to be disappointed in some mumsnetters

[Jemima1988]

My mum started me on mums net last year when I really needed advice and help regarding a few different issues.
I wasn't keen on the idea originally but I got a lot of helpful responses to my posts and mumsnet is now a daily Pitstop for me.
recently I have seen people being horrible, bitchy and downright mean regarding peoples problems or their English skills.
when did we stop being helpful and supportive?

Or rather; don't bite, people

Or an op will start a thread about how she's leaving mumsñet as its getting not very nice at the moment. And posters will type stuff like bye bye don't let the door hit you on the way out, good riddence! Thus just confirms what the op is saying. It stoops very low, no need for it!

I think that's a bit much as well tbh. It's very childish.

There are two posters who show IMO particularly bitchy behaviour. They have not written on this thread though. I am shocked at the lengths I have seen them go to, to support their bitchy and bullying comments, like searching through the OP's history and pulling and then parading something written three years ago and it being entirely out of context

So I see what your point is, as being on here for 2 years now, I have witnessed some shocking stuff. BUT the vast majority of people on here are either lovely, funny, kind, carefully honest and wise.

Sometimes I don't start threads as I know I will be ripped to shreds or there will be some nasty posts.

I have seen Mumsnet at its utter best. There was a lady called Babynamechange who courts ruled her young ds had to go to contact, even though ex was abusing him. The support financial and emotional she got on here was fantastic.

Another one I remember, was a young baby was left with a Mumsentter late at night by its mum (her friend) whilst she went partying. The mother did not leave any formula or nappies for this baby. The op had young children herself who were asleep and she could not get to the shop to buy formula, she did not have neighbours. Mumsnetters were fantastic, op gave her location, and local Mumsnetters rallied around to get Formula for this baby and help the op.

Or an op will start a thread about how she's leaving mumsñet

I'm trying to pronounce Mumsnet in Spanish now.

sorry I accidently hit a rogue key on my i pad

When you post on an online forum with such a large number of people from all parts of the world, you are likely to get a few responses that don't agree with you or your views. It can be catty on here at times and some people can be a little rude at times.

Out of interest, I just read the rules for posting on Netmums. Fucking hell, I've seen shorter tenancy agreements.

No arguing and no swearing? What kind of fluffy state of madness is it to make a rule that everyone on a forum has to politely agree with each other?

If a bit of grumpy bun chucking is the price we pay for free speech, then I am all for it.

Really, No arguing Porky?

I can't see that lasting long on here

That's what the long, long, long list of rules says. I can't see how that would work at all, even there. But if this was Netmums, you're all getting deleted, even the OP. No controversial subjects is a rule too.

I've seen great, supportive behaviour on MN and nasty bullying as well. On AIBU you're getting the best and worst of both worlds. It seems to depend on the first couple of responses to an OP, if they're "biscuit" "get down to the grip shop" "are you on glue" etc., it tends to be a free for all for all the seanuts to wade in.

The vitriol towards other females that MNs don't know and have never met, only have the OPs "word" to go on is astounding sometimes, and it seems to be a lot of projection rather than measured response.

The sketchiest of OPs saying that someone's been let down by a couple of mates or somebody didn't "like" their status enough on the dreaded Facebook can elicit replies like "they are cunts OP, ditch the bitches now!" and similar hysterical nonsense.

Just de-reg if you don't like it. Simple.

Something else that often happens is woe betide any OP that mentions personal appearance or ethnicity. Even if the gist of it was "I've just been seriously assaulted by a fat white guy with really bad BO, AIBU to call the police and have him arrested" there will be MNetters determined to derail the thread with statements like "was it really necessary to mention his weight/colour/personal hygiene OP???"

I know Sophia don't you dare mention ethnicity, sex or disability, you will certainly get a good bolloking

There are quite a few OPs where such things are unnecessarily mentioned.

Even in the example Sophia have that info would be completly irrelevant

How can you avoid controversial subjects? A quick glance at AIBU will tell you that some apparently innocuous subjects are, in fact, hugely controversial.

I agree that there are some OPs when such information is mentioned and isn't relevant, the point I'm trying to make (in a hamfisted way) is that often the real gist of the AIBU is ignored in favour of attacking the OP for some other tenuous reason. Hope that makes sense, I'm not advocating racism, sexism or disablism (don't think that's a word even).

But if people stuck to the facts rather than trying to make irrelevant digs in their opening post then people wouldn't be able to focus on the irrelevant rubbish that some ops feel the need to include.

Your disappointment, expressed thus, will scar me for life, OP. How dare you.

@Calamitouslywrong

"The woman complaining about the smell was unreasonable though, autism or not. You can't be reasonable complaining about a waft of shit in a public toilet whatever your reasons for disliking it."

I disagree, people on the autistic spectum can be hypersensitive to particular smells. That is part of their condition.