To think it's rude to comment on someone's choice of name like this?

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I don't know if it's just pregnancy hormones that are making me feel this way so I may well be being unresonable and probably quite silly but I thought I'd ask anyway.

I'm expecting a baby girl and me and DH have already picked the name out for her. It's not a common name and in fact has never been a popular name in the UK, however it was fairly popular in the US at one point. Even though it's unusual I wouldn't say it was unheard of and it's certainly not weird or out there by any stretch of the imagination.

However there have been a couple of occasions where we've told people what we're going to name her and they've just outright said "that's a horrible name!" .

I get that it's their opinion and everybody has names they don't like. There are lots of names I don't like however I realise that other people do like them and I would never dream of telling someone that I think it's an awful name if that's what they were going to name their baby. I would just smile politely and nod.

I should add we haven't had all negative comments, there have been lots of lovely reactions too but I was just surprised that people felt the need to tell us they think it's horrible after we tell them that's what we're naming her.

Would you tell someone if you thought their chosen name was horrible?

My DS and his partner wouldn't tell us or anyone else even the short list of names for their baby before birth -a wise policy I think.

I reckon it's either Randy or Dwayne. Possibly even Randy-Dwayne.

I know someone who named their child with a very different pronunciation but if you said it like it's written, it's diarrhea. No way to say it any other way except if you were told before hand. Why on earth would you do that to a child.

Why would you assume that someone telling you the name they have chosen is a request for feedback though?

Unless you ask them what they are calling the baby and they actually say "yes, we're calling it X, what do you think?" then I think the only feedback they are looking for is "oooh, lovely" even if you hate the name. It's not your name and not your baby, if they haven't asked for it outright then your poor opinion of the name probably isn't wanted.

Bree I was thinking Ashley too.

Depends entirely on the name tbh. I've seen some howlers suggested on the baby names board.

I LOVE the name Mercedes!!! OP, i want it to be this

What is it, what is it? I promise not to be rude.

What's wrong with Ashley?

Totally depends on the name. People don't have to like the name you've picked and if everyone you suggest it to either makes a comment or goes silent for 5 seconds before forcing out 'how unusual' then you should go away and think about what it would be like to be the child owning that name, especially when they are age 50 rather than at the cute baby phase

Agree with SaucyJack - the baby names board is always good for a laugh.

Is it Gretchen?

Sydney

You have to tell us the name, op

I thought Gretchen. I've had people sat it outright when I was pg, like no I'm not so keen on that! what about Francesca, that's a lovely name.

It really doesn't matter what other people think as long as you're sure.

Some names do make you think hmmm, but usually when you get to know the child you rethink your attitude to the name

Congrats by the way :)

I had a shop assistant do this to me when I was 38 weeks pregnant.

She asked me what i was calling him, I told her (Jamie) and she said:

"Oh i have a friend whose son is called that. When he grew up he said 'Mum why did you give me a puff's name.' So think about that."

I quite honestly couldn't find a single word to respond to that and just left the shop looking like this ->

I have smiled and complimented all manner of names that were completely not to my taste and I've had loads of rude comments in return.

It wouldn't do for everyone to like the same I suppose. But I do think its very off if you weren't asking for an opinion.

Maddison?

My sil said she didn't like our dd's name ( still bump) my response " well don't call your dd that then"

She went on to name her baby a name that has been top three for 8 years or so. ( she's common)

Sorry just lol at the Jamie comment there was a Jamie in my class who played with barbies.

How rude though. Did you call him Jamie?

We had a few people making bad comments about our short list. Then when dd was born and we'd named her we text dp's nan and she text back saying it wasn't her taste but she supposed she'd get used to it! My dp had to wrestle the phone off me so I didn't text back saying how fucking gracious of you! Baby hormones...

Have you posted about this before OP? I think I remember and I also think I know the name you picked (it's the name of a place as well as a sport's team correct?) I live in the States and it is more common here it's generally considered to be a pretty name. I think there is a definite difference in the UK in that the name has a different connection in people's minds. Ignore everyone and go with it if you like it. If you DD at some point doesn't like it she can use her middle name or something, don't worry so much about it, when she's here her name will seem more natural to people.

So rude! My mum wasn't keen on my DS's name when I first mentioned it now she's used to it she says she loves it!

My mum told all and sundry that she didn't like the name had chosen for ds!
We lived 4500 miles away at the time so I didn't have to deal with it and my sister told her she was being rude.
When we returned to the UK she said she thought the name was 'unusual'- I I said I know you don't like it but it's our choice so get over it!!!
She's never said anything since about it.
Ignore them your baby your choice!

OMG it's not Miami Dolphins is it?

Miami Dolphin's WOULD be upsetting - Seattle Seahawks! Now there's a name :)

Denver?

Its not Balonz is it? Or for a girl Balonza.