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To think engagement gift lists should just not be a thing?

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Boysclothes · 30/10/2014 22:48

I'm very laid back about weddings, think you can do whatever you want, don't mind a gift list or even a poem, think it's rude NOT to take a gift etc etc.

Got invited to an engagement party end of November. In the invite was a card with their engagement gift list details at JLs.

Just had a look and the stuff is wedding list stuff. Crockery, cutlery, sauce
pans, vases... Only one thing under twenty five quid. 75% of the stuff is over £75. The party is drinks in a bar, no meal or anything.

Is it me or am I going to be expected to buy basically two wedding gifts for this couple? And AIBU to find this very grabby and tacky?

(BTW, I don't need too much advice here. I will take a bottle of champagne and a card or get them twenty quids of JL vouchers. This thread is purely for judgementalism)

OP posts:
ZingOfSeven · 06/11/2014 01:27

oh can we do engagement presents retrospectively?

I could do with a new washing machine!Grin

AlleyCat11 · 06/11/2014 01:43

Everything to do with weddings is so incredibly tacky nowadays. I'm actually not surprised by this engagement party gift list business...

Failedspinster · 06/11/2014 03:26

100% grabby. I would completely ignore it. A card is a nice gesture but a gift comes after the wedding, not before.

lupo5 · 06/11/2014 04:59

Engagement list ??? I have never heard of it,honestlyHmm.I would give them nice champagne and a card....

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