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left home alone with baby on my birthday

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littlejolee · 24/09/2014 10:27

it's my birthday on saturday, and for the first time in five years it's on a weekend and i have it off. My problem is, my partner is leaving me alone all all day with our baby (nearly one) to help his sister move and isn't even taking me out anywhere or doing anything with me in the evening. Or the next day. Or the friday before. He said there was no point because i just complained that we weren't doing anything on the day. I did but only bc his sister has loads of friends who could help her move, he doesn't have to, but instead of spending my birthday with me he's spending it with her. Nevermind that i didn't even get a birthday last year (baby bday is v close to mine) or it's the first chance we've had to spend it together in years. I'm getting left at home alone with the baby, just like every other day of the last 12 months. i don't think it's fair and im really upset

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Alisvolatpropiis · 25/09/2014 20:19

What Muddle said.

Jessica85 · 25/09/2014 20:41

DP and I always celebrate birthdays, so I don't really know what it'd be like to not celebrate year after year. But if DPs sis was moving house on my birthday I'd expect him to offer to help without checking, and if he did ask my opinion I'd insist he help her. Moving house sucks, and I think it's worse in flats cos everything has to get upstairs.

Could you not compromise and go out on the Friday, or the following Saturday? SIL could even babysit as a thank you for his help.

maddening · 25/09/2014 20:55

If my brother had offered to help me move house on his partners birthday I'd have refused !

However it is totally his doing - I would just straight up say "please don't leave me on my birthday I want to do x,y and z - you need to understand that this is v important to me and your response will speak volumes so think about it "

maddening · 25/09/2014 20:56

Unless his dsis is escaping an awful situation in which case maybe do you bday on the sunday

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