XH refusing point blank to look at baby pictures. Who is BU?

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DD3 has tried to show her dad some pics of baby DD4 (her half sister). He's completely refused to look - ''he's not ready'' apparently!?

We've been divorced nearly 7 years and both remarried FGS. What the hell is this about? What do i say to DD? This has made her very uncomfortable. I think he's being such a twat. AIBU?

No-one is expecting him to be fascinated by the baby's every milestone, including the OP.

Just questioning why he can't be do basicic politeness to his daughter, regardless of any ishoos from the divorce. I'm not saying he doesn't have the "right" to be uninterested, or even that he doesn't have the right to be rude to his daughter and give her the brush-off.

Neither of those are illegal. But the second one is an action, and being rude to people and being unwilling to even do polite conversation with them affects your relationship with them. Because other people have the right to think that you're rude when you've been rude!

He has no manners. But it does sound like she probably didn't expect him to have an interest, since he already has expressed not wanting to hear about your life.

I can't understand why any decent parent would choose to add to the difficulties that their child may have experienced as a result of their parents' break-up, by having such a bad attitude towards the child's half-siblings?

The child didn't choose to have seperated parents and subsequently half-siblings. The adults in the situation made the choices that led the child here. Why would you deliberately behave in a way which makes your child feel that they have to tiptoe around fragile adult emotions and accommodate s**t a that a child whose parents never broke up doesn't have to? Over your petty "right" to be disinterested?

Selfish self-centred people with "my ex's other children are nothing to me" attitudes - you have a child in the middle of this to whom you, your ex and any other children on either side are ALL their family. Wouldn't you rather your child felt secure and enveloped by a loving (extended) family, if at all possible?

For some posters, it seems that as a parent, your disinterest and bitterness towards an ex trumps your child's feelings? Lovely...