To want a night in a hotel BY MYSELF

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DS is 2.3 and has never once slept through the night. He always wakes for at the very least a couple of hours screaming the place down. I can either go to him and take him into bed with me where he proceeds to wriggle and kick or put up with it which I can't do. DD manages to sleep through it. DP helps when hes here but works away half the week meaning he gets 3-4 nights a week of lovely blissful sleep.

AIBU to book a night in a hotel when DP is here, check in as soon as they let me, bath and then sleep until breakfast?

Sometimes friends talk about their fantasy lives - they talk about cocktails on Barbados or cruises or marrying a billionaire and all I can think is that I'd like an undisturbed nights sleep.

Do it. You sound like you need a bit of time out.

Nice hotel, room service, bubble bath, glass of wine, film.

Do it. Goodness knows I've been very close to doing so myself over the years!

But research hotels thoroughly first and make sure you get a totally child and party unfriendly one so you don't get disturbed! I can't think of anything worse than paying a lot of money to sleep in a strange bed and get no better sleep than at home..

.. either that or invest in some serious high quality earplugs just in case!

Do it. I have a 2.8month old DS who has never slept through but fortunately his wakings are just interruptions and he's usually back asleep within 10mins. Even my DH, who generally thinks I'm robust enough to weather anything, has offered me a night in the premier inn a couple of times and I've missed nowhere near as much sleep as you. Do it. You need to look after yourself too!

I know you want to go by yourself but can I come?

I know you want to go by yourself but can I come?

ahh yes, bliss.

Go for it! Trashy magazines/novel, box of chocolates, bath bomb/bubbles, new pjs, and snuggle into those clean cool sheets, and "sleep the sleep of the just" undisturbed all night.
Then have a lovely breakfast and you'll be all refreshed and raring to go again.
(And DS will sleep through eventually, honestly, even if it feels like he never, ever, will! )

amazing idea, there should be a MN Hotel. Dinner made, glass of wine, fresh cotton sheets, silence. aaah.

I don't think one night is enough - I prescribe you two nights.

I agree with others. Make sure it's the most child/baby unfriendly hotel EVER. the sort of place people on here would probably start a thread to complain about!

Sleep deprivation is a bastard. I remember it well

DO IT...DO IT ASAP x And forget to charge your phone too.

Oh I hear you! I lost my Bora Bora fantasy year ago. Now it's a night alone in a Holiday Inn Express. ;-)
Just wondering if it would help to have a sort of camp type bed or floor mattress/futon type thingy in your bedroom for LO... just to get you guys through this stage (it is a stage...a long one, but LO will outgrow it).

*years

Having just spent half an hour with screeching DS (10 mths and teething) I say DO IT!!!!

Put the Do Not Disturb sign on the door so you don't get woken by housekeeping
When you check in, ask if it's a quiet room. Ideally on a high floor and at the back of the hotel is usually quieter.

YANBU OP. In fact I think that you spending a night in a hotel on your own would be the most reasonable thing you could do at the moment, given your personal circumstances.

Do it. Do it for yourself. Do it for your family. You would be unreasonable not to OP, and you know it.

Do it! I did just that a few months ago. I had a toddler and a six month old and was worn out. DH got me a night in a hotel by myself for my birthday. It was bliss! The silence, the lovely big bed, cups of tea drunk in peace and quiet. Worth every penny. Enjoy!

Sounds like a lovely idea. Something I fantasize about when I'm kept awake by my DC. Definitely not unreasonable in the slightest!

YANBU

do it.

I have done this in the past. For your own sanity and relaxation, you cannot be criticised. I've booked myself in to a hotel, done a couple of museums and art galleries and then gone back to the hotel to watch crap tv, have a long uninterrupted bath, watch more crap tv with a couple of G and T's and fallen into a blissful sleep ready to face the world. Give yourself a break.

What a brilliant idea - sounds like you need it!

But is there anything you can do on an ongoing basis? Like, say, one night a week - maybe when your DP doesn't have to work the next day - could you agree to make it his responsibility to get up and see to DS? And is there anything left you haven't tried (or tried recently) to help your DS sleep through? Even like putting him to bed later, getting him up earlier, cutting out/down any daytime nap, taking him for a jog round the park early evening?

Sounds lovely! Do it! But I agree two nights would be better ;)

My ds is 14 weeks and I had my first night out on Saturday with friends... I spent the week before it looking at local hotels thinking I would just do that instead but they were all out of my price range but it is on my to do list and when I do it I plan to be there as soon as I can check in!

writer you can come with me if you like

Yanbu.
I often fantasise about this.

Would love to do that!