To get fed up with my 11 year old cousin constantly texting me?

[HarlowTulip]

About 2 year ago my 11 year old cousin and her mother asked for my mobile number. She had just got her first phone and it was a novelty.

She has recently got a more advanced phone and the text of "hi" every other day is starting to get on my nerves so much. Once I replied hi and have a good weekend and she said you too - 10 minutes later she texts me hi but on whatsapp!

Aibu I'm 25 and have nothing in common with a 12 year old and I'm getting pretty annoyed now with how constant it is, aibu?

Oh my god I have a cousin who does this. She is 21 though! I seriously find it such hard work. Its via FB Messenger too so she cam bloody well see that ive opened her message.

"Hi"
"Hi how are you?"
"fine"

raaaaar.....whats the fucking point!?! seventeen times a month!

Can you block her number and then if and when they call you up on it just say "oh I think my phone is faulty"

Do you always reply straightaway? Just leave it for a few hours - then she will realise that you aren't available at all times to text.

Wow. Your 12 year old cousin texts you "Hi" every other day and you describe this as "constant". She's your family, she probably really looks up to you.

How about a "How's school going?" text. Or would that be too much trouble? Poor kid.

Your a bit mean, she obviously likes you and looks up to you.
It must be a pain but she'll get fed up eventually and the txts will stop.

Maybe I should stop sending my 16 year old nephew txts. He takes days to reply :(

i have a similar set up with my niece. every day... how many kids have you had today (im a cm)

i feel like telling her to mind her own business.... but i dont.... i ask her about school and her friends etc. usually after two or three exchanges of i love you she goes.

TBH when the frustration wears off i feel quite honoured

Enjoy it now, when she's a teen you'll be yesterday's news. :)

I get what you're saying.

My FIL does this and it irritates me. It's not that he texts it's just always the same thing and same dead end formalities. I ask a question of what he did to make it open ended and I get "Not much" or "It's ok".

We never actually talk about anything though.

I'm not mean. It's literally every 2-3 days saying -

Hi - I like being random

Am I suppose to ask how school is 3 times a week?

Yes you are mean - poor kid.

My niece does this and I love it. It shows me how important I am
To her. She sends I love you stickers and voice recordings on Viber. Love from a child is special IMO so YABU.

Honestly your miss it when it's gone :( spoke to my friends daughter (who I have looked after for 8 years) and is like my little sister - last two years of texts/what's app/snap chat/FB at least one of those every day and havnt heard a peep for about a month :(

She's a little girl!

It's not often! She might only have a few numbers on her phone. Maybe she doesn't have a huge circle of friends to text.

Yabu.

Yabu and really mean. Maybe she wants someone to talk to or looks up to you.

Meanie.

The OP is allowed to be frustrated by this, you know.

Mean would be if she actually said or did anything to DN about it and made her feel bad.

You lot are so holier than thou.

Are you meant to ask about school 3-4 times a week?

Yes she clearly wants to talk to you. It's just the same as asking an adult how work was! You do have something in common she's your cousin ask about her family, their your family too.

I agree however she might not have a great deal of friends and she clearly looks up to you. Maybe set a day that you have a text chat it might mark her week.

Make rather than mark her week

She's a child, don't be such a fucking brat.

She's only being nice bless her.

What trolls said, you sound horrible

I had this when my brother was younger. Copy and paste some jokes into a note. Then send them to her one at a time. Gives a nice exchange, then say you have to do some work and say bye.

Maybe she has worries/problems she sees you may help her with and identify with.

You are fairly young and so to her like a big sister.

She might need you more than you think.

A few friend it texts a day won't kill you will it?

For the record, I still text my brother all the time. He's just a bit older and chattier now!

Awww, is it really such an effort to text her 3 x a week? She'll be a teen soon, and have lots of friends to text. Just say...hi! You ok? Have a short convo, job done, literally 5 minutes may make all the difference at what can be a difficult age.

Aww, she'll get bored soon. My brother is on facebook now - that's tedious! And depressing, he's 12 and all he posts is lame jokes with swearing and boob pictures. I keep dropping hints to my dad and stepmum but they don't really seem to care.

My sister is 9 and pops up on skype all the time saying "Hi" and then not saying much else.

It's kind of annoying but it's true that it's laying a foundation for the rough ride ahead - whether you want to be there for that or not I don't know. If you do then it's probably an idea to reply, but don't reply straight away, give the illusion that you're busy. A bit like dating