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Original poster

Please help, DH in USA, and no contact...

65 replies

SageMist · 15/10/2014 22:36

He's due to catch a flight in Atlanta in 4 hours, I was expecting to hear from him at least 3 hours ago. He has been driving from North Carolina to Atlanta, and the last text I had from him was 8 hours ago.

He's not answering texts or phone calls.

The airline wont tell me if he's checked in, and I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
LadyStark · 15/10/2014 22:39

Is his phone ringing? Would he normally call you? Could he have been running late and had no time to call before getting on the plane?

justkeeponsmiling · 15/10/2014 22:39

Could there not be a simple explanation like his phone ran out of charge and he was late/rushing and could not find another means to contact you whilst trying to rush? Hth, try not to worry too much Thanks

LadyStark · 15/10/2014 22:40

Sorry, just seen he was due to call you three hours ago, I should read more carefully!

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 15/10/2014 22:40

He might have no signal or been delayed.

FitzgeraldProtagonist · 15/10/2014 22:40

Did he stay in a hotel? Can you see if he has checked out?

TrousersSchmowsers · 15/10/2014 22:41

This happened to me this summer. He's probably in the air, like my DH was!

TalkinPeace · 15/10/2014 22:42

dead battery on phone?
accidentally put it in trunk of car?
no cell reception where he's driving?
loads of perfectly sound reasons : he'll be home soon enough

TrousersSchmowsers · 15/10/2014 22:42

or in the airport with a dead phone battery & unable to remember my phone number (also like my DH was!)

I know it's a worry but I'm sure he's fine

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 15/10/2014 22:43

If he got to the airport early they may have let him bump onto an earlier flight.

skylark2 · 15/10/2014 22:43

Do you need to do anything? I'm not being sarcastic, it's a genuine question.

Would you expect the phone reception to be good throughout his drive? Presumably he wouldn't text while driving, so he's stopped twice, both times there's been no reception...would that explain it?

You're obviously worried, and it's horrible when you don't know where someone is or if they're OK. Can you leave a message with the airline / airport that he needs to call you?

Original poster
SageMist · 15/10/2014 22:45

He has two phones (his own and work), he's not answering either.

He left North Carolina at about 13:00, and I last had a text exchange at 14:30 when he stopped for breakfast.

I sent a text at 19:00 which he read (according to my iPhone) a couple of minutes later.

I've heard nothing since, and I should have heard from him by now. His flight is at 2:30 (in just under 4 hours time).

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Ahardyfool · 15/10/2014 22:46

What was his schedule today around the driving and plane catching. Has he slept yet? When was the last time he could have charged his phone. Can you ask airport to make an announcement or similar to ask him to call you in case he has forgotten about staying in touch?

TheWholeOfTheSpoon · 15/10/2014 22:47

What mobile network will he be on? I'm AT&T and I often get patchy network down south. I get a lot of dropped calls and texts arriving hours later.

munchkinmaster · 15/10/2014 22:48

Do you know his Apple ID and password? Then you can download the where's my iPhone app and get his location

Rascalls3 · 15/10/2014 22:49

Please try and not worry. There is probably a straight forward explanation such as he has put his phone in his bags in the boot or to silent when he was in a meeting. Will ring/ txt when he gets to the airport. Data protection prevents airlines giving out any information. I hope he doesn't keep you up too late Brew

Redglitter · 15/10/2014 22:49

It could be he's texted you and you've just not got it

TalkinPeace · 15/10/2014 22:49

note to self
other people hear from their dh more than once a day when they are away ...

dd went away for a week and we had one text

ds went away for a week and we had two

I'm going away next week and I sure as heck wont text home much as it costs a fortune from the US

munchkinmaster · 15/10/2014 22:49

Findiphone is the app

PiperIsOrange · 15/10/2014 22:50

Has he got an iPhone, if so could you track him.

Bearbehind · 15/10/2014 22:50

OP, I know it's easier said than done but calm down.

In my experience men just don't stress about this kind of thing.

If he read the text he's fine, just busy.

He's in a foreign country with a long drive and flight to come, he's got other things to think about compared to you sitting at home stressing.

steff13 · 15/10/2014 22:51

You say he's not answering, but are the calls going directly to VM, as though the phone is off, or is it ringing several times before going to VM?

I am not sure how reliable an iPhone is as far as if a text has been read; I don't have one. What airline is it if you don't mind saying? If they won't tell you if he's checked in, would they be willing to page him at the airport?

Original poster
SageMist · 15/10/2014 22:52

Don't know his password or apple id.

Airline won't tell me if he's checked in, a security thing apparently.

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bigbluestars · 15/10/2014 22:54

How often does he usually phone or text? You heard from him 8 hours ago then expected another communication 5 hours after that.

People on work trips are usually busy. My OH phones only every couple of days when he is away on business.

FrontForward · 15/10/2014 22:55

Any chance he read your text and just got distracted with something else and has forgotten to reply?

If I don't get chance to reply immediately it's highly likely I'll forget.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 15/10/2014 22:55

Maybe there crap reception?

I wouldn't be worrying until he was late and not contacted you once he'd landed.