I don't want to identify myself but to put it simply, my f remarried a few times and always said when that he died that he and his wife would leave everything to each other. When the second one died, they would split their estate between their respective children.
He died first, she died next, very sad and painful for all the children. She died at the beginning of the year in another country and we have heard nothing about her (once their) will and who the executors are and who benefits.
I assume that means we are no longer beneficiaries. That is her prerogative of course but it does feel sad to be left out.
I can't go into details but there is enough left for it to matter, it's not like there's nothing left.
I would like to just let it go and move on but part of me thinks, they agreed equality and then she changed it to just mean her children.
A friend of mine once told me that this almost always happens, that the step parent redirects property to her own children. That is her right of course but it does feel harsh if you're one of the ones left out.
I'm interested in hearing what other people's experiences have been in this area of step families and wills. I wish them all well, I'm only feeling a bit sad about it.