Husband & Brother-in-law acting like kids

[OliviaBlue]

Hey guys, a little bit of background - my DH & I have been married for just over 7 years and we have two children. Generally my DH & I get along great, but lately we've been a little off.

My DH's brother is 2 years younger than him and they've always been pretty close but never saw each other much because his brother lived and worked in Michigan. That was until January this year when he moved back to California because my MIL became ill (she's fine now) and he ended up staying and working here.

So anyway, DH & BIL act really dumb together, like kids and BIL is always over at our house. Just the other week (last Wednesday), I got home from work at around 1pm and started cleaning up in the kitchen. DH had the day off so he was down in the basement fixing shelving that came down. So BIL comes over and asks where DH is and I say, so he goes down to the basement. Anyway, a lot of time passed and the kids came home from school and I spoke to them then sent them upstairs to do their homework while I started dinner. So I started thinking, where the hell is DH and BIL? So I went down to the basement and they were naked and they were grappling and wrestling and laughing. I just kind of stared at them and they didn't even see me, so I was just like, "Dinner will be ready soon and you need to come upstairs.". I mean, I thought it was pretty sketch, but I didn't want dinner to burn and I was going out later with my girlfriends, so I just went back upstairs.

So I finished up with dinner and called the kids down and gave them their food at the table and then DH & BIL came up from the basement and into the kitchen. They were dressed again, but DH had a bruised looking eye and BIL had a kind of swollen bottom lip and a missing tooth and was holding a tissue to his nose. He left and DH sat at the table and started talking like nothing was wrong. So I waited till the kids were finished eating and had went to go play upstairs then said to DH that I was getting kind of sick of how childish he and BIL were acting and that I would prefer he not come over so often. So DH started sulking and gave me silent treatment. I didn't really have time for it though, because I was going out, so I just went and got ready and left. When I came home the next day, he still wasn't talking to me, and eventually he said I was being unreasonable to expect him to not have BIL over at our house.

I don't think it is unreasonable after the way they've been goofing around. I guess I just wanted to hear other people's opinions about it all.

It takes a lot to make me laugh but this did it, especially "just when I think there's nothing left to talk about on MN BAM! Naked Fight Club"

The wrestling thing I can understand. Sort of. I wouldn't like it, but I would understand it.

The naked thing…..not so much.

Okay, just in case anyone was still wondering, I spoke to DH when he got home tonight and told him I'd posted on here and he thought it was funny, so I got kind of annoyed and said I wanted a serious explanation.

He said that BIL started being dumb and play fighting him so he joined in and then BIL took his shirt off and acted a smartass, jumping around like a boxer, so DH did it too. Then BIL took his pants off, like playing around, so DH did that too and then BIL ended up taking his underwear off like, bet you won't go that far kind of thing, but DH did (always takes everything too far). Apparently, BIL called on me to go see, but I obviously didn't hear him from the kitchen. So DH grabbed him and I came down shortly afterward and saw them.

DH said he said enough and was picking up his clothes when BIL punched him in the eye (supposedly it wasn't supposed to be as hard as it was) and DH said he just automatically reacted and punched him back in the face without thinking.

DH works as a personal trainer so he was able to pass off his bruise as an accident at work without any problems but I think BIL will have had a lot more trouble though since he works in an office environment and DH said he spoke to BIL on the phone today and he had to go get an appointment with his orthodontist and take time off work for it.

I also said it's okay for BIL to come over, but not all the time and they are not allowed to fight.

Thanks for all your replies, reading over them really highlighted how bizarre the whole thing actually was.

Ah, thanks for the update!

It sounds bizarrely plausible actually, for a couple of teenagers that is!

Think they've both probably learned a lesson.

Olivia- not that your OH has explained it - it does sound very plausible and normal.

Why wouldn't grown men take off their underwear and fight to injury?

I am sure it happens in most families from time to time.

bastard- do you know teenagers who behave like this?

Because I certainly don't. I am the mother of teenagers and I would be horrified if they behaved like this. I would be speaking to my HV even if I caught 5 year olds doing this. What part of this is even remotely acceptable?

Finding your OH naked with another man- compounded by the fact that they are brothers knocking two bells out of each other.

His explanation is almost plausible...but still totally weird. I think you have done all you can, called him on it, and a line needs to be drawn about his stupidity around his brother. How you can wipe the slate of your mind clean is a different matter!

Hmmm, nekkid bro wrestling'? Clotned bro wrestling'. Normal. Injuries and nekkidity? Not common. In my family. Unless it 's Christmas, obviously.

Oh yes - do what Coolas suggests - DC in bed and a nice evening meal with IL - nice and relaxed than tell MIL about the naked wrestling.

Good lord, how crazy. I hope they'll stop acting like... I don't know what now.