To think it's rude to comment on someone's choice of name like this?

[ThatWasMean]

I don't know if it's just pregnancy hormones that are making me feel this way so I may well be being unresonable and probably quite silly but I thought I'd ask anyway.

I'm expecting a baby girl and me and DH have already picked the name out for her. It's not a common name and in fact has never been a popular name in the UK, however it was fairly popular in the US at one point. Even though it's unusual I wouldn't say it was unheard of and it's certainly not weird or out there by any stretch of the imagination.

However there have been a couple of occasions where we've told people what we're going to name her and they've just outright said "that's a horrible name!" .

I get that it's their opinion and everybody has names they don't like. There are lots of names I don't like however I realise that other people do like them and I would never dream of telling someone that I think it's an awful name if that's what they were going to name their baby. I would just smile politely and nod.

I should add we haven't had all negative comments, there have been lots of lovely reactions too but I was just surprised that people felt the need to tell us they think it's horrible after we tell them that's what we're naming her.

Would you tell someone if you thought their chosen name was horrible?

Could it be Amity?

I shortlisted it when I was pregnant and EVERYONE hated it. People were delighted when I found out I was having boys!

Tabitha?

Gah, stop guessing people! Nobody here has guessed correctly . I'm pretty sure it's not the name of a sports team or a place name though and if it is I obviously missed that fact.

Tell us!!! Please?!

Don't tell anyone - I told one person who I don't know that well and she isn't connected to any of my friends or family and she screwed her face up and said 'urgh don't like it' - I told her she'd asked and I'd told her - not invites opinion but it really pissed me off - like I'm going to change it because she doesn't like it - and it's not at all weird - it's recently made it to into the top 100.

My PIL, DM and two of my SIL's know and they love it. I'm not telling anyone else - people keep asking and I've been just saying 'no' and more recently 'yes - but I'm not telling anyone' - this is great by the way for annoying people.

I think it's just rude - I've heard some shockers lately to be honest and there are certain names very popular at the moment that make me cringe but I always manage to say 'ah - how lovely' - maybe I'm false but unless someone says 'what do you think of.....' before the baby is born I really don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

Which is why you should never tell anyone the name before they're born! And personally I think it also spoils the surprise. I like having things to announce.

Really want to know the name!

OP - sorry, it must have been another person then, that came from a thread about a month ago, and for the record my guess on that one was "Chelsea."

OP, come on! I've been lurking silently on this thread for ages, now, hoping you'll cough it up!

Go on, we won't tell anyone...

When pregnant you should insist that you are calling your baby Brenda or Keith in order to get people to froth about those names and leave you in peace to muse over James, Amelia, Kai and Bunny-Mae-Bae.

People can't help but give their opinions where children are concerned. Be it 'that child needs a smack' or 'a Gregg's sausage roll in a buggy? YOU FUCKING CHILD ABUSER' etc. Get used to it and learn to tune it out.

PS Is it Marylin? Minnie? Lucille?

Please tell us - I bet we'll like it. I like less popular names.

Maya? Riley? Brianna? Cadence? Dana? Alyssa? Kayla? Lorelei? Quinn?

Emmeline?

I am wondering if this is your first baby.

If so, gird your loins, as you are in for a long and bumpy ride. This business of rude comments about the name is just the start of it.

Every single decision a mother makes regarding her child is up for grabs, beginning with the name and including feeding, diapering, sleeping, equipment purchased, clothing, haircut and style, parenting style, books and toys purchased, and on and on and on.

Many of the commentators will be very upfront and will leave you in no doubt that they expect you to take what they say on board. Learn to let it all slide off like water from a duck's back.

You don't have to please anyone but yourself.

Utah Jazz

don't pay slightest bit of attention

was going to call one of my twins [likely po faced name of Cromwell's daughter]

Granny was aPPALLED

thought better of it, and changed it to [name of Biblical saucebox]

Mum was aPPALLED

if I'd listened to every other bastard, would have stuck with Twin One and Twin Two

Candida?

Dakota?

However there have been a couple of occasions where we've told people what we're going to name her and they've just outright said "that's a horrible name!"

Sounds like the baby names thread on here.

People giving their opinion even though you never asked for it and couldn't give a shiny shit of what they think.

Hannah Montana?

courtney , brittany ,Savannah ?

Harlie Rae?

But OP, we go wild with curiosity on a secret name thread. How can we not attempt a guess? (Its Brittany, isn't it )

Whatever the name is OP it only matters if you and your DH like it.

My second guess is Georgia, which is a really lovely name but then I am bias

You can tell me, OP. I have Australian relatives, so I am immune to odd unusual names. I really like it, because my name choices blend seamlessly into the family tree.

Ooh Gretchen and Emmeline are lovely though. Why would anyone hate those names.
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Is it Candy? Rio Grande? Courtenay?

It's your child so call her what the bloody hell you like.

However you do need to actually see to see your baby as you may change your mind

I had fixed on a name for dc3 but when we saw her it was completely wrong for her

Op I always find a 'oh fuck off dear' works on the rude ones

Honey boo boo?

Chardanney?