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To ask my parents if they were having sex, and if so request that they don't?

188 replies

Cubee · 16/10/2014 13:16

:D

I am in the bizarre situation of being temporarily trapped at my parent's house. I have a badly broken leg and am bed bound and drugged to the max.

They are doing a stellar job taking care of me and my young children (I'm a single parent, kids under 5). So awkward as this arrangement initially felt, it is working out nicely. I think they have been ace, and really appreciate them.

However...

Part of the arrangement is that my 1 yr old is sharing their room rather than mine. Like I say, they are ace. I get to sleep alone for the first time ever. Though clearly it is not that fun,what with the pain and all.

Last night I awoke to what appeared to be the sound of my parents. .. ahem... doing the deed. Quietly mind. Think squeaking mattress rather than whoops of ecstasy. I briefly thought "Ffs, go to sleep! " and then suddenly remembered the baby was in there too.

So I rang my little bell.

No change. Squeaking continued. Possible moans.

So I picked up the box of tissues by my bed and hurled them across the hallway. I was hoping to hit their door. I missed. Instead the cats sprung to action and began that horrendous sprinting about the house like a herd of elephants lark cats only seem to do at night. And frankly that is terrifying when you are stuck in bed with a broken leg jutting out invitingly like a cat sized springboard. So I lay still in the hope that cats wouldn't notice me. Luckily the tissues seemed to keep them occupied.

Anyway I must have fallen asleep then. Now, I don't know for sure what they were up. I am on some pretty heavy meds for a start. ;)

AIBU to ask my parents if they were shagging with my baby in the room? WIBU to request that they don't?

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dexter73 · 16/10/2014 13:19

I reckon the drugs are giving you nightmares!

squoosh · 16/10/2014 13:20

So I rang my little bell

Grin

Love the idea of little Lady Fauntleroy ringing a bell to request her parents desist from their conjugals.

Parents having sex is vile and shouldn't be allowed under any circumstances once progeny have been produced. My sympathies.

NewEraNewMindset · 16/10/2014 13:21

Omg your poor parents! Why are you so bothered that they are possibly shagging with a 12 month old in the room? It's not as though the baby will have the first clue what is going on, I would imagine he/she is asleep anyway.

The added cat commentary gave me a chuckle but really, YABU.

inadarkplace · 16/10/2014 13:22

as long as the baby is asleep he won't be scarred by the experience Grin pretty sure you don't remember anything before 3 years old anyway Grin

bakingtins · 16/10/2014 13:22

Do you think all parents with a young baby in their room don't/shouldn't have sex?
Sounds like your parents are bending over backwards to help you out. I would keep schtum if I were you.

cherrybombxo · 16/10/2014 13:23

Eurgh, YANBU. I once heard the creaky bedsprings of my parents' bed and threw shoes at the wall until they stopped it. I was 17 and very dramatic, assuming that everyone stopped having sex as soon as they turned 40 Grin

It's gross that they were doing it with your baby in the room, regardless of whether or not the baby knows what's going on. I'd have a quiet horribly awkward word.

squoosh · 16/10/2014 13:24

Sounds like your parents are bending over backwards to help you out.

I think it sounds more likely that were bending over backwards to help each other out.

'You can ring my beeeeeelllllllll, ring my bell...............'

Iggi999 · 16/10/2014 13:25

This is hilarious, sorry! It must be awful to hear your parents shagging. But they are unlikely to be witnessed by your dd - and you wouldn't want them to say they can't help you out anymore. I don't think this is a conversation you can have with them, sorry. Though you might want to mention how light a sleeper she is!

stubbornstains · 16/10/2014 13:25

Sounds like your parents are bending over backwards

I should coco! Wink

I'd get some decent earplugs if I were you OP.

Sylviet · 16/10/2014 13:25

I think it's nice. Maybe it makes them feel really close and young again, takes them back to when you were in a cot in their room.

Hope your leg heals as quickly as possible, you poor thing!

AMumInScotland · 16/10/2014 13:26

It will not harm your child to be in the same room as people who are having sex. Your child will be asleep and unaware of anything at all. If he/she was to wake up, the sight of people wriggling round under a duvet is not going to be upsetting.

Even the sight of them going at it in full view would not upset her - although lots of shouting and grunting might potentially upset her, it sounds like your parents were being quiet and not swinging from the chandeliers...

Scarletfever · 16/10/2014 13:26

Personally i dont think the baby will have any clue what was going on.

I would just grin and buy some ear plugs!

TwinkleDust · 16/10/2014 13:26

Good lord. Loving couple discretely have sex whilst baby is sleeping in the room. You realise that is erm, the norm for a lot of couples?

Of course you can't ask them - it is none of your business - unless the screams of delight were sufficient to wake a baby..!

Another vote for drugs affecting your judgement.

squoosh · 16/10/2014 13:26

Maybe it makes them feel really close and young again, takes them back to when you were in a cot in their room.

Don't think that thought will help the OP! Grin

BreconBeBuggered · 16/10/2014 13:28

Ask them to bring you some earplugs because 'the cats' are keeping you awake at night. They might take the hint. But presumably they wait for the baby to go to sleep before they DTD, so that she doesn't find out where Granny keeps her secret toys.

theknackster · 16/10/2014 13:30

It'll make for an interesting story at the christening of your DC's new auntie in a year's time Smile

sunflower49 · 16/10/2014 13:31

Sorry but this is funny, and I get why you'd feel uncomfortable but, really-if your baby was older I'd say you were NBU but s/he is 1.

Your baby won't know what's going on and I am assuming if they were awake, would cry or make it known that they were, so they're probably asleep. Many couples don't refrain from having sex with a baby in the same room.
Your parents sound lovely, close, caring people.

Wishing you a speedy recovery! :)
and for them to long continue their active sex life

LittleBearPad · 16/10/2014 13:36

Grin sorry OP

Floggingmolly · 16/10/2014 13:37

If they were; would you honestly expect them to notice respond to your little bell slap bang in the middle, so to speak?

Cubee · 16/10/2014 13:38

squoosh Hilarious. Grin

Don't get me wrong, I'm not THAT bothered. Just... a teeny bit.

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zippey · 16/10/2014 13:43

The 12 month old wont mind your parents having sex. You are projecting your fears.

One solution is you and your child swap rooms - then when your parents have sex, your child will be in seperate rooms.

Solo · 16/10/2014 13:43

Your baby isn't in their bed is he/she? I would only say something if that is the case, but in another bed/cot? nah! I'm Envyous of your parents!

whois · 16/10/2014 13:44

Oh love it! Very funny :-)

squoosh · 16/10/2014 13:45

Yes good idea, swap places with your baby. Next time Mum and Dad whack out their much loved copy of the Kama Sutra on a Wed evening your baby will be oblivious.

You on the other hand........

professornangnang · 16/10/2014 13:47

Blimey, they're doing you a huge favour. I think you would be totally out of order saying anything about it. Might be different if the child was 8 but they're not!