I'm 35 weeks pregnant. Partner likes a smoke in the evening to relax. He's a stay at home dad. Doesn't smoke around our toddler. Recently he's become obsessed with researching growing weed at home (saw the 'history' on our shared pc), despite us arguing countless times about how it's illegal, a family home, a rented home etc. He often silently sulks when he gets a deal which isn't very good quality (?) and when I asked him last night what was wrong he blew his top about how he's a 40 year old man and shouldn't have to buy off the streets. He also keeps saying it's my choice that he's wasting all my money on it.He's become so adamant that I'm preventing his life long dream (?) of growing his own, he even wants us to move out of rented and buy our own home so he can cultivate a plant in the loft without risking the landlord finding out (one of my many concerns). I feel totally helpless and alone in my supposedly happy final months of pregnancy. Although I usually confide in my mum about problems, this is a topic I really don't want her to know about, as I know she'd tell me to leave him/ throw him out.
He is so distant at the minute I would rather my mum or anyone else be my birthing partner...don't know what to do. My mum lives 10 hours (a flight) away and I just want to escape there with our DD who's 2, but I think it's too late in the pg for me to fly. Plus he doesn't have resources of his own as we live off my salary, so I don't know where/ how he'd go if I asked him to go...