I think both the son & his parents were equally immature in that scenario!
In fact I stopped hanging out with them because the parents wouldn't stop smoking dope in front of their children, & encouraged them to smoke & drink as well.

Each to their own.

I have often been out for a drink with my mum

dinner, cinema (and my dad) but clubbing is different there is something about being free and wild in a club an experience i would not want to share with my parents

plus i was taking drugs (as many other were, not all) who wants to do that around their parents

Yup, it's weird.
Seems a bit needy, or showing an inability to 'let your children grow' (or go?)

The very thought of clubbing makes me feel tired.

Can't see me doing it with either of mine but I think it's ace if you do. I'd like to think I'd go to a pub with mine early evening -ish. Any later than 11pm and I start wanting my bed.

I would see them as needy mothers.

Well, I think the place they're going to (in my home town) used to be a complete meat market. Of course, that could have changed in the last 15 years.

I'm in the "your mum is your mum not your friend" camp too.

My mum and I get on really, really well. But still no.

I don't think it's weird. Depends on your outlook on life. It seems to be a crime on here to say you enjoy going out with your friends and having a few drinks and a dance. I don't really go in for competitive homebody ness if there's such a word.

One of my best friends has just turned 60 while I am 35 and I love going out with her when I'm not pregnant. She dresses in fashionable, classy clothes and is a great dancer. We wouldn't go to a nightclub but would dance at a late bar.