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To have told a woman to take her shivering child home to bed in Primark

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BigRedBall · 05/11/2014 17:55

I went out today to get a few bits and bobs and ended up in a Primark. Got to the lifts and saw a woman waiting with a pushchair and on it was hanging a school bag. Looked to her side and she had a school aged child with her who was visibly ill, shivering, moaning. I assumed she'd picked him up from school and was dropping by on way home, but then realised school bag was from a school other side of town.

We went up together and the boy was whimpering now and looked really bad. The mother didn't seem to notice/care.

So I was walking around and the tanoy went off asking for a store cleaner to go to "area bla bla bla" for a clean up. Didn't really take any notice until I walked to the other side of the shop and the same woman was standing there with a now crying baby in pushchair and crying/ shivering child who had been sick all over the shop floor. There were splatters of pink sick on clothes, the mirrors, it was disgusting and she was stood there on the phone to someone and was telling the boy off.

I don't know about anyone else, but when my children get ill and shiver like that with fever, the last thing I'd do is traipse them across town. I'd give them a hug and put them in bed and hold their head if they were being sick. Goodness knows vomiting is draining even for an adult.

I felt so angry for the poor boy. So I walked up to her and said "instead of bringing him to the shops from school, you should've taken him home to bed. I'd take him straight home and give the poor thing a hug".

I think she was more shocked than anything.

DH thinks I wbu and is shocked I'd say that to someone. I don't think I am. Also, I now feel sick and think I have his germs.

OP posts:
Ir1na · 06/11/2014 22:02

Is this just a general chat thread? Oooh. Smile

OttiliaVonBCup · 06/11/2014 22:06

Just what the world needs.

A second instalment of the infamous primark barf bun fight thread.

It's a good TP story though.
Grin

OttiliaVonBCup · 06/11/2014 22:08

I'm off to bed.
Try not to get deleted in the meanwhile!

motherofmonster · 06/11/2014 22:09

What's a TP story?

OttiliaVonBCup · 06/11/2014 22:10

Tattooed pensioner.
Night night.

motherofmonster · 06/11/2014 22:13

Sleep tight, and don't let the bed bugs bite Grin

mutternutter · 06/11/2014 22:29

What if it had been in waistrose?

andsmile · 06/11/2014 22:31

What a waste of starwberries - I hope they were at least English season Straws think of the environment perrrlease.

Pollyteacakes · 06/11/2014 22:45

Glass of wine anyone?

Thebodynowchillingsothere · 06/11/2014 23:02

polly that's the best post yet.

Op you really don't need support or pming do you? Seriously joking apart take a grip!

If you really feel bruised please don't post on aibu, it's mostly lighthearted exchanges and a good bum fight.

Lots of us pm bereaved posters or posters suffering really dreadful things.

You really arnt are you!

Thebodynowchillingsothere · 06/11/2014 23:03

Bun not bum obviously! Grin

fourwoodenchairs · 06/11/2014 23:03

We're bum fighting now are we Grin

Thebodynowchillingsothere · 06/11/2014 23:04

Naughty naughty Grin

motherofmonster · 06/11/2014 23:13

Bum fight Grin

Thebodynowchillingsothere · 06/11/2014 23:16

Everybody was bum foo fighting!

It's a hit I tell you!

GimliMinge · 06/11/2014 23:17

MiddletonPink
If you're going to open your big mouth in a situation like this the least you can is make it count. The OP didn't. She didn't offer this woman any help. She didn't try and help the little boy. She did nothing. So why is opening her mouth the right thing to do in this instance? What good did it do?

Did you see the post by Raininginnovember?
^I actually think the OP was unreasonable, but I have to say, in my 'youth' (such as it was) I was often treated pretty badly by the adults around me. Not abusively, but as if I were a nuisance, a pain, for actually just being a normal,well behaved child. I did behave well but I was a child. My mother had died. I remember once, one 'carer' yelling at me in McDonald's and an elderly man quietly said 'how dare you speak to the young lady like that.'
Carer shut up and I felt wonderful. I went home glowing that someone had noticed me and stood up for me and been kind to me. It also assured me that the behaviour of the adults in my life was poor, not my own behaviour. It gave me a real lift.^

That's the good it might have done.
Made that child feel for half a second that he wasn't just a bad boy who made a mess.
And all the comparisons in the thread to completely different situations! More straw men than any farm.

motherofmonster · 06/11/2014 23:27

Is now singing..
.everybody was bum foo fighting. The posts came fast as lightning
Grin

IneedAwittierNickname · 06/11/2014 23:41

This thread was bat shit. But onthe whole it's made me laugh Grin

And for the record, I've taken a child who's been sent home sick into town. I had to. I had to get to work and my mum was picking him up. Doing handover in town stopped me being an hour late for work. And I popped into a shop while we waited for her.
Luckily he didn't vomit!
And no it wasn't my finest parenting hour but as a single mum with bills to pay. ..

And I'll also admit that in the past when I've of the dc has puked I've responded with "oh for goodness sake" of course I then apologise because it's not their fault but I'm only human.

SinisterBuggyMonth · 06/11/2014 23:57

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fourwoodenchairs · 07/11/2014 07:06

Actually chuckling out loud at bum foo fighting

Thebodynowchillingsothere · 07/11/2014 07:56

It's an image best not thought of.Grin

PerpendicularVincenzo · 07/11/2014 08:25

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CrashDiveOnMingoCity · 07/11/2014 08:28

Am I the only one who thinks that pink vomit could only improve the decor on Primark? Now, don't get me wrong, I am no snob (I can only afford Tesco clothes or similar) but it really has gone downhill. I used to fill my whole wardrobe with clothes from there but now, I head straight for the sock department. At least their socks are still decent quality!

fourwoodenchairs · 07/11/2014 08:35

They do great socks I must admit. I've always quite liked their pump shoes too. Never given me blisters!

MiaowTheCat · 07/11/2014 08:42

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