to be really miffed and maybe a little offended at this fussy eater?

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Ironic given my NN (which is taken from an annoying comment my own mother made once) .. I actually can't believe this happened.
DD2 has always been a fussy eater. I'm against using sweets as a bribe and we don't usually do it, but today I commented that we wouldn't be having ice cream unless we (each) had eaten a healthy meal. I had made a (very lovely IMO) veg lasagne with greens, pesto, nice and creamy, mild... all flavours she likes except the greens.
She was giving it a go, reluctantly, and she ate a bit and then she started doing this theatrical-seeming gagging thing. So I said to take small bites etc. And she ACTUALLY VOMITED a bit of it back up.
Now, my mother is, shall we say, not interested in cooking and has come up with some really humdingers in her day but I NEVER actually hurled anything back up just because I didn't like it. DD is 3 1/2 and is otherwise well. No vomit bugs etc; ate some carrots, nuts and eventually a few bites of ice cream no problem.
DH loved the lasagne. DD1 (6) thought it was OK. It was BY NO MEANS revolting. And, childish though it is, I am actually kind of a little offended. Talk about all the efforts of mothering going down the drain. Hmph.

I'm just posting my experience.

I had the reputation of a fussy child. Actually looking back I wasn't. I was the best of the three of us at trying things, and ate a wider variety than either of the others, who weren't given that reputation.

But I had two hates: Brown bread and mashed potato.
Problem was my dp thought that white bread had no business existing and all hot meals (except fish and chips) were not complete without mashed potato. We even had fish fingers with mash. My df in particular believed you had to eat these to stay healthy.

So every meal time I sat down with these food stuff which I loathed. Dm found fairly early on that saying "eat it or go hungry" didn't work-my appetite goes very quickly if I don't eat, so I can go a very long time without eating anything. So I wasn't given that option.

The issues I have are:
Mashed potato is the texture. Made worse by the occasional lump.

Bread is a funny one. I don't like it soggy with water. I can quite happily dip it in egg or soup, but water sends me retching. In fact just thinking about it then has made me retch. Problem is bread in your mouth goes soggy, then I retch, and even am sick on many occasions.
I can now cope with white bread, but the look or smell of brown bread sends me retching. When I'm ill (or pregnant) the first thing I go off is all bread.

I remember one particular time when I had a pickled onion on the side of my plate. Turned it over and there was one crumb of bread underneath soaked in the vinegar. Was suddenly and dramatically sick over the table. Dm was convinced I must have a bug, and no amount of explaining convinced her. One crumb!

I am perfectly aware this is totally Psychological, and I'd love not to have the issue. I find it very embarrassing. It also leaves me hungry on many occasions when I've turned up and all there is on offer is shepherds pie or brown bread.

Interestingly although I have been very careful not to say anything in front of the children. They all loved mashed potato-I don't often make it, so it's a huge treat. I can make it without retching now, which at one point I couldn't. Dh has to wash the pan out though, can't cope with that. But my oldest (who's 13yo) has started saying she doesn't like bread in packed lunches because "the bread is soggy". Which was exactly my issues.

My DS (10) needs strong tastes, he hates bland food, everything has to be rich or spicy. Therefore he dislikes potatoes, plain veg and a lot of the other things children are supposed to like such as fish fingers, sausages, roast dinners, any sort of plain British food in fact but loves curries, pasta with rich sauces, couscous, stir fries, Chinese food and will happily have veg incorporated in those. He won't eat mild cheese but snacks on lumps of Parmesan, feta etc, loves marmite. It can be very frustrating (especially as DD prefers traditional British type foods) but it has it's upsides, there are hardly any sweets that he'll eat either.

I can remember being so upset over being made to eat liver - I was sent to the kitchen to eat it (away from everyone else) because I was crying - it went cold - I still had to eat it

I got so upset I hit the plate with my hand - it broke - I cut my hand and bled on it - it was replated and put back in front of me - blood and all

I ended up stuffing it down the drain in the yard

forcing people to eat food is not nice

whoknows, lumps of parmesan? costly and very salty, but no worse than crisps I guess.

It sounds like he has been encouraged and cheered on in his likes for spicy/salty "grown up" foods, and his dislikes of "plain food".

I imagine him to be a difficult kid to have over for tea then, or is he o.k. with a bottle of chilli sauce with his fish fingers ? (that is what my DS does)

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So wrong Chandon, so wrong. It would make my life much, much easier if he ate a wider range of foods, for example there is nothing on a standard cafe menu that he will eat. Luckily his friends' parents are very understanding of his SNs and will happily provide pizza and pasta when he comes round.

chandon, SPD can make childrens eating habits a bit strange, its a mixture of both texture and taste issues, both with the mouth and the hands.

my ds tends towards crunchy and fairly bland. he likes toast, biscuits, pizza, pasta, well cooked chips, but won't touch yogurt, puddings, soups...etc

he wont entertain fruit and veg to even taste them because he objects to the way they feel in his hands.

WhoKnows lads preference for more spicy food is another side of SPD

I had not heard of SPD, curious now.

O.k., just googled it.

Interesting that I did not know, as DS1 had/has sensory issues since he was a baby.

Like I say, for him having a bottle of Sriracha chilli sauce to hand sorts the blandness problem of bland food.