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Stopping my sons father from seeing my son

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:21

I have stopped contact with my child's father as on Sunday he refused to give him back to me due to me asking for his partner to remove pictures on social networking sites due to peodofiles the police we're called and would do nothing to help me as he has fathers rights I got him back after me having to agree to him having him normally I'm to scared to let him go back as I don't think he'll give me him back am I being unreasonable? Any comments welcone

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TeracottaTurtle · 01/10/2014 23:23

How long did he refuse to return him for?

Seabright · 01/10/2014 23:27

Well, I'd say you are both in the wrong here.

Firstly you were over-reacting. Unless these were naked photos of your son, why do you think paedophiles will be seeking them out? If it's Facebook are you certain that your ex is friends with paedophiles? If not, are these photos going to get into some unknown paedophile's hands (and I'm not even going to start on the ridiculousness of the "paedo around every corner" school of thought)

And he was wrong to refuse to give your son back.

I assume he did give him back in the end? How late? Under what circumstances?

Janethegirl · 01/10/2014 23:27

Courts??

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:31

He only had him for an hour and a half but was threatening to keep him full time

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starlight1234 · 01/10/2014 23:32

Think this is going to be far more complex than the short paragraph..

Did you ask or demand?

I think how late. If there is a genuine reason he may not return you can go to court.

WorraLiberty · 01/10/2014 23:34

Was your child naked in the pics?

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:34

It was an email off Facebook issuing warnings over peodofiles taking children's pictures and putting them on an illegal website police by mine have had a few case of this as I was told by the police who was there on sundry I don't think I'm over reacting alls I want to do is protect him I must say as well I've had to fight tooth and nail to get him to see him as much a he does but I can't risk my baby being taken away from me

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:35

I asked him nicely and his reply was just no I'm not returning him

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Nicknacky · 01/10/2014 23:36

I am lost. What is the problem with the pictures?

WorraLiberty · 01/10/2014 23:36

Facebook don't send emails like that. It sounds like a hoax.

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:37

I do not know anything about his partner or her background my son often tells me she's been a naughty girl and smacked his bum? He is only 2 and a half but regularly comes back to me saying this so of course has got me wary of her she is in 20yrs old herself

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Mrsstarlord · 01/10/2014 23:38

What Worra said.

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Sarahclark123 · 01/10/2014 23:39

I did say I wasn't bothered about pictures amid them all together just didn't want any up of him on his own

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Nicknacky · 01/10/2014 23:40

So you have stopped contact because your ex partner had photos of his child on facebook then kept him an hour longer than agreed?

Mrsstarlord · 01/10/2014 23:40

Why?

WorraLiberty · 01/10/2014 23:41

Look you need to sort this out with a solicitor.

You can't just go stopping contact on a whim or the tales of a 2yr old.

You say you 'can't risk your baby being taken away' from you, but that's exactly what you're doing to his Dad, so no wonder he didn't want to hand him back.

For the sake of all concerned, you need legal advice.

WineWineWine · 01/10/2014 23:46

Why are group pictures OK but pictures on his own, not OK?
You two need to communicate like grown ups because your son needs his father in his life.

XxMummysarahxx · 01/10/2014 23:47

I have taken legal advice and the solicitor seems to agree with me not only has he never really been there for my son without a push he had a agreement set up by his solicitor that he broke I'm actually offended that u as mum don't worry for the safety of ur children on social networking sites. he has carried on mentally abusing me for the past 2 years constantly putting me down as a mother I am a very good mum and have done it in my own my child is well mannered pleasant and clean at all time he goes to his dad and doesn't give him the right diet

XxMummysarahxx · 01/10/2014 23:48

I want nothing more for my son to see his father but it has to work both ways I agree to things he puts to me he should have respect for my wishes

Nicknacky · 01/10/2014 23:49

Why have you name changed mid thread and if you have taken legal advice why post asking here? None of us know the story!

But no, I don't particularly worry about a photo my child on social media. Out of interest, have you ever posted a pic online of him?

WorraLiberty · 01/10/2014 23:51

I'm actually offended that u as mum don't worry for the safety of ur children on social networking sites.

You can be as offended as you like that I don't make knee jerk reactions to hoax emails, but that doesn't change anything.

Spectacular name change fail btw.

XxMummysarahxx · 01/10/2014 23:54

I'm new to this this my first post I thought it was supposed to be an advice page not some we're we're people r bringing me down like I'm the worst person for wanting to protect my son I changed my name as it had my full name and looking at past post nobody has there full name up so I changed it I have had pictures up but have since delited everything snd even delited Facebook itself my problem is her page wasn't private so anybody could of looked at them pictures and it makes me sick to the stomach the thought of it

Spartak · 01/10/2014 23:56

If Sarah Clark is your real name, I'd be asking HQ to pull this thread.

XxMummysarahxx · 01/10/2014 23:56

I don't know what ur getting nasty for if u don't like it don't comment this is my son we're talking about if I feel he needs protecting I'll do that