Who is being unreasonable in the battle of the bush?

[Battleofthebush]

I've changed names for obvious reasons.

Basically because I'm lazy and hate itchy stubble I leave my lady garden as nature intended.

Dp makes no bones about the fact he hates it. He's always making little jokes and digs. He says he doesn't want it all gone just wants me to prune it a bit.

I've done it once since we've been together and the itching drove me insane.

Who's being unreasonable?

I like him to be well trimmed

He has said it's my choice and the comments are meant in jest I think. I just can't be bothered and the itching is horrific.

I really hate the rash I get (from everything btw) and as I've become comfortable with my body I also hate to rip away 'what nature intended'. I love how springy it is and wish my head hair was the same fabulous colour!
Definitely go with what makes you happy.

Sounds a bit selfish and controlling to me. Jokes and digs are not something you do if you've accepted a situation, they're what you do if you're trying to influence a situation.

That would make me cross. I might consider taking my lady garden to someone who appreciated it. I would certainly not be capitulating!

But then I do have some issues with being told what to do

Simple fix, every time he says something about you not, be as direct and unflattering about what he does shave.

He doesn't like you hairy? Then tell him you don't like him shaved... but you would never have thought to mention it until he persisted... would he like to have one final discussion about your differing views?

Good! End of! (or all out war )

Your hair. His unreasonableness.

He's joking about it?

He needs to work on his seduction techniques.

indigo18 Tue 14-Oct-14 19:43:31

Jeez - thank goodness I am from the pre-prune generation. I hate the plucked chicken look and I'm sure I couldn't be asked with fanjeaux-maintenance. Bad enough keeping my nails done.
Also, do folks actually like hairless males? I rather like hair in the right places, sort of manly..

100% this ^^

Are you sure he's absolutely on message with his own sexuality?

Just trim it with a bikini line trimmer so it's really short. No stubble, no itchiness, clean and tidy and no massive bush.

Nothing "lazy" about not shaving anything, it's just a matter of personal preference. I've never shaved or trimmed that area in my life and DH seems quite happy. He trims his a bit sometimes, his choice not mine, but not enough to make a massive difference. I don't think I would fancy a man who did anything more drastic.

I hope he shaves his legs and armpits?

Big of him to say it is your choice and he isn't joking.

Personal choice but I think as pp said, if you're expecting someone to 'forage around' down there it would be better to keep it trimmed (not shaved unless you want to of course) trimmed wouldn't itch

How lovely.

My DH is more than delighted to get even a mere glance of mine and would never pass comment on it's state, au natural or otherwise.

I'm happy to trim, but will not risk the itch for anyone.

My sister gets hers waxed! Not on your nelly would I do that!

Dp here would like it gone or at least trimmed. I only shave the very edges as it is quite a wide area and pokes out of my swimming costume if left. His preference is irrelevant as the itching, in grown hairs and living up to some crazy expectation is not happening.

I thought this was going to be another neighbour/fence debate

Urgh, I can't stand the shaved look on a man, it's like a naked molerat - boke!

I dislike the retro bush on myself but he has no right to keep going on about it. Maybe trim it back but no one can make you wax it if you don't want to.

Trim it with scissors (on newspaper and don't trim anywhere you can't directly see!) for your own benefit and then do and say what every pp has said in order to inject some perspective into DP.

I've known grown men scream with terror when a naked man has bent down in front of them. The worst look known to mankind.

My xh was a ball shaver. I never noticed whether he'd done it or not. He liked shaving me as an erotic thing? If you can find a method that doesn't give you appalling itching, would you consider that?

I am extremely hirsute in most areas you can think of and remove the absolute minimum that I can get away with these days. But if he likes smooth skin, which he obviously does, why not let him do the work?

Good Lord, I would fear DH was losing his marbles if he suggested that to me. Fortunately we are both old gimmers and our sex life has been mercifully free of pornification.

Do men shave down there now then? Is it a thing? It's been 22 years since anyone except DP foraged in my lady garden.

If a man can't take a natural bush then he's not a man. A full bush is the mark of a real woman...not a girl...but a WOMAN. Your DP is not ready for the power of the pussy as it is meant to be.