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Original poster

To book family holiday over gcse results day in August

93 replies

Claybury · 20/10/2014 17:32

AIBU to deprive DD of going in to school to get them that morning with friends? Presumably she can get them my text the same day via a friend.

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AdiposeLoveMe · 20/10/2014 18:05

I was on holiday when I received my GCSE results.
At that time (16 years ago), it wasn't possible to get them emailed or anything.
I remember reading my results in the local paper when I got home!
I am not scarred for life. I don't feel that I missed out on opening results with my friends.
I would say go.
In the grand scheme of things, this single moment will not effect your daughters life.

SistersOfPercy · 20/10/2014 18:08

DD's BF was in France, their neighbour went, opened them for him and gave him a call with the results. He wasn't really bothered about being there and tbh DD would have preferred to have just had them sent to home.

Bowlersarm · 20/10/2014 18:08

She would prefer to be at home obviously

There's your answer. Yabu.

Original poster
Claybury · 20/10/2014 18:32

Thanks for all the replies which are making me feel a little guilty. I will discuss with her again. There are a few things the DC's want to be home for - AS Results , GCSE results and some festivals so I feel compromise is needed !
Results day wasn't such a big deal in my day - they just came in the post. Sometimes I think we have become very child orientated.
There are no issues re sixth form, she's predicted good grades and wants to stay put anyway.

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minipie · 20/10/2014 18:41

If it's really your only possible week (and you are already fitting in around festivals etc) then YANBU at all.

Sure she might prefer to be at home but is she really going to say that trumps the entire family having a holiday at all?

Thinking back, I got my results at school but got straight back in the car with my mum rather than hanging out with friends. It's actually a bit of an awkward day to see friends sometimes if some people have done well and others haven't.

CeliaFate · 20/10/2014 18:42

I was away for my results, I had them posted to my house and opened them when I got home.

chickydoo · 20/10/2014 18:45

Not read every post, but could you let me have the exact date..we might be in the same situation.

smashboxmashbox · 20/10/2014 18:45

If your DDs results go tits up and she has to access advice you'll be screwed.

Sorry to be blunt but it's a really really bad idea.

LIZS · 20/10/2014 18:46

I would say about half of ds' year were there in person. Some were away on holiday , others are overseas boarders anyway. Those absent could get their via email or phone later that day. ds wanted to be there, he spent the rest of the day with his friends , we had a celebratory meal and went on holiday next day. We will have similar dilemmas for next 5 years with AS, A and then dd's exams. Can you not overlap your stay with friends and still be there ?

LynetteScavo · 20/10/2014 18:47

I wouldn't because I need to deal with things, and couldn't wait an extra day for the results.

DS1 couldn't care less.

uggmum · 20/10/2014 18:47

We had the same dilemma. Dd really wanted to pick hers up. Her school is not very flexible either and will only post them out to your home address and this would mean either waiting until we returned home or someone opening them for her.

The day the gcse results come out is also the day that she would finalise her A level choices.

After much debate we have now booked our holiday for the last 2 weeks in July.

Dd works hard and she really wanted the experience of being there with her friends and teachers and opening the envelope.

Original poster
Claybury · 20/10/2014 18:51

Smash- I agree but in our case it's unlikely as she will get good grades and she doesn't want to change schools. In any case we will be back 2 days later.

I believe GCSE dates are 21/8.
With holiday cottages being Saturday to Saturday being home for two results days ( v early thurs morning ) doesn't leave slot of flexibility.

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dingit · 20/10/2014 18:52

The results are the 3rd Thursday in August, which I think is 21st or 22nd. We fly home on 14th for this very reason. Dd wants to be there on the day.

Greengrow · 20/10/2014 18:52

She wants to be home for them so she could join you on the holiday a bit later surely or come home early? Or avoid those dates. I wonder why of all the weeks in the summer it's the only week you can go on holiday.

I am booking our holiday soon and booking it to ensure we are around on GCSE results day.

WooWooOwl · 20/10/2014 18:52

I wouldn't do it, not unless I was certain my dc were going to fail their GCSEs. It's something that creates a lovely memory between friends, I know I'm still friends with people I got my GCSE results with 20 years later, and I'd have hated to miss out.

I think I'd especially resent being made to miss out so that my parents could have a holiday with their friends that I wasn't bothered about having a holiday with.

Your dd will only get GCSE results once, there are plenty of times that you could have holidays with your friends.

Original poster
Claybury · 20/10/2014 18:52

We can't go away in july due to another DC's school trip where we need to be here for the send off and coming home!

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smashboxmashbox · 20/10/2014 18:53

I would hate to be you if she doesn't do well. I had a DS predicted all A a A-level. He didn't get all As and the resulting fall out was horrendous.

Plus, I bet her mates will have a party that night, and that's a big deal for them at that age.

SoonToBeSix · 20/10/2014 18:53

Yes her results will still be the same. My dd is going to Australia for the summer she wouldn't miss that for the sake of picking up an envelope versus finding out on Skype.

SoonToBeSix · 20/10/2014 18:54

I meant yes it's fine yanbu.

5madthings · 20/10/2014 18:56

Third Thursday is 20th Aug next year. My ds1's bday is the 19th so big week fir him.

Is there really no other week you could go or can you go somewhere in travelling distance?

Truelymadlysleepy · 20/10/2014 18:57

YANBU. We've done it twice for GCSEs & AS's. School said DS could nominate a friend who could text/email but he decided to wait until we got home. Results on the mat.

We won't do it for A2s though because of the uni palaver.

BettyMoody · 20/10/2014 18:57

i really wouldnt
mate had htis and the results went UTTERLY tits up and there was a mad scramble to change 6th form options

BettyMoody · 20/10/2014 18:58

lol at OPs confidence

did you see what happened to English and Geography this year? CARNAGE

smashboxmashbox · 20/10/2014 18:58

What age is younger DC? Just you talk about studying and to me that would mean 13/14 or older?

WooWooOwl · 20/10/2014 18:59

Is your dd ok with the idea that she misses out in something important to her because of her siblings holiday and her parents friends holiday? I know I wouldn't have been at 15/16!