To get fed up with my 11 year old cousin constantly texting me?

[HarlowTulip]

About 2 year ago my 11 year old cousin and her mother asked for my mobile number. She had just got her first phone and it was a novelty.

She has recently got a more advanced phone and the text of "hi" every other day is starting to get on my nerves so much. Once I replied hi and have a good weekend and she said you too - 10 minutes later she texts me hi but on whatsapp!

Aibu I'm 25 and have nothing in common with a 12 year old and I'm getting pretty annoyed now with how constant it is, aibu?

It may be annoying but every couple of days isn't "constant" so I think YABU.

My 7 year old niece does this - sometimes at very odd times of day!

I like it. I'm her Auntie and I want her to know I'm interested in her life, that I love her and that I am there for her if she ever needs someone other than her Mum or Dad.

My YD is 10 and has her first phone. She texts my Mum, her uncles, and a family friend because it's all the numbers she has. Her credit willbe gone soon and it will go quiet again for everyone!

I came looking for an answer on how to deal with this (not whether I'm being unreasonable cos I know myself enough to know I don't care what ppl think of that) cos I'm being incessantly msged by my 11yr old nephew. I let this child know I cannot msg everyday but it didn't work. My dad gave him my number and for 7months every single day it's been "hi" "fine" rinse and repeat every day. I don't even msg my friends everyday, I don't even speak to my siblings everyday (we love each other but don't have things to discuss daily). I don't even want to be on my phone everyday. I'm not the kind of person who talks a lot to anyone, and have tried to make exceptions for this child for 7months but I can't do it anymore. I didn't reply for 2 days and got bombarded with msgs one after the other and got asked to explain why I didn't talk for 2days. Because I need a break? Is that ok, child, geez. I didn't give my dad permission to hand my number out and now I have to talk in a way I never do with anyone because ppl know I'm not the talkative type and don't enjoy being msged daily by literally anyone. I'm an introvert who finds these kinds of things intrusive and energy-vampiric.

I just wanted to say no you're not being unreasonable. I wouldn't have even asked that question. If you don't want a child (who's not even yours) messaging you incessantly and relentlessly you have a right to feel that way. They are your feelings. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you into their moral high ground, and don't let them make you feel bad for not wanting to message the same pointless thing several times a week. Let these holier-than-thou morons call you mean even tho you've not said anything mean, you just cannot indulge the pointless daily msgs with someone elses child, and you shouldn't be forced to communicate just because you are blood related like you had any choice in the matter. And as for ppl telling you "you're supposed to massage how's school 3 times a week" No. No you're not "supposed" to do anything. And you'll be fine when the pointless "hi" "fine" messages finally find another target. You'll be relieved. And next time don't even bother asking aibu. Because no, you're not.

Finola1step · 02/10/2014 22:11
Wow. Your 12 year old cousin texts you "Hi" every other day and you describe this as "constant". She's your family, she probably really looks up to you.”
How about a "How's school going?" text. Or would that be too much trouble? Poor kid.”

This. Grow up.

You might not be unreasonable to be annoyed by your nephew messaging you, but you are definitely unreasonable dragging up a thread from 2014!

Hey @HarlowTulip, is your 19 or 20 year old cousin still texting you every other day?

My 9 yr old niece did the same when Facebook had its kids messenger thing. She it bored eventually and I couldn’t always respond right away. I thought it was cute so didn’t mind

ZOMBIE THREAD

I think every 2-3 days is nothing for a relative, and yes I think you are being quite mean given it would be 10 seconds of your time.

How hard is it to send a text? Just send a nice emoji or something, to recognise she exists.

Oh yes!

You’re well grumpy 😆

You're so lucky. I barely know my cousins who are all older than me and really regret it now. Just a few minutes of you time every now and then to ask about school, family etc. She could be looking for advice or just a chat.

So you literally have to look at a word on your phone every couple of days? Don’t reply and yes, you sound horrible.

You sound horrible. A short exchange 3x a week is not that much of a burden - she’s only a kid. Ask her how she is, send a joke or an emoji and then say you’ve got to get back to work. It’s not that hard.

Ahh zombie. Sorry, was fooled by it being a short thread.

Let these holier-than-thou morons call you mean

@Chocosnaps first you drag up an eight year old post, rather than start one yourself, then you throw in a side helping of uncalled for bitchiness on top.

Happy Tuesday to you too!

2-3 times a week is hardly texting all the time. Just reply or don’t reply if your busy, she will soon get fed up with it.

I was about to say exactly this. DS1 is coming up 11. He messages friends and family 'hi' and then gives one word replies, if he replies at all. His friends are the same. You should see the Y6 chat, they basically all just talk but no-one has a conversation.

You're 25. So I'm guessing you had a phone at a similar age. Do you remember how you used yours?

If it bugs you, just mute her on WhatsApp and don't reply. But personally I think that's a bit mean. She's not engaging you in long debates. Send her a GIF in response. I do it with DS and he thinks they're hilarious.

A young cousin saying hi 3 times per week isn't constant. Just send an emoji or cute gif back. It will take less time than starting a thread about her.

This. I had the same when the child of a friend of mine was about the same age. They do grow put of it and you miss it when it ends.

i message my ds regularly and wonder if he hates it
god at least she is not actually phoning you!
it is a harmless text
she will forget about you soon enough op

oh Zombie

is this still going on op? @HarlowTulip

zombie

Emojis and gifs are your friend.

Lets hope now OP is 33, that she's become more tolerant 😉