To get fed up with my 11 year old cousin constantly texting me?

[HarlowTulip]

About 2 year ago my 11 year old cousin and her mother asked for my mobile number. She had just got her first phone and it was a novelty.

She has recently got a more advanced phone and the text of "hi" every other day is starting to get on my nerves so much. Once I replied hi and have a good weekend and she said you too - 10 minutes later she texts me hi but on whatsapp!

Aibu I'm 25 and have nothing in common with a 12 year old and I'm getting pretty annoyed now with how constant it is, aibu?

I had a cousin who did this and it drove me mad. In the end I spoke to her parents and said this is weird, please ask her to stop. It really reduced the amount she text me. She still did it occasionally but I just started ignoring more of them and she soon stopped.

YABU,. Send her cute cat pictures or something

Aww, I think it’s sweet. It wouldn’t annoy me if the texts were only every 2/3 days. If they were every day it might grate a little, but I think you’re being really mean and quite horrible.

Why don’t you ask her about school, about what she’s been going, if she’s been anywhere nice, what her summer plans are? It only takes a few mins and might make her day.

Try thinking about other people and not only yourself - it can bring a lot of joy into your life you know.

My niece was like this when she first had a phone - if I didn't reply immediately she'd message again & again - I let her know I was busy at work (I was) & she still didn't stop so I let her dad (my DB) know & he had a word with her.

I then had a few messages apologising for disturbing me but it all settled down

I'm with you, OP, I'd find this really irritating and would just ignore her. It's not mean, she isn't her parent, as a young woman she shouldn't be expected to take on the parental role here. I chose not to have kids for a reason, and much as I adore the kids in my family I don't want a parental role with them but to give them back once the fun is over!

I'd entertain her with brief texts back. She only wants to reach out and use her phone, at 12 she'll have no one else to chat to. She'll leave you alone eventually when more of her mates get access to phones. Don't you remember getting your first phone and being a nuisance? Come on OP, time to be an adult.

OP, try playing a game with her instead. There’s Wordle but also global game (guessing a country) and nerdle (simple maths equations). Then you could have a little daily game as contact instead of ´Hi’ with no real conversation happening

This is a ZOMBIE THREAD from 2014

I doubt that this is an issue for the OP anymore.

I get similar every day from each of my parents. It's a nice low level way to stay in touch and show you're thinking of each other.
12 is a really hard age. Can you send back funny GIFs or memes that might entertain her?

I wonder if the txts are still arriving

Meanie!!

It'd do my head in too! But I'd embrace it, ask her if school is ok, give her a bit of advice, that kind of thing, but only respond every couple of days to set a precedent. It's probably really important to her!

My 11 year old niece texts me similar and I think it’s nice . I’m glad to have a good relationship with her

Chocosnaps You sound just a wee bit highly-strung.

The cousin is now 19 and presumably has absolutely no interest in texting boring old OP any more.

ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD

I remember this thread from the first time round 😊 Wonder how little cousin’s texts have evolved.

Little cousin must be 19 now
("Those were the days my friend, we thought they'd never end 🎵🎶")

Little cousin must be 19 now
("Those were the days my friend, we thought they'd never end 🎵🎶")

She is a kid, family, and obviously admires you. Just grit your teeth and put up with it. It's not like she's calling every half hour demanding a conversation.

It’s every couple of days, not every hour! Yeah that does make you mean, she’s a kid! Just put her on mute if you’re so bothered by the inconvenience of someone thinking of you and saying hello every now and then. God help you if you have any real problems one day.

I would.

Same my messages go unanswered for days....

Surely it took more time to make a thread about this than to just respond?