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AIBU?

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To think it's a bit weird to go clubbing with your daughter?

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CruCru · 12/11/2014 08:02

A woman I went to school with has put a comment on FB that she is planning to take her daughter clubbing for the first time "to show her the moves". AIBU to think this is a bit weird? I would have refused to go clubbing with my mum.

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whois · 12/11/2014 08:52

personally can never understand why anyone over the age of 25 enjoys clubbing

Because some people actually enjoy the music and dancing! It's not all drink till your sick and go home with some random bloke you know.

Quite a few of the DJs I go to see have a bit of an older following as well as newer younger fans.

I have never liked 'clubbing' but I do very much enjoy going to certain venues (clubs) when certain DJs or nights are on.

DamselNotInHerDress · 12/11/2014 08:56

Eminy
That's hilarious!
OP, I have done loads of things with my mum, we have had days out to the races, evening trips to the pub (with others but still together), pub quizzes, weekends away etc. I don't go clubbing as it's not my cup of tea, but she used to love it. Besides, if we went together, she'd show me up with her moves for sure!
I'm not sure if I find it weird or not really.

SnookyPooky · 12/11/2014 08:58

I used to go clubbing with my Mum, it was great.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 12/11/2014 09:20

I did it once. Not much fun watching your mum doing slut drops to Beyoncé.

ChoochiWoo · 12/11/2014 09:23

Id have never gone clubbing with my mum. But some mums are more 'down witj the kids'

Lj8893 · 12/11/2014 09:27

I don't think its odd. Ive been clubbing with my mum once or twice, but neither of us are that into nightclubs. We have been to the pub together lots since i turned 18 16 though. And we have been to Glastonbury together several times, and partied! We have a very good relationship though.

Mrsjayy · 12/11/2014 09:53

Ive been out with my dd at different things concerts and meals and the pub I just think the going to a club for a dds first time is a bit odd

Wolfbasher · 12/11/2014 10:02

I would be very flattered if my DD wanted me to go clubbing with her. As I am 40 years older than her, I very much doubt she will. Also, wild horses would not drag me back over the threshold of somewhere dark and noisy and lairy.

(I almost wrote smokey, but I suppose that's not the case anymore - see how out of touch I am!)

TexanKenDoll · 12/11/2014 10:08

For me, I think it depends on what kind of club it is. Some of the sweaty, sticky-floored dives of my youth or Ministry of Sound type place, no. Grown up club like Annabel's or similar, yes. But everyone is different and it's not for me to say it's wrong. My mum often laments the fact that she doesn't get to dance that often anymore as she lives out in the sticks mainly.

Lj8893 · 12/11/2014 10:26

I think it completely depends on the two individuals and their relationship.

HearMyRoar · 12/11/2014 10:29

I find it odd that there are people who think it is strange to go out with your child after a certain age. I have no doubt that the clubbing night will be very different for both of them then it would if they were going out with mates but that doesn't mean they won't have a great time.

My mum has awesome taste in music and I used to go to loads of gigs with her. It was great.

I expect that if dd has similar taste to dh when she grows up then he will happily take her out to gigs and electronica nights and they would have a lovely time. I don't think this is odd at all.

fourwoodenchairs · 12/11/2014 10:30

Why on earth is it weird? Genuinely confused.

Mulligrubs · 12/11/2014 10:32

It's not weird. When I turned 18 my mum was 38 and I went clubbing with her. It was great!

fluffyraggies · 12/11/2014 10:33

I used to go clubbing till my mid 30s. My behavior was awful and i wouldn't have wanted my DDs seeing it!

They are much much better behaved and more sensible people than i ever was. And i like it that way.

Mrsjayy · 12/11/2014 10:36

The clubs round here are grim and packed with underagers mostly or stumbled from the pub middle aged women strange mix of people. I just think a , mum tagging along with her dd and mates first time clubbing crosses a boundary

TOADfan · 12/11/2014 10:37

I don't go clubbing but I'm always going out with my mum. I love 70s/80s bars and so does she.

usually I'm the one carrying her home

My mum's my best friend as well though and I love nights out with her. .

I'm 25 and she's 47 btw.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/11/2014 10:43

Good Lord no, I'm her Mum not her mate. I've done more than my share of clubbing in my time; at 50 I'm more happy with DP, a bottle of wine and a box set.

DD is very hardcore anyway; dancing all night, home on the first train at 7, I would be wrecked for a week. I'm happy to have passed on my party queen crown.

TsukuruTazaki · 12/11/2014 10:45

I would find it weird to go clubbing with my mum.

It's not the same at all as going out for a few drinks in a bar or oub - to me that is normal and I do it with my mum or dad or any relative.

It's possibly the dancing element that makes it seem a bit cringey

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 12/11/2014 10:47

It's completely weird. Even if the Mother likes clubbing, she's no need to go with her child! Clubs are for showing off, pulling and for dancing and drinking. Not really things parents need to do alongside their offspring.

stephanielittl7 · 12/11/2014 10:50

Its not weird at all i used to go clubbing with my Mum loads of times and we used to get pissed together! Wish we could do it again but sadly shes no longer with us I do miss those days.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/11/2014 10:50

Tsukuru. Not to mention the coping off element.

I'm afraid I would be all, "what are your intentions young man?" And I would be judgy about the booze and drugs (and probably the music as well).

And no one would ever, ever say, " No surely you two are sisters?"

Oldraver · 12/11/2014 10:50

I used to go clubbing (proper clubbing for the music, non of this drinking to get drunk and pull a random shit). There were always slightly older people who eventually introduced their now old enough DC.

KeepAbreast · 12/11/2014 10:54

I've taken my mum out a few times. On one memorable occasion she pissed on my shoes then went home with a bloke younger than me. Her dancing is terrible as well

TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/11/2014 10:55

Who needs their parents to show them how to go clubbing though? Seriously.

Actually, one of DD's mate's Mums is newly single, and has started making comments about going out with them. All the girls, (including her daughter) are appalled by the idea.

Callani · 12/11/2014 10:59

When I was younger a friend's mum used to come out with us occasionally. I think she thought she was cool but it was really cringeworthy.

She was single and would flirt with creeps which somehow meant we had to put up with their creepy friends. If a friend did that you'd just leave them to it, but because it was friend's mum we felt obliged to stick around. She used to brag about attracting more guys than her daughter and nobody could bring themselves to point out that it was because her daughter had standards. She was also convinced that she passed as one of the girls but, looking back at photos, we were all (so very) young looking 18 yos whereas she was obviously an attractive 40 yo.

Now, maybe some women go clubbing with the daughters because they truly like the dancing and just want to have fun - but my money's on it being more like what we experienced...

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