AIBU to hate my partners ex!!!

[paulalouise92]

To cut a long story short!

They have a child together she always palms this child off with my partners parents as my partner works! She hasn't had him for the past week and Tuesday she came to pick him up she handed my partner a card from their child saying I love my daddy and pictures of my partner and his child on this card!

Now that's not my problem my problem is they are personal photos and she hasn't had her child for a weekso she must of made it without her child being there!

AIBU to hate her purely for the fact she never has her child and does little stunts like this to actually make out she cares!

I don't think there's any such rule zeek. The xw doesn't sound negligent per se, as it appears that the child is well cared for by his father and paternal GP. She just doesn't seem to have much interest in caring for the child herself. She would be negligent if the child were left alone or with less than able carers. I agree that this is not the best, but the child is still with loving family members. Certainly Social Services wouldn't do anything to remove the child from the mother's care under these circumstances.

The problem is that it is not the new girlfriend's place to sort it all out. That is up to the child's father. He appears to be satisfied with the arrangement, as do his parents.

Does do say this is a big change for his ex - was she v attached to dc but has now withdrawn from them? Could she be depressed? What was the cause / circumstance of their breaking up?

If she has always been like this - as in spending little time with her dc is one thing but if this is new then maybe your do should take steps to get her some support - could he speak to her with her parents so someone else is aware ? For the sake of the dc if she is withdrawing from them due to depression or anxiety due to her situation then someone needs to help her so the dc can have their mum back.

however it isn't your place to sort this. - you can feel however you want to and be there for dp to discuss how he feels he should proceed and maybe suggest looking at the contact to make sure it works for all parties but all this has to be his call and his approach - all you can do is be there for him and the dc - it is nice that your dd is getting time to play with him and build a friendship .

your dp should sit down and ask his ex how she wants it to work, what is and isn 'to working for her, how she would like to change it and then see where in your household and the GPs can accommodate that in as routine a way as possible, if dc are young you could have a weekly calandra at each house with pictures of where they will be each day.

She would be negligent if she was leaving DC home alone. She isn't. If your DP has issues re parenting he should sort it out with her himself.

You may not understand/approve of her approach to parenting, but so what? Best to concentrate on making your own life, and be happy!

This is none of your business. You sound really immature and please, please learn to use exclamation points properly.

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