Someone give me a mil response that won't cause utter chaos

[kiwicatastrophe]

Only 13 weeks pregnant but sickness seems to be getting worse not better. usually ok but today I haven't stopped throwing up and have a massive migraine. ive spent the day so far in the bathroom whilst dp has taken care of our toddler (who I have all week).
As I'm writing this I've just got into bed and managed to put on a top but no pants :( dp said his mum wasn't very happy that I wasn't well as everyone gets sick when they are pregnant and I have to just deal with it.
Aibu to be a bit pissed off that I'm not even allowed one non functioning day when I've battled through it all the others. I was hospitalised with hg with our son so I was feeling like I was doing well this time round. Aibu or is she being a total cheeky mare?
What do I say to let her know I'm not taking the piss without offending? or aibu?

Actually, I'd be more annoyed that your DP had told you that tbh. He should have told MIL to take a hike, and got on with getting your toddler out of the house so you could rest, without ever giving you stress.

Hope you feel better soon.

DP should be standing up for you.

What's it got to do with his mum and why was he telling her? He should have tackled that, and still should, instead of passing the message on to you.

He should tell her you are feeling very unwell, he is looking after you etc and he shouldn't be telling you about it!

People like that really get my goat. No two people or two pregnancies are alike.

I had awful sickness in my pregnancy so you have my sympathy.

I wouldn't say anything to her. You don't have to justify your behaviour to her, it's none of her business.

Agree you DH is just as out of order as you MIL, as it sounds like he either made it up or happily told you as it is what he thinks

Why on earth wasn't his response; kiwi is really ill Mum, please be kind...

I think the only appropriate response here is "MIL - Fuck Off"

You have my utter sympathy. I'm 36 weeks and have been sick at least once a day since week 3. It's utterly soul destroying especially when you already have little ones that need looking after.

I wouldn't respond to your MIL unless she said something directly to me, at which point I would be sick on her shoes.

tell your DH to tell his mother to fuck off.

He then has the same choice to pass on your message as he had to pass on heres.

simple.

I'm so angry on your behalf. I have no response for you that won't cause chaos. In fact I think you'd be completely reasonable to think of a response that would cause chaos! like some well timed and well aimed vomit

I hope you feel better soon and get some rest today.

feck the dragon
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Is it possible that your DH was so fuming that he felt he couldn't not share it?

YANBU. At all. I hope it's "just" the migraine making you sick and you feel better soon.

Hmm, does your MIL say the same about the Duchess of Cambridge? Perhaps you ought to suggest to her that she looks for work in an advisory role for pregnant mums, after all her empathy and knowledge makes her ideally suited.

Or, as the above is very passive aggressive (sorry about that, but that kind of comment from your MIL really gets on my nerves), go for the simple, straightforward suggestion by Feck

Hope you feel better soon, migraine on its own is bad enough

I hope you feel better soon, OP. Sympathy from me.

Let's face it, the only reason he told you is because a) he thinks it to and/or b) he's trying to guilt you into getting up and dealing with toddler. His mom is an interfering busybody and he's a twat for telling you but like i say I fear he has motive.

Hope you feel better soon.

Was it essential that we know you have no pants on??

What is DP's attitude to you being ill?

... and did he tell you with a 'so you'd better buck up' attitude or a 'fgs the woman is an idiot' attitude?

It was with a fgs the woman is an idiot attitude and he has been really supportive. its just fucked me off that she's forgotten how rough it can be. or at least for some people. I'm not like this every day but I just feel like I've been hit by a bus.
not after any kind of sympathy, I just begrudge comments like that.

I have so much sympathy for you.

I had HG with dd & when she was 2 I fell pregnant again.

This time I spent weeks in hospital on a drip. I still remember mil calling my ward & telling me Dh had dropped dd down and her DRESS HADN'T BEEN IRONED!!!

I'm sure you can imagine my response ??

Is she staying with you? If she isn't, why is he going whinging to her?

puke on her shoes

Yep.
It's your dp that's the issue here I'm afraid.

He shouldn't have told you then.
It was bound to upset you.Just pointless

She's not staying with us, but fil was supposed to be coming round today to fix our shower (dp tried and ended up breaking it further) so dp called and said could you give today a miss as kiwi is really unwell and that's when he got the wrath...

wrong for telling me though I agree.

eagerbeaver Jesus. .. I'm speechless
what's she like now?