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Original poster

To hope my boss catches this bug?

133 replies

catgirl1976 · 13/10/2014 19:59

I am not often ill and generally have a good sickness record at work.

However, 2 weeks ago I got proper, full on flu and had to have a week off. It was grim.

When I went back into work my boss glared at me and blanked me for a day, making it clear how annoyed he was that I was not in. No "how are you" or anything like that. I also heard he had been kicking off about it to other people.

He told me it was very inconvenient. It was pretty damn inconvenient to me too. I have a small child and it's not like I get to take to my bed like a Victorian heroine when ill or have anyone to mop my brow and feed me peeled grapes Hmm

This weekend DS (nearly 3) has D&V all weekend. DPs have had a stomach bug the previous weekend and it looks like they have passed it to him. So I've spent the weekend cleaning up projectile vomit and poo.

I wake up about 4am with terrible stomach cramps, vomiting and the rest. I feel terrible and spend the night on the bathroom floor.

Knowing how my manager feels I drag myself into work. I have a fever, am shaking, sweating and on 6 occassions have to run from a meeting with him to puke.

He then tells me "lets aim for lunchtime, then you can go home". Thanks.

At lunchtime, he lets me go home and says that he is pleased I dragged myself and he feels his attitude to me when I cam back from having the flu has helped me. Like he is making me be a better person or something and dragging yourself in when clearly ill and likely infectious is a good thing. Hmm

He keeps banging on the he hasn't been ill since 1985. Good for you. I have a son at nursery and a DH who has just started college and it's Winter. I've had flu, my immune system is low and now I have another bug. Sorry. Hmm If only I could be more like him.

Anyway, I left at lunchtime and have carried on shivering, puking and feeling like crap. He's made it very clear he expects to see me tomorrow.

AIBU to really hope I have given him this bug and he spends a week feeling like this? Not very kind of me I know, but......

OP posts:
Iwantmyparcel · 13/10/2014 22:54

Yes do take a bucket to the meeting and tell everyone why. Please . I would pay to hear the outcome if you do.

CleanLinesSharpEdges · 13/10/2014 22:56

Under these circumstances I seriously wouldn't have bothered leaving the meeting 6 times to vomit, I'd have done it into the nearest bin the first few times, progressing to vomiting on the table or on his shoes.

Passive aggressive vomiting.

ShadowStar · 13/10/2014 22:58

Please do warn the other attendees at the meeting about your illness though, while making it very clear that you're only there (risking infecting them) at your boss's insistence. I would be horrified if I went into a meeting to be confronted with a vomiting colleague who'd come in because their boss didn't believe in people being ill. I'd be really cross with the boss in question too.

It wouldn't be very fair on everyone else to catch d&v because your boss is behaving like a complete idiot, they at least need fair warning to make sure they can minimise their chances of catching it.

But I've got no sympathy for your boss if he catches your illness, given his attitude.

Purplepixiedust · 13/10/2014 23:03

WhenI read the title, I thought 'that's not very nice' but having read your whole post he deserves it! What a pompus git. Go lick stuff ??

Hope you feel better soon.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 13/10/2014 23:03

Its a shame twat boss doesnt have IBS, Norovirus plays havoc with mine and ill for longer with it.

OOAOML · 13/10/2014 23:11

If I were in a meeting with you I would be really worried about catching the bug and then giving it to my family. I'd be raging if I found out he expected you to be there when you had d&v.

I don't think I could risk throwing up in the meeting though - if I have a bug it tends to be both ends and the expulsive effort of vomiting usually leads to the other end going as well, hence I will usually be seated on the loo throwing up into a handy receptacle Blush

Darkesteyes · 13/10/2014 23:39

Lets hope none of your colleugues have an immuno compromised relative at home OP Im NOT blaming you at all btw Thanks this is totally your bosses fault.

Pumpkinification · 13/10/2014 23:52

I was all set to say YABU & yuck, until I read your OP - what an absolute idiot your boss is! A dose of D&V might bring him down a peg or two & make him realise that he's just a human being, same as the rest of us.

dreamingbohemian · 14/10/2014 00:12

Is this man god? Are you his slave?

Come on now, woman up and tell him to get fucked

AgentZigzag · 14/10/2014 00:22

'I can't believe the suggestion to stir bosses' coffee with a contaminated spoon!!!

The temperature of the drink will kill the virus FGS! Wipe it on his sandwiches OP.'

Hahahahaha proper made me LOL Grin

Reading the first line I thought there's always fucking one isn't there? Grin

What a wanker (your boss) hope you're feeling better soon OP Flowers Cake

MrsItsNoworNotatAll1 · 14/10/2014 10:17

Your boss is a twat.

I too hate people who boast about never taking time off ill. As if it makes them far superior. So fucking what! Count yourself lucky then.

anothergenericname · 14/10/2014 10:23

How are you feeling today?

maninawomansworld · 14/10/2014 10:36

I think you should go in tomorrow just to lick his favourite cup.

Fantastic. I was just thinking something along the lines of this.
Perhaps have a drink out of his favourite cup, plenty of spittle round the rim and then immediately make him a brew and take it to him to ensure he immediately ingests as many of your germs as possible!

Perhaps a week in bed with flu will ensure he has a bit more empathy in future.

p.s. hope you're feeling better now! I've only ever had 'proper' flu (as opposed to a nasty cold which many people incorrectly call 'flu') and it is truly awful. Completely floored me for a week!

fortheloveofminions · 14/10/2014 10:57

Unfortunately I know people like this too.

Once upon a time a young girl I knew of worked with a class one wanker who made everyone's life a misery. Somehow he ended up with very bad diarrhoea after his brews accidentally ended up with laxatives in.

Hopingforpeace · 14/10/2014 11:42

Go in and share the love, sorry the bug with this knob.
I really hate this sort of thing. I think he should may be go on a fact finding mission to West Africa. too far?!?

JamaicanMeCrazy · 14/10/2014 11:57

What annoys me at my work is because we get disciplinary action for having more than one sickness within 6 months, my boss comes in when he has the lurgy and infects the whole staff, then we all get into trouble when we are too sick to work.

I work with vulnerable adults (primarily with adults with learning disabilities who often also have underlying health conditions like heart problems) and so if I am unwell, I am not able to support them properly, and may also make them dangerously I'll Hmm

Yanbu

Catzeyess · 14/10/2014 12:25

I once worked somewhere where someone kept taking time off for horrible migraines, boss was a completely twat about it until after not hearing from him for 3 days found out they had been admitted to hospital with a brain tumor.

Thankfully the collegue is doing well as it was operable- boss learnt his lesson! I have never seen someone look so guilty when he told everyone at work after most of us had heard him ranting about colleagues laziness.

(Obviously extreme example)

cherrybombxo · 14/10/2014 12:31

Urgh, what an absolute tosser. Definitely lick his cup and cough all over the receiver of his phone while you're at it.

DealForTheKids · 14/10/2014 12:33

Oh, yes - ForTheLove has it. Laxatives in the tea and then 'oh no, you must be suffering with the same D&V virus I had! You poor thing. Do you think you should go home? '.

Of course, this is all said in jest as the above would be very very naughty and somewhat illegal.

Oldraver · 14/10/2014 12:42

I was talking to a friend last week who works for an employer my OH would of like to work for. She was telling me they were shit employers.

I told her about our last contact with person that works for that company, and how he was sacked after two lots of illness including pneumonia. She replied a worker with cancer (who has had very little time off) has been warned that anymore days off will result in disciplinary being sacked

Yes some bosses are shit

Original poster
catgirl1976 · 14/10/2014 13:27

Readers, I licked it. Grin

That's his weekend taken care of.....

Shock about the poor person with cancer being threatened with a disciplinary :(

OP posts:
MissYamabuki · 14/10/2014 13:59

Oooh cat Grin
Marking place

treaclesoda · 14/10/2014 14:07

Oldraver I also used to work for a company that sounds similar. They applied disciplinary action for absence with no regard to the individual circumstances. Car accident and lying in hospital for weeks with a broken back? Heart attack? Cancer? Here, let's aid your recovery with a disciplinary hearing. And we'll call it a hearing, but actually, if you're still in hospital and too ill to attend we'll do it without you. And even if you do attend, there is nothing you can say that will change our minds on the matter anyway.

As far as the HR dept were concerned, there was no such thing as genuine illness, only shirking. They said we had a responsibility to our employer to 'manage our health' , whatever that was meant to mean Hmm

HamishBamish · 14/10/2014 14:14

YANBU, what a prat! If he does get it, make sure you come back and tell us.

QuietNinjaTardis · 14/10/2014 14:16

Having just read the thread I am now marking my place to make sure your boss does indeed get very ill. I hope you're feeling better cat girl.