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AIBU?

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To book family holiday over gcse results day in August

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Claybury · 20/10/2014 17:32

AIBU to deprive DD of going in to school to get them that morning with friends? Presumably she can get them my text the same day via a friend.

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JugglingFromHereToThere · 20/10/2014 19:55

As far as I remember I was away on hols for both O and A level results. A levels I definitely remember opening the envelope when I got home. I didn't think about it much when I was away - too busy having fun. But do wonder if I slightly missed out, especially as I didn't bother going in to see my degree results either as it was my turn to cook that night! My friend found out that one for me on her way home

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Claybury · 20/10/2014 19:57

Marywest- we can't go wed to wed the week before because DS wants to be around for his AS results.
No way am I leaving an empty house for results week or indeed ever.

Proud as - I understand your thinking but DS will be excused from family holiday if he finds alternative. He will not have access to the house while we are away due to past behaviour.
Our holiday is a short flight away , not that simple for her tor return alone though maybe not impossible.

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smashboxmashbox · 20/10/2014 19:59

So DS gets to be around for AS results and DD doesn't get to be for GCSE results? If I were her I'd be very cross at that and feel it was very unfair.

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Claybury · 20/10/2014 20:11

Smash - I can see why you say that but the 2 of them are very different., have no relationship with each other and she wouldn't compare herelf in that way to him. Hard to explain but that's the family dynamic.

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MaryWestmacott · 20/10/2014 20:33

go for less than a week? A long weekend?

It seems unfair to DD, she's said now she'd prefer not to be away for it. 'prefer' now might be 'really not want to go' closer to the date. If she's done badly, she's going to spend the bulk of the holiday worrying.

I would say you need to be there for her results day and the day after just in case.

ProudAS · 20/10/2014 20:58

You fit in round DS's results and younger DC's trip. I think your DD could be very resentful if you don't work around GCSE results. I know I would have been although I might have felt pressured not to say so at the time.

thenightsky · 20/10/2014 21:24

Not RTFT, but we were away when DS's results came out and I arranged for a friend of the family to pick them up. She read them out to him over the phone when we were in the airport check in queue.

Hassled · 20/10/2014 21:31

There does seem to be a fair amount of accommodating other DCs' stuff and not accommodating what really is a pretty enormous deal for your DD. I do appreciate there's almost certainly more to it, but on the face of it that's how it seems, and that's the sort of thing that will linger in her mind.

I just wouldn't do it - she may be doing OK now, in October - by next May/June it could all be going tits up and there may be far less confidence in the results.

tiggytape · 20/10/2014 22:30

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OddBoots · 20/10/2014 22:35

Is there much need to be there for AS results? I wouldn't have thought that was as important as GCSE results, there's not a huge amoutn of changing courses that is usually done at that stage.

Molio · 20/10/2014 22:53

YABU but why not let DD choose if she wants to stay home alone? She could have friends to stay that week surely, and they could use your home to celebrate/ commiserate on results day no?

paddyclampo · 20/10/2014 23:06

YABU. Can't believe you are even considering it!

OnlyTheWelshCanCwtch · 20/10/2014 23:16

My daughter sat GCSEs this year (Yr10) and we were away when the results were out, she said she wasn't too bothered, but we came back early from holiday as I remember the excitement/dread and wanting to be with my friends when results came out.

She was glad we did

Shes sitting her main GCSEs next year and has requested we not away, or go somewhere where we can get back from easily as she wants to be with her friends when they get their results

You've worked around your other dcs- its only fair you treat her the same

Purplepixiedust · 20/10/2014 23:20

Depends on your DD. It is a big deal for her. What does she want? I would go with that.

Ineedanewone · 20/10/2014 23:23

We've been away everytime (4 dc) and no children were hurt or scarred in the process! For the younger 2, this summer and last summer we logged on to the school intranet, but for the older 2, my friend collected them and telephoned with the results.
In our case a family holiday out weighed the option of being at home, but they all had worked really hard and consistently so got the results they deserved, so no disappointments to manage.

Primaryteach87 · 20/10/2014 23:24

My two pennies worth:
My parents booked our family holiday over the day when I got my results. They consulted me first. I thought it would be fine. So did they.
In reality, I totally lost the plot and was a right pain to be around. Maybe it was just me being a hormonal, anxious teen but I would advise against it. My friend took 30mins to text me my results. It felt like 30 years!

hellsbells99 · 20/10/2014 23:36

We were away for DD2's results last year. She was happy to be away from the stress of it all. School emailed her results through about an hour after her friends collected theirs. We stayed round the pool which had wifi that morning so she could get her results and exchange them with friends. We then had to email a form back to school accepting her place in the sixth form and confirming her subjects. It was lovely to have a celebration meal overlooking the sea in a lovely warm country!

OddBoots · 21/10/2014 07:33

Are the older two going to the same festival at any point? Could you pay their festival tickets and take the younger ones away at the same time?

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