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Original poster

To hope my boss catches this bug?

133 replies

catgirl1976 · 13/10/2014 19:59

I am not often ill and generally have a good sickness record at work.

However, 2 weeks ago I got proper, full on flu and had to have a week off. It was grim.

When I went back into work my boss glared at me and blanked me for a day, making it clear how annoyed he was that I was not in. No "how are you" or anything like that. I also heard he had been kicking off about it to other people.

He told me it was very inconvenient. It was pretty damn inconvenient to me too. I have a small child and it's not like I get to take to my bed like a Victorian heroine when ill or have anyone to mop my brow and feed me peeled grapes Hmm

This weekend DS (nearly 3) has D&V all weekend. DPs have had a stomach bug the previous weekend and it looks like they have passed it to him. So I've spent the weekend cleaning up projectile vomit and poo.

I wake up about 4am with terrible stomach cramps, vomiting and the rest. I feel terrible and spend the night on the bathroom floor.

Knowing how my manager feels I drag myself into work. I have a fever, am shaking, sweating and on 6 occassions have to run from a meeting with him to puke.

He then tells me "lets aim for lunchtime, then you can go home". Thanks.

At lunchtime, he lets me go home and says that he is pleased I dragged myself and he feels his attitude to me when I cam back from having the flu has helped me. Like he is making me be a better person or something and dragging yourself in when clearly ill and likely infectious is a good thing. Hmm

He keeps banging on the he hasn't been ill since 1985. Good for you. I have a son at nursery and a DH who has just started college and it's Winter. I've had flu, my immune system is low and now I have another bug. Sorry. Hmm If only I could be more like him.

Anyway, I left at lunchtime and have carried on shivering, puking and feeling like crap. He's made it very clear he expects to see me tomorrow.

AIBU to really hope I have given him this bug and he spends a week feeling like this? Not very kind of me I know, but......

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londonrach · 14/10/2014 22:06

Cat you amazing and marking place re boss getting it. He a stupid man as you coming in risks everyone else getting what you had. Hope you resting, reading mn and feeling better

mineofuselessinformation · 14/10/2014 22:13

OP, sorry, I've only read your first post....
If you feel up to making it in tomorrow, make sure you take every opportunity to breath on him, touch all of his stuff, and do your best to pass it on. Git. (Him, not you!)

Pumpkinification · 14/10/2014 22:14

Excellent work! Grin

FishRabbit · 14/10/2014 22:16

Was it a real dry heave or a fake one?

HolyQuadrityDrinkFeckArseGirls · 14/10/2014 22:23

I'm sorry you're ill, OP.
And I sincerely hope the bastard catches it.

Please do get an flu jab though! It's £7 in Asda pharmacy and it's the sane product like everywhere else Smile

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londonrach · 15/10/2014 18:03

Am update op

partialderivative · 15/10/2014 18:13

I am more than a little taken aback by most of the comments on here.

Yes, the boss was out of order to belittle the OP's 'flu.

Yes, the boss was a complete wanker in the way he subsequently treated the OP.

I am just shocked at how many people think it is ok to go on spreading the virus as a means of revenge. (Is this legal?)

Why would you do this? Regardless of whether he 'started' it.

How would you really feel if he contracts this illness. Maybe a bit smug in a 'serve him right' sort of way.

But surely after a week of suffering you would not be smug, knowing it is possible that he has passed this on to his family members, knowing that he might have complications that could mean recovery takes a lot longer than the week you took.

How long before you would start to feel just a bit shit about yourself.

And if your (possibly illegal) attempts to infect him fail. How would you feel then? Better, worse, an idiot.

How will you feel if he gets to hear about this thread?

(and I do not believe that some of the responses were of the 'we are just having some fun' type)

Iwantmyparcel · 16/10/2014 08:18

So any news ?

SassySugarCane · 16/10/2014 08:26

Goodness, I hope none of your fellow workers have a compromised immune system. What a childish thing to do.

HolyQuadrityDrinkFeckArseGirls · 16/10/2014 08:37

Well, indeed let's hope none of her co-workers have compromised immune system! OP was coerced to be there by her boss Hmm

londonrach · 16/10/2014 08:43

Sassy op did t want to go in as she was ill but boss ordered her too.

LookingThroughTheFog · 16/10/2014 08:46

knowing it is possible that he has passed this on to his family members, knowing that he might have complications that could mean recovery takes a lot longer than the week you took.

Surely if he or a member of his family has a weakened immune system, he shouldn't have ordered her to work to spread her bug around.

PrimalLass · 16/10/2014 09:07

Goodness, I hope none of your fellow workers have a compromised immune system. What a childish thing to do.

RTFT. The boss made her go in.

Original poster
catgirl1976 · 16/10/2014 09:10

S'ok

I've liked partials cup too ;)

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Original poster
catgirl1976 · 16/10/2014 09:10

*licked

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BeckAndCall · 16/10/2014 09:11

well london the boss may have 'ordered' her to go in but its not the army - he doesn't have that legal right. And anyway, he didn't order her - she just dragged herself in as shed had flu the previous week and he'd been unpleasant afterwards.

as the HR dept for the company, OP, you know you have legal rights about sickness absence so going in was totally ridiculous and probably negligent - employees have a duty of care to their employees. You cant knowingly make someone else ill.

Of course much of this thread is in jest - things we'd all like to do to people we don't like - but the serious message must be, if you're infectious, stay home! Whats a bit yukky for you - a few days of D&V - could be life threatening to someone else two or three down the infection line.

londonrach · 16/10/2014 09:12

Catgirl....was he ill. How you feeling

londonrach · 16/10/2014 09:14

I think beck you find most if us are joking....i doubt catgirl would have licked this coffee spoon as much as she wanted.

ProudAS · 16/10/2014 09:28

Has he got it Catgirl? I doubt whether he's got immune suppressed family members (or if he does he obviously couldn't give a stuff about them).

I'm not saying it's right to make him ill deliberately but I'm afraid that experiencing the consequences first hand is the only way that some people learn.

BeyondPreparedForHell · 16/10/2014 09:38

I'm immunosuppressed. I'm on the cup licking side. Grin

Whereisegg · 16/10/2014 09:42

Also immunosuppresed.
It was my idea Grin

BeyondPreparedForHell · 16/10/2014 09:50
Grin
partialderivative · 16/10/2014 10:23

I've licked partials cup too ;)

As long as you didn't stuff the spoon up your arse, I think I'll be ok!

TheFairyCaravan · 16/10/2014 10:30

The Army wouldn't have ordered her to work Beck. DS1 was poorly last week and sent to the medical centre for 24 hours.

I think you were really irresponsible to go in. Your boss might have been a bastard about it, but you have potentially infected your colleagues, their families, friends etc. You don't know how a case of D&V could affect them. It would have put DS1 in hospital on a drip for 3/4 days as a little boy.

As for licking his cup Shock words actually fail me!

ProudAS · 16/10/2014 10:31

Why are we talking about licking coffee spoons anyway? The heat of the coffee would likely kill germs?? Licking his packed lunch might be a better idea!!!Grin

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