Aibu to feel a bit hurt and left out?

[MsMarvel]

Last year myself, sil, mil Dniece and Dsd went to a show. It was a lovely evening.

Just found out that they have all booked tickets to go again this year. But not invited me.

I don't want to mention it to anyone, not even dp, because I'm probably being petty, and it's a nice thing for them all to do together as family, but I can't help feeling really hurt that I wasn't included as part of the family outing.

but it sounds like it was a bit of a pressure from dh invite last year so yeah i can see it as a one off

They are being thoughtless by going on about it in front of you when you were not invited. I think you need to find out what's going on or the worry and resentment could have a lasting effect on your relationship with them. Ask if they are upset with you and why they didn't invite you, maybe they just didn't think. Or talk to your DH about it if you don't feel comfortable talking to them .

I hope this is a misunderstanding on their part and have not intentionally left you out. I wouldn't dream of leaving my sil out of plans, afaic, in laws are my family too. I think perhaps id drop into conversation how much you had enjoyed it last year and gage their response, perhaps the penny will drop that they forgot to ask you. Is there anyone else you could go with? X

I spoke to dp about this last night. And apparently mil did ask me if I wanted to go with them.

It was apparently as we were leaving dp's grans house and I was rounding up children and shoes and jackets and putting toys away etc etc so it is very likely that she asked me and it totally went out of my mind!

And now I feel bad because I apparently told her that I would check my shifts and get back to her, and obviously never did!

It sounds like a genuine misunderstanding then op.

ooops

I know, I'm mortified! I'm going to need to speak to mil and apologise...

Oh no! In a way I'm glad there is an explanation for this which fits in with how you view your in laws normally. Apologise to MIL, explain you'd totally forgotten about the conversation and apologise for never getting back to her about it. Perhaps say you'd love to go if they decide to go again next year. And use the evening without DSD to have a lovely evening out with your DH instead :)

Yeah as much as I'm embarrassed about not getting back in tough, I'm so relieved that it wasn't a deliberate slight, and that they do actually seem to like me after all :)

Glad to hear it, what a nice resolution :)

I know, I'm mortified! I'm going to need to speak to mil and apologise...

Oh dear, I hope there's no chance of her having seen this thread. Is there one somewhere about YOU, the ungrateful DIL who sees family trips as beneath her? LOL

Glad that's all it is!

Arf! Easily done.

I'm glad they like you after all.
:)