to think you should reply to a text within an hour or 24hrs absolute max?!

[kirsten123]

It takes seconds, seriously! And it's easier just to reply straightaway than to have to remember to do it later.

I texted a friend of mine re meeting up in a few weeks. 48hrs later - no response. Now, meantime, I'm having to keep that day free for her!! Now I understand she might be checking her diary or whatever but cldnt she text "checking diary will get back to you". Instead of me having to wonder "should I check to see she got the text or is that going to annoy her?"

FWIW she has no DCs.

I sometimes read them and then forget to reply

Just ring her up and speak to her.

I hate texts. I never answer them straight away because if I did, I'd never be off the phone.

I can't believe you're keeping the date free, instead of just ringing her up.

I don't even look at my phone every 48 hours! YABU: if you want an instant reponse then call her.

Um, what?

No, of course you should not have to respond to a text within an hour. There's n reason you'd even have seen it if you are at work.

I rarely reply to text messages as we have no signal and I am not surgically attached to my phone. if I notice one I will reply. Although if it is about arrangements I will need to check first.

I texted my best friend just to say hi, how are you and she replied twelve days later. I found it really funny, but probably wouldn't if I really needed a response.

But then, in that situation, I'd phone if I hadn't heard back within a few hours.

YABU.

A text is an invitation to talk, not a demand.

She's not obliged to reply within any given time frame.

I understand your frustration (I'm the same) but there could be many reasons why she hasn't responded like her phone is broke,she has no credit(my dh's excuse) family problem/emergency ......etc

I texted my db on sat & he never replied & turned out his dd has been admitted to hosp with an infection.

Yanbu.

This sort of thing really annoys me.

Now that whatsapp has been invented I get even more annoyed when I see the person has been active but not replied.

I am not a crazy stalker kind of

You'd think so.

I get massive text performance anxiety tho. I can't reply straight away if it's someone other than DP/me mum cos I panic, and then I panic that I've left it too long to reply and it gets worse and worse.

If she was in a low signal area when the text was sent, she might not even have received it. Better to email or just call, if you need a reply.

One hour - er no; I don't think my boss would appreciate me texting people all day.

But yes I think replying the same day is polite for something non-urgent.

YABU I forget sometimes and sometimes I feel too anxious to reply as I cannot think how best to word things.

Sometimes people don't ever get a reply.

You'd hate me then!

I've got texts that are about 6 month old - I discovered them yesterday!

I rarely use my phone for anything other than, erm, talking!

Wowzers! Loads of replies already!!

An hour? No way.

YABU, this is what annoys me about mobile phones and FB etc...people think they've got some kind of right to you and expect instant replies.

I'm terrible at texting people back, I'm busy, I read the text, intend to text back later but forget. Sometimes I remember but then can't be bothered texting because I don't have the time or energy to get in to a text conversation at that moment.

If she wants to meet you she'll reply, if you've made other plans in the meantime then that's her fault for not getting back to you sooner.

I don't always see a text within 24 hours, never mind an hour! If the sender wants an immediate answer they need to use a more direct method of communication.

and remember that if someone is on PAYG they will think twice before sending a text as it literally costs them money. I (for example) wouldn't reply if I knew I was seeing you in a couple of days, or thought I'd ring you during the week. I also wouldn't send a "holding" text for the same reason.

Oh dear, do we know each other? ;)
I often forget to reply to these kind of dates because I have to check diary but I wouldn't expect the person to invite to keep the date free for me. And if I hadn't replied after a few days, I'd be happy for them to say that that day has now been booked up.

People here do realise that SMS - text - is not a guaranteed service ? It's best-effort (like email).

Sure 99.999999999999999999999999999% of texts can get through no problem. But I wouldn't count on it to save my life. Would you rather text, or call 999 ?

The only sure way to know a text has been received (like email) is a reply. Of course the reply could get lost ...

Also the networks can store and forward text many times before finally delivering them. From memory, I think the spec allows up to 24 hours to deliver a text.

Better to phone if you want a quick answer

As a PP said, a text, or even a phone call is just an invitation to reply. It's not an order, and I'll decide when, or if, I reply. It will always depend on the circumstances.

And I believe networks have up to 72 hours to deliver a text.

For a few weeks time? I make arrangements for a day in advance tops or this weekend. Texts royally do my head in.. If somethings Important then just ring!

And as for it being easier to reply straight away

The only people I know who are likely to do that, are my teenage DS and his friends who seem to be permanently attached to their phones.