or is DP regarding duvets?

[Notagainmun]

Twice a year I change duvets, 4.5 tog for Summer and 10.5 for Winter. We have one double and two king size beds in total. At this time of year I wash the lighter ones before storing but I buy inexpensive 10.5s and bin them rather than try to wash and dry them as I believe it would probably cost more.

DH doesn't think they need to be washed or binned for several years (MIL never did). I think that all the sweat, drool and other bodily fluids makes them rank. I also wash the feather pillows one a year (summer) and change mattress covers and pillow protectors four times a year and he doesn't see the need to wash the pillows - ever!

YABU to buy shit duvets and throw them away.

1 - wasteful
2 - you sleep half the year with a rubbish duvet

I don't routinely bin duvets but for sure, they need washing or cleaning at least twice a year! So YANBU.

Dont you use sheets, pillow cases or duvet covers? We do and we wash those.

Doesn't everyone use sheets, pillow cases and duvet covers? Still doesn't mean that the duvet should fester away uncleaned for years on end!

yabu
washing and drying costs a tenner?

or go for single duvets then you can wash at home

I think you are both BU!

So wasteful to chuck away, but they DO need washy occasionally!
Although saying that I can't think the last time I washed mine

How wasteful. Chucking a 10.5 tog duvet in the wash or taking it to the dry cleaners is surely less faff than finding and buying new duvets every year?

Why not buy two 4.5 tog and sew some large press studs on each corner and midway along each edge.

Maybe a good one for your bed (like you have now) and a cheaper one to tag on in winter.
You'll still get 9 togs this way.

I use a 4.5 tog all year , flannel sheets in winter (mmm) and a Dunelm Mill Teddy Bear mattress topper on my side.

You chuck them out? That is beyond wasteful! You can use self-service at a laundrette for about £4 to wash a large duvet.

Just vac pack them and use for a second set of six months next year. Take them to a laundrette. How wasteful and what a faff to buy and throw.

Fwiw we have a 4.5tog on year round. In winter we wear warmer pjs and I take a hot water bottle to bed. We sometimes add a throw. Simple.

You throw them out? , plain daft!

I'd buy slightly more expensive but better quality and wash them. It really isnt that expensive to do.

YABU. Buy a decent duvet. What a waste!

A lot of people near me hang the duvets out the window to air.

Buy a decent duvet and have it professionally cleaned. I need 4.5tog in the summer, 9 tog now and then button the two together for deep winter to create 13.5tog. Lovely Hungarian goose down from soak and sleep.

You can buy a 4.5 to with another one press studded to it, if you don't want to sew one. I know this because I own one!

Seriously wasteful to buy and chuck three duvets per year.

YA both BU.

Don't bin them but they definitely need to be cleaned. We take ours to the launderette. I have a 4.5 and a 10.5 that click together in winter.

Please tell me you don't 'bin' them? You do donate them, don't you? Otherwise YABsooooooU.

what an utter waste .

We hardly ever wash our duvets or pillows. No-one's died yet. Airing them or taking them to the launderette is a good plan. But bunging them into landfill year after year after year?

What a bloody waste! Wash them, or at least donate them to charity, for crying out loud.

Rather than binning them why not donate them to a rehoming service or cat/dog sanctuary?

you throw them out? Money to burn obviously!

Jesus, I am sick of reading about people binning food because the label says so. This is equally as moronic. As others have said, at least donate them to charity but putting them in landfill is selfish, irresponsible and lazy.

I think you're getting a bit of an unfairly hard time here OP! Although I do think throwing them out that often is a bit excessive and I agree about donating them to animal charities. But it can indeed be cheaper to buy a new one than have one washed, I found this when one of my dc was sick on her duvet. So the money to burn argument doesn't wash does it?

We live in a wasteful society, am not condoning it but when money is tight and life is busy and stressful you can understand it when people take the cheapest, most convenient option. Many of us haven't got brainspace to do otherwise. Off-topic but am still bristling from a major lecture last week from lady-of-leisure non-working friend with rich husband about ethical shopping at farmers' markets. Lovely! But, I work FT, have got 3 dc and haven't got time!

I think you're getting a bit of an unfairly hard time here OP! I work in homelessness. Probably seen too many cold people.

YABU for sleeping under a rubbish duvet instead of investing in a decent one and paying for a service wash once a year (or even doing it yourself at a laundrette). Your choice, obviously, but IMHO life is definitely too short for cheap and nasty duvets.

YANBU about them needing washing though. Single duvets, pillows and mattress protectors get regularly washed at home DH's pillows get binned when they go so yellow and manky that they won't come clean any more (I cannot for the life of me work out why - it's not as though he uses any "product" on his hair), and our gorgeous feather and down duvet gets sent to be washed maybe once a year or when it needs it.