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To think my friend is being way to serious about this?

121 replies

SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 03/11/2014 14:39

Dd is 5 and can't get the word ' animal' right. She says aminal.
I find it cute and do correct her but gently remind her and she has a think about it and when she says it slowly she gets it right.
But like I said I find it cute and am guessing she will grow out of it.

Df was round earlier and dd mentioned something about animals but said it the wrong way and df told her she said it wrong but dd wasn't really listening as she was running about with the puppy.
Anyway df had a bit of a go at me about how can I let her talk like that kids will make fun of her , do I not care? You get the picture.
I told her to lighten up dd would be fine and changed the subject. But when she left she was still moody.

Aibu to think she's a kid she'll grow out of it?

OP posts:
hiddenhome · 03/11/2014 14:42

Yes, she'll grow out of it. Your friend sounds a bit neurotic.

StarlingMurmuration · 03/11/2014 14:44

Jeez. I still occasionally mix up words like that ('par cark' especially for some reason) and I'm 36 with a doctorate. It hasn't led to bullying or a ruined life, so even if she still does it as an adult (which I'm sure she won't), it's not the end of the world. My partner actually thinks it's cute.

I have a grip I can send to your friend, just let me know where to direct it.

tywysogesgymraeg · 03/11/2014 14:45

Of course she'll grow out of it. I said hopsital until I was 7 or 8. I now say hospital!

LadyPenny · 03/11/2014 14:45

Friend is a loon Smile.

My 7 year old dd can't say deodorant. She says drodrunt. Dh thinks its hugely cute and is always asking her to say it just because it makes him smile.

Missm00 · 03/11/2014 14:46

YANBU!!!
I have a 19m dd, and she can't pronounce several of her words properly eg, "potty" is "potsey"
which I also think is cute. I had people pick up on that too, so I asked the hv about it she said it's fine. They will learn eventually, and some sounds are harder to learn than others. Smile

SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 03/11/2014 14:48

Thank you. It's not even like she doesn't have kids. She has three. Although they're all over ten now.

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Bowlersarm · 03/11/2014 14:48

Oh god she would hate us, we still use words in the family that the DC got wrong when they were little such as 'popliar' for 'popular' -ds1, now 18, and 'napnap' for 'apple' ds2 now 16. We try and confine it to at home but sometimes we slip up in public Grin

CaptainSinker · 03/11/2014 14:48

Your friend sounds silly and uptight.

Does she have kids? If not, you can remind her of such gems if she goes on to have her own.

CaptainSinker · 03/11/2014 14:49

Cross post. She has no excuse then!

Riverland · 03/11/2014 14:50

Your friend is on a passive aggressive trip all of her own.

Your daughter is cute and will shift naturally.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/11/2014 14:51

Its perfectly normal and your dd will grow out of it, the little girl I nanny for used to say 'culery' instead of cutlery, shes 9 now and hasnt said it for at least 2 years.

YoooSkylaaaarrrrrggghh · 03/11/2014 14:51

YANBU. I love it when little ones mispronounce, it is cute, ( and normal).How peculiar of your friend to get so arsey! And I'm glad your dd took no notice whatsoever !

Thumbscrewswitch · 03/11/2014 14:54

Meh, she'll grow out of it. DS1 had some really cute mispronunciations that we didn't bother to correct - MIL seemed to think we should, so would do it for us Hmm
He's nearly 7 now and doesn't have any of them left, but that's ok. He's growing up so he's naturally left them behind. Your DD will too. :)

SistersOfPercy · 03/11/2014 14:57

Your friend needs to remove her knickers from her arse and relax.
I'm 41, it will always be fublic pootpath unless I think very very carefully before I say it Blush

MrsDeVere · 03/11/2014 15:01

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SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 03/11/2014 15:04

Your friend is definitely over thinking - fwi I'm in my 40s and I still to concentrate if I want to say Dustin Hoffman's name correctly.

PlumpingUpPartridge · 03/11/2014 15:04

DH and I now say 'sketty' rather than spaghetti, even when there are no children around Blush we've gone native.....

I have no doubt that the kids will learn to speak in a more conventional fashion in their own good time. Your friend is being ridiculous (and I suspect she was teased at school).

BitOutOfPractice · 03/11/2014 15:06

My friends DD says "bufferly" instead of "butterfly". I purposely ask her to say it about 40 times when she's round here because it's so cute.

Your friend needs to get a gwip!

Ilovehamabeads · 03/11/2014 15:10

Your friend IBU. My dd at 5 said dabloon instead of balloon and my DS would say cumcuber instead of cucumber. We never made them feel silly, they could say it if we broke the word down but not all at once. It used to make me chuckle. Now several years later there's nothing wrong with the way they pronounce those words.

RufusTheReindeer · 03/11/2014 15:13

Ds1 says aminal!!

He is 15 Confused

Still cute (and he doesn't do it every time anymore )

We still call our computer the "Pooter" following ds2!!

Ignore your friend

SuperConfused · 03/11/2014 15:14

Actually, I can see where she's coming from a bit, even if she did go over the top - I think not correcting your child because you think its 'cute' is a little bit like laughing at them (though obviously not meant negatively). My parents were really strict about correcting us and I remember them getting annoyed at neighbours who laughed at mispronunciation because they said it would mask speaking impediments. That is a bit OTT, but I think if a child kept falling over because they weren't riding a bike correctly you'd try and correct their technique rather than laughing at them and thinking they'd figure it out, so I'm not sure just because it sounds cute is enough of a reason to ignore it.

I was gently corrected whenever I made an error and it meant that in school I had a significant head start with grammar etc because I 'knew' what sounded right. There are studies that suggest most of language acquisition should be done like this, so 'going along' with a family mispronunciation won't help in the long run. That being said, its not a huge deal, and obviously doing it in a way that would make your child anxious is not helpful.

SistersOfPercy · 03/11/2014 15:28

As an aside, I could listen to Benedict Cumberbatch say Pengwings all afternoon Grin

Firbolg · 03/11/2014 15:32

I think your friend is neurotic and interfering. If five year olds always laughed at one another for mispronunciations, they would be rolling on the floor 24/7.

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 03/11/2014 15:41

Ds1 is seven and also says 'aminal'.

He can say it correctly and does outside the house, but dd and ds2 picked up his mispronunciation so he says it like that so they don't feel excluded. I would always say it correctly so he knew he was getting it wrong but didn't get stressed about it, and now he can say it perfectly well.

I wonder if your friend had parents like mine who used to shout at me for stuttering. It does not help at all but it does make you neurotic.

Idontseeanysontarans · 03/11/2014 15:46

Pengwings was hilarious Grin
DS called spaghetti 'pewgetti', totally mangled the word Hippopotamus and called dinosaurs 'roararoars' for years and they are the ones I can remember! it passed naturally and he speaks perfectly fine Smile
YANBU

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