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Original poster

To think no you can't have your fecking dog back!

191 replies

Catthiefkeith · 08/11/2014 07:35

Last August an acquaintance of dh's was trying to rehome a dog on FB for her mil, who got a Labrador puppy, despite having a heart problem and not being able to walk very far.

The Mils condition worsened, and necessitated long hospital stays so after much debate dh and I took the dog, and gave her £100, rather than her be pts or flogged in FB.

We have since had her spayed, and her microchip changed into our name.

The mil has been in touch to say her other son has just left the army, and could therefore do the walking, and can she have the dog back?Shock

Aibu to say no you can't you cheeky cow, we love her and she is very much part of our family.Angry

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fuzzpig · 08/11/2014 09:24

Not their dog anymore since they sold her. It must be horrible for them missing her but if they knew they'd want her back they should've made other arrangements to have her looked after in the meantime, not put her up for sale threatening PTS! Shock

FannyFifer · 08/11/2014 09:28

There really are some idiotic people around.

It's your dog & I would not be polite about stating this firmly.

Original poster
Catthiefkeith · 08/11/2014 10:23

Sorry for the absence, I am at work today.

Am composing an email and will put it up later on.

For those that asked, unfortunately I paid cash. Sad

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ImTheOneThatKnocks · 08/11/2014 10:23

I would keep the email short and polite. It's clearly your dog. Save all your 'evidence' for later but there is no need to say anymore at this stage.

Dear Previous Owner

Thanks for the email. I am pleased to hear that you are feeling better

Unfortunately we don't want to sell the dog. We bought it from your daughter on XXX for £££ on the very clear understanding that it was a permanant arrangement

Yours
CatTheifKeith

Nomama · 08/11/2014 10:34

I wouldn't say anything about "it was a permanent arrangement" a sale is a sale.

You have the fb stuff, microchip, vet fees and physical custody. The dog is yours.

Your response needs only to be a short and concise "We bought the dog over a year ago and have no intention of selling her. Kind Regards,"

Bakeoffcakes · 08/11/2014 10:39

I agree with PP. just keep the email very short and to the point.

Gather all your "evidence" together, just in case, but you don't need to get into all that now.

Crazy woman just needs to be told today, that you will not be giving your dog to them.

ImTheOneThatKnocks · 08/11/2014 10:42

You are right; 'permanant arrangement' isnt the best wording.

SnakeyMcBadass · 08/11/2014 10:44

Hell, no. Be very firm that this is not going to happen. Bloody cheek of her Angry

pictish · 08/11/2014 10:46

Nomama's is good.

Hello
Pleased you're well.
Nah...nah. And nah.

Kind regards.

raltheraffe · 08/11/2014 10:48

Legally it is YOUR dog and she is being cheeky.
I had a similar situation. I had a beautiful Doberman whose granddad had been Best of Breed in Crufts. Cost me a fortune. I became very unwell and had to spend 6 months in hospital. During this time my dad took in the Doberman, fed him, walked him, paid for any vet care etc. When I got out of hospital I went to collect Doberman and could see he was happy, settled and now bonded to my dad. My dad had bonded with the dog and would have been upset to part with him.
I felt it was in the pet's best interests to stay with my dad. Removing the dog would have upset him and my dad.
I am disappointed that this woman is placing her needs over the dog. The dog is happy and settled with you. Dogs are pack animals and view their owners as part of their pack. Changing family is disruptive and upsetting to them.

BathshebaDarkstone · 08/11/2014 10:52

YANBU. She's your dog, you paid for her. Smile

diddl · 08/11/2014 10:57

I'm assuming that she got the money & knows that the dog was sold, not just being looked after until she could have it back?

championnibbler · 08/11/2014 10:58

Absolutely not. YANBU.
Some people are just piss takers.

TooMuchCantBreathe · 08/11/2014 11:06

Nomama is right, no need to enter discussion. You purchased the dog, end of. If you want to send something longer then add a paragraph wishing them luck in their search for a new dog. Don't discuss vets, chips or anything else, all you do is open up discussion or argument and potential trouble (what's to stop them saying you faked the chip form or something) just don't give them any wiggle room.

"We purchased the dog August 2013 and we are not considering selling" K.R. cat

TheCunnyFunt · 08/11/2014 11:08

YADefinitelyNBU! You paid for her and she's been a part of your family over a year! There's no question, she's your dog!

PurpleSwift · 08/11/2014 11:10

Yanbu!!

patienceisvirtuous · 08/11/2014 11:14

Hopefully she'll sod off once she gets a firm no.

I would add in to the email that you have FB evidence re sale and dog chipped, insured and vet registered to you. She seems sneaky and by stating your evidence upfront hopefully she will leave it there.

lougle · 08/11/2014 11:14

Hmm.... reading back, did you give the £100 to the mother or the daughter? Was your discussion about re homing with the mother or the daughter?

I'm wondering if the mother had any say in the matter, in which case you'd need to be kinder than if your 'contract' was with the mother herself.

but still don't give the dog back under any circumstances

Tiredemma · 08/11/2014 11:14

Just say No thank you.

What is she likely to do? Call the police??

ghostvitruvius · 08/11/2014 11:18

I'd also stick to "we bought the dog 15 months ago and have no intention of selling her".

CeliaFate · 08/11/2014 11:25

Also, I don't know what type of family they are, but I'd take extra precautions to ensure they don't try and steal her.

Take lots of photos. It may be paranoid and silly, but I wouldn't take any chances.

Original poster
Catthiefkeith · 08/11/2014 11:27

I gave the £100 to her son when he dropped the dog off.

I had a conversation over the phone with her the day before, promised I would love the dog, and treat her well. She even said 'if ever you want to rehome her, we would always have her back - I would rather she went without walks with me once I am better than ended up in a rescue' I assured her that we would be keeping the dog for life, and there was absolutely no way that we would ever need to rehome her, but assured her that I would be in touch if ever we did' no chance

This is the email I was thinking of sending:

Dear Crazy Lady,

How lovely that your son is home, and you are feeling so much better.

Since we purchased Daisy from you back in August 2013 we have become very attached to her, and she is a much loved member of our family.

Therefore she is definitely not for sale.

Best wishes

CTK

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Sundaysmumisfullofwine · 08/11/2014 11:30

I'd say no, you're not having the dog back, but as you've now found the KC paperwork for her please do drop it off to me asap.

raltheraffe · 08/11/2014 11:30

EVERYONE should take precautions against the theft of a dog. Even though my current 2 are cross-breeds so are less valuable to a thief, they could still be taken and used as bait to train illegal fighting dogs.
Always supervise dogs when they go for a wee in the garden, never leave them tied up outside shops and make sure they are microchipped.
If they do go missing open a case with doglost.co.uk, which is free and contact your local DogLost co-ordinator. I do voluntary work for DogLost and it is depressing how many animals get stolen.

raltheraffe · 08/11/2014 11:33

I would stay polite and factual in all contact. Do not be tempted to lose your rag and tell her to fuck off, in case she pursues this at small claims.
If she does take you to small claims she has ZERO chance of winning, so just go along with it but always stay polite.